Cuddles in instead of sex?

[Anonymous]

He can't finish and constantly wants cuddles instead of sex... is this odd?
I'm used to a highly sexual relationship, not this.

[Andres77]

I copied this from another response to someone else. It seemed somewhat applicable:
"It's not the act itself, it's the willingness to try.
I have ED due to an injury and Viagra doesn't fix it so, because I love my wife and I want to please her I found other ways. A thought popped into my head when I was first dealing with this... lesbians don't have dicks. Oral, fingers, toys, cucumbers carrots and zucchini (as long as you wash the pesticides off).
... We're calling handholding, kisses on the neck in the kitchen, kissing her on a public street "affection" and sexual contact "intimacy".
We need sex for intimacy. We do affection all day long."

Just because his junk doesn't work doesn't mean you should suffer. I'm not saying leave him or cheat. There are many alternatives to pleasing a woman. If he cares about you then he should try. Make it fun though. Not like he's got to do his homework again until he gets it right (which he does... but find a fun way to do it).

You love him and not just his dick, right?
Show him through patience. But... intimacy is a big fucking deal, pun intended. If he's not willing to even try... that's a major, bigger issue. If he gives up on your pleasure because he hasn't even considered other options what else is he going to give up on so easily throughout your future together?

Medical issues: at this age, assuming he's close to you in age, he should not have any issues with his dick. He needs to get checked out and maybe get a consult to Urology. Viagra might work for him. He might have some sexual trauma that he can't get past. I've dealt with all this shit. If my (third) wife didn't love me through the pain of my past that was affecting our new marriage we would have divorced and I never would have received the help I needed.

Your patience will show your love for now. He needs to face whatever he's dealing with. He needs to be willing to try. That's how he can show his love towards you right now.

And if you guys find a solution and marry and have kids, Andres is a good name for a boy.😉

I truly hope you both find what you need and have the courage to implement it.

[Anonymous]

Is he taking anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medication? Does he put lots of pressure on himself?

When I was younger, both of these things applied, and then with time I eventually got my sex drive and desire to finish back in check. Typically a young man should be willing to cum whenever he can.

[Asker]

He is putting a lot of pressure on himself. I dont think he is taking medication.

[Opinion Owner]

He's not letting himself enjoy the experience. His anxiety is probably overtaking his enjoyment and he just wants to escape the pressure. Not sure what can be done aside from reassurance, lightening the mood, or just patience.

[Asker]

Thank you, that was the most reassuring response I could think of.

[Josh4206]

He might just not like sex as much as some people.

[Asker]

I guess I didn't know that was a thing. Most girls think guys are sexual foremost. I feel like this is a bad way of thinking and puts pressure on guys whonarent

[NerdDG]

Is he older than you?

[Asker]

He is younger. I'm 27 he's 19. he's new to sex and is having trouble finishing.

[COMMODOREII]

That sucks 😂

[mr2inches]

Does he have trouble getting erections?

[Asker]

No that's pretty easy. He get hard and hot and heavy and it kinda dies out during sex

[mr2inches]

Happens to me too. I get very hard fast. Then a minute into sex it goes away

[Yellovv]

Not every guys are same, some of them have health issues..