If someone said they were willing to participate but that the threesome was not their thing. Would you see this as consent?

[Anonymous]

Asking as I'm curious.

[JayMichigan616]

Not really. Consent isn't given until the 3 of you are in the same room negotiating terms and exchanging safe words. At most that's an open minded response and you can get more specific and ideally find a way to get them more excited or find out what they are fantasizing or what they are feeling reluctant about. I would not be comfortable with a partner or partners who answered like that. Personally I don't have any desire for a luke warm consent that she may regret immediately after. I've actually declined in bed after a less than enthusiastic consent.

[Asker]

Thanks for your point of view. I would feel the same about declining too.

[JayMichigan616]

I could be considered traditional and the best way to go about it is to communicate with the people that you are planning to invite into your bedroom. I am both serious about consent and I'm into girls who want me almost exclusively. I'm looking for signs and body language but the sexiest quality a girl can have is being upfront about what she wants and wanting me is a huge turn on. The last thing I want to do is chase a lost cause. I've been down that path and wouldn't want to put that anxiety on anyone. Uncertainty is worse than rejection. Red flag and borderline deal-breaker

[perfectchaos]

Consent is weird. Just because they don't like it doesn't mean they didn't consent. Let me explain. I had a girl that really wanted to do something that I was not very comfortable doing. I didn't want to do the thing. I still consented to the thing because I loved that girl. It's not black and white. We do things we don't want to do because we love that person. You should have a deeper conversation with them about it. Make sure you and them fully understand what they don't like and maybe make some rules about. Another thing is understand that they are giving up something for you and that may come back in ways you may not consent too.

[CriticalDiscourse]

Consent during something you don't desire is not true consent. You have to be enthusiastically willing.

[Asker]

Thanks. This is what I thought too.

[CriticalDiscourse]

I'm glad you did, a lot of women don't.

[SirJohn42]

Yea consent is when spoken as a group

[Anonymous]

Yes my girlfriend she asked me about it I said it wasn't really my thing but I'd be willing to give it a try