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My boyfriend wants to watch me give another guy oral sex, is this weird?

I have been together with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. We have a good relationship and our sex life is also good. Lately he started to mention that it would turn him on if he could watch me as I give oral sex to another guy... I have idea what to do with this. I want to please him and to be honest i didn't say NO but said i would think about it. I just have no idea how we would get into a situation that this could even happen. Should i actually consider doing this? I am worried that it would cause problems after we made this happen. Any advice from someone who actually went forward with this?
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  • 1. If you're not completely comfortable with the idea, don't do it.
    No one should ever ever manipulate or force anyone to do anything that they don't want to do.
    2. IF you were willing... who's the guy? Is he STD free? Can you trust him not to cause trouble later? Is he going to try to flirt with you and also try to pressure you into something?
    3. I'd explore a lot. Some forums are so full of trolls but some people are full of experience. Patience, get more advice, and if you don't want to then don't.
    A few friends in the military years ago did this. I was pissed they did it when I was deployed but I watched the drama play out from the outside.
    The one guy in our group was married (bob). His wife was a sweetheart ( jill). Very funny and big heart. They had another friend (brad) over and they were drinking all weekend. Brad was too drunk to go home so he slept on the couch. Bob and Jill fucked pretty loud so Brad heard plenty. Brad mentioned that at breakfast. Jill was embarrassed. Bob felt proud I guess. They started drinking again. At some point they started watching movies, "Consenting Adults".
    Anyway, between the beer and sexual innuendo Bob suggested that Jill suck brad's cock. She didn't want to but more beer and more sex scenes and she gave in. Brad and Bob kinda turned into assholes. Brad expected blowjobs every time he came over. Bob was resentful, not at Brad but at Jill. Brad started coming over unannounced when he knew Bob was working. He wanted sex, not just oral. She never did it.
    Brad got hurt in a helicopter crash during training later that year. Brain dead, coma. Probably dead now. Bob and Jill had kids and I lost track of them.
    I came back from my deployment and Jill told me the whole story. I moved shortly thereafter.

    Anyway, bringing in a third person can be fun and make a great memory or it can bring disaster. It's all in the preparation and all parties need to be aware of expectations during AND AFTER! And don't just expect others to know what you're expecting, tell them. Be clear up front, otherwise they can always say "I didn't know".

    Is it just a blowjob? Are you on birth control? Is ur boyfriend trying to turn you into his own porn live action plaything? Is he paying off a debt by using your body? Is he secretly bi and is afraid to tell you? Motive is key in EVERY negotiation. Is he going to jack off while he watches you or fuck you during or after?

    And if you're not looking forward to sucking another cock... then don't do it. Don't let him pressure you... especially about something sexual that you don't want.

    Good luck.

    • Contacting an ex boyfriend that you still trust to cooperate and behave might be an option.

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  • Not something that I've ever done, but I've read increasing talk of it online in recent years. I'm kinda with you in suspecting it'd cause problems; just because you think "Oh, that'd be so hot" doesn't mean it'd be a good idea.

    Now, he may just be feeling you out to see if you're into (or if you'll do) some kinkier things, or he may have a fetish for humiliation. Or he may just want a visual of your oral technique (for obvious reasons, you can't get a good look when you're on the receiving end), though actually doing it is going kind of far for that. If you're ambivalent, or willing but hesitant, you could try getting a realistic dildo and making a show of giving it a blowjob; less potential for trouble there.

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  • It looks as if you have no self-esteem or pride, right?

    You are willing to give up the little decency that you have just to please a guy? Then go ahead and make his day while you will take all the risks associated with that deviance.

    Remember, once you have HSV type 2, you will never ever get rid of it. Not to mention that the risk of getting STD/STI is extremely high. But if you are willing to take all those risks just to please a person with no character and personality, then give it a try.

    Ah also, make sure that you don't catch feelings for the receiver of the treat. Your deviant boyfriend may blame you for that.

    • Thank you for your answer. I don't want to judge him like this. I mean, I know everybody has their sexual kinks I just don't know how i should respond to him. We have been together a long time and he is a very honest, sweet and respectable guy.. that's why i am confused. Of course I will not put myself at risk doing anything that is not safe.

  • Go with your comfort level. Do not do anything that makes you uncomfortable. It’s not weird. I don’t kink shame as long as all adults involved consent.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Yeah it’s pretty weird, it’s also degrading since he is using you to satisfy his fantasies without being considerate of your feelings!

  • Some people do have a cuckold fantasy. I couldn't ever see doing it though. My wife and I have been married 16 years and together for close to 20, and I've never wanted that or any type of threesome. Maybe I'm just afraid of being the jealous type, but something like that would be a relationship breaker for me (not the conversation about it, but actually doing it). Again, I'm not judging his fantasy because we are all different and that's cool. It just wouldn't be for me.

  • This is called a cukcold fantasy and more common that you might think. I have done this with a friends partner a few years ago and while a very enjoyable experience it did signal a change in our friendship and I have not seen them since.

  • Only you can make this decision. It is not up to your boyfriend. Do you think it might make him jealous? Will he want to watch you have sex with another guy after this? Do you know a guy that would want a bj with your boyfriend watching?

  • I think it's weird but if you like it, go for it!

  • From my point of view, it's weird.

  • I met a guy like that but he wanted to watch me suck and fuck his brother. It was hot and fun.

  • My girlfriend jacked-off another guy, while in her car. I asked her to do it but did not get to watch. She showed me the semen stains on a towel she used to cover his penis when he ejaculated. It is not an uncommon fantasy for men to have, just not that common for them to ask their wife or girlfriend to perform.

  • Why not just video you doing your boyfriend?

  • No, fairly commen

  • For a committed relationship, yeah, its destructive. Not just weird. Its destructive.
    It's a common fantasy for both genders to have a threesome, orgy, voyerism, etc. But in the end. only very few come out of that phase unscathed.
    I'm not judging, just laying out facts.

  • It's only weird if you don't feel like doing it or if you're only doing it to please him.

    • How that? Does your husband let you suck his friend's cock?

    • @Green96 what? I’m not talking about myself. I’m giving my opinion.

  • There is no normal. If you and your boyfriend are into it, go for it, but it's your mouth/body so you make the rules. If sucking off another guy is not appealing to you tell your boyfriend. A good guy will understand and respect your wishes. Should you decide to do it, be sure the guy isn't paying your boyfriend for you to do it, or that your boyfriend isn't repaying a debt with your sexual services. Also be sure no one is filming it and that your relationship with your boyfriend will not be ruined. For example, will your boyfriend be turned off kissing you if he knows you've swallowed another guy's cum?

  • Yeah I had g/f do this, as part of a threesome. It can be a hot sight, and if he likes it he may even want you to go further at some point. It can be a turn-on seeing someone you like pleasure someone else. I've always been open to multiple relationships and love so it's not weird.

  • As per my opinion this is not a good idea. What does he think you are a slut? Please excuse my language.

    He may ask anything to do when only you two are involved and that's fine but why should he even think you to give oral to some other guy and he wants to watch it.

    This is not normal!

  • Not at all, and if you're both okay with it then i say have at it

  • Definitely weird in my book. I would never consider doing it.

  • I'd say go for it but there's a catch your boyfriend would have to give the other guy a blow-job two. 💞

  • If you both are cool with that then sweet go out find a guy to join in and you don't know is best

  • Tell him you want to watch him do it first.

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