Do you think it is morally ok for people above 20s years old having sex with a person at 17?

[Anonymous]

So the age of consent is in many countries like 14-16 and therefore it would be legal. But do you think it is morally ok? I personally think it is ok for 17 years old having sex with 18-21 years old but it is weird when they have sex with 30 years old. I am asking since many people making a big deal that a woman in her EARLY 20s had sex with 17 years old, who was going to be 18 soon, in a movie called "emily in paris" . I personally dont understand the deal here. Like she was in her early 20s. They are accusing her for being a pedo and she even does not knew that the guy was 17. Like what the hell.

[Emii_Urashima]

Personally, I don't have any interest in guys who are in their late 20's, but I don't see a problem with it if the guy is under 28 or so. What amazes me is these comments about 17 year olds being a child. Western culture seems to keep raising the bar higher and higher as to the acceptable age for people to be sexual. I am sure that if you looked at your grandparents and great-grandparents, most of you will see that some were married and had kids by the age of 17. I don't recommend that, of course, but the point in, they were having sex and the culture back then was definitely not as sexualized as it is now. They probably had to figure out everything on their own. Still, they made it happen, and society did not trip out. We have much better options for birth control and condoms now. Also, teens are far more capable of practicing safe sex than those from a hundred years ago and teen girls know far more about sex than our grandparents ever did. Another thing to consider about what is "morally ok"... In your christian religion, the "virgin Mary" was most likely no older than 13 years old, if that. Joseph was probably in his mid-30's, at least. What labels would you apply to that couple by today's western standards?

[summiter]

Great answer!

[Anonymous]

No I think its okay for anyone 19 or under to have sex with a 17 year old, but anything older than 19 is weird because they're basically having sex with a child. I know some people might not agree with me but thats just how I see it.
But if the person was 18 they are an adult I know legally its ok for an 18 year old to date anyone at any age, but I think anything over 25 or 24 even would be weird.

[Barry88]

I don't see an issue, but I'm from a country where 16 is the age of consent. In my country, sex is legal between two consenting persons which both are at least 16 years old. Sure, e. g. 40 and 17 would be weird (but not illegal in my country), but is it really completely different than 40 and 18? And especially someone in his/her early 20s dating a 16 or 17 year old, I don't see any moral objections.

I didn't feel an adult all of a sudden on the day I became 18 years. You become an adult gradually.

[anylolone]

If it's legal why do you care about what people think?
Reality is, most women can't tell the difference between a guy at his 16's and himself at 24, depending on the guy even in his 15's.

There's probably some difference in maturity, everyone matures with time but sometimes not for the better.

[Asker]

I agree

[katiesmuff]

If where you live 17 year olds are the legal age then I see no issue if the other is in their 60's as long as it is consensual and we should learn to mind our own business!

[loves2learn]

Sounds fine to me.

[boggboss]

Maven if I disagree with it I have no right to comment on it as along as they both want it not really my place to say anything it may urk me but at that point its a meh

[Celtero]

The morality of sexuality is hard to set in stone...

I've heard stories of mid to late 20-year olds boning underage teens but then they get married for life.

Sooo...

At the end of the day I say people can do what they want sexually, as long as it isn't abusive, but they can't force me not to be perturbed by it.

[Asker]

I think there should be an age limit when it comes to dating minors

[Celtero]

But it's hard to draw that line without making it arbitrarily and forming double standards. So if a minor is happy dating an adult and vice versa then what's the point in preventing that? The whole purpose should be to protect minors. So when we get to identifying the harmful or abusive elements... the power imbalance, grooming, etc. That stuff happens between adults too, and we don't attempt to use the law against that. The only clear and non-arbitrary line I think I can draw is to say adults shouldn't date anyone who hasn't completed puberty, which is generally around 16.

[Asker]

Make it 18 to get sure. Minors mostly dont know a shit. They can't give consent. So it does not mater if it wants. There a lot studies that show how toxic it could be for the development of the minor.

[Asker]

But it depends on the age gap. I see no problem with a 17 dating someone in its early 20s since the brain both of them ain't developed

[Celtero]

That's an example of an arbitrary standard though... because as you get older, you'll realize that there are many, many, stupid adults too. There are plenty of teens who are far smarter than adults. So by that standard, we should IQ test everybody and you're only allowed to date them if they're above a certain IQ.

[Asker]

So you are ok with kids having sex with adults? I am ok with such tests for safety of kids. This is actually good idea. And the puberty dont end with 16. Some girls begin to get their period at 16-17. It has to do more maturity level than iq. It is complicated

[Asker]

But i agree with you at some points. It is complicated. I am very protective when it comes to kids/minor. So i may be biased

[Asker]

Lol.

[Celtero]

"Kids" is vague. Some people call 18 and 19 year olds kids, but I suppose you're deliberately being vague to insinuate that I'm justifying pedophilia, which is a whole different thing than post-pubescent teens. I'd just rather judge things on a case by case basis rather than deal in moral absolutes. Am I disturbed by cases where an adult dates a teen? Yes, but I'm not going to let that affect my reasoning. Things just aren't always black and white. Like I said, if a 15 year old and a, lets say, 27 year old start a relationship that leads to a long happy marriage with kids and all that stuff... why was that initial relationship wrong? There's plenty of sexual behavior I disapprove of. I think promiscuous people are gross, I think polyamory is gross, casual sex is gross, that doesn't mean they're immoral. And hell, I suppose the biggest thing I have a problem with is why is it illegal for a 20-something year old to sex a 16 or 17 year old but it's perfectly fine for Bill Clinton as president at 49 to get a blowjob from a 22 year old intern?

[Asker]

It is not illegal for a guy in jis early 20s to have sex with a person at 17. It is still better for the safety of kids/minor. You are not going to die when the age of consent become higher. Also search the term grooming. You completely ignore the scientific facts such as brain development. It is also not about finding something gross, it is about safegy of kids/minors. A 15 years of kid will never had the same maturity of 27. The brain development is not even finished for a 15 years old but yet you think it is ok for them to marry. 15 years old is ain't out of puberty. Search also hebebihilia There is a reason why women can't get sterilization till they are 25 for example.

[Asker]

Seriously i am disgusted by you. Like wtf. 15 years old marrying a guy in his late 20s is not normal. I will stop the discussion here but thank you for your replies

[Bricealan]

You are correct from where I stand. I was 20 and had sex with a girl in high school and she was 16. Should say she had sex prior to me though.

[Agape93]

Nope

[Neko911]

I think the most I'd be ok with is a 16 and 20 year old or 17 and 21.

[exitseven]

It is illegal to have sex with anyone under 18 if you are over 18. That being said, I dated a girl who was 17 when I was 21. I met her at a New Years party. She told me she was in her senior year and I thought she meant senior year in college (I was a junior in college). She was very mature looking for her age. We dated for a few months and actually I was starting to fall in love with her. She really was nice. We never had sex but it came close a couple of times. then she dumped me and went back to her old boyfriend.
I really had the intention of waiting until she was 18 and maybe we would do it (she was a virgin).

[Josh4206]

As long as they're 25 or below i don't think so

[jamesgoldman]

It's legal here
Morally probably not and personally I don't like women in my life unless they are at least my age

N. b. one of my customers married his second wife when she was 18 and he was 38... they've been together 12 years now

[minsuya]

Absolutely not.

[Flirt254]

I think once you're over 20 just go for someone over 18

[US-Agent88]

Absolutely. I believe if they are old enough to cross the street...

[AmeerX]

It's alright

[naraku]

If it's legal then it's fine as long as everyone agrees to it.
I wouldn't of minded this 44yo woman when I was 17yo! LOL

[s2firestar]

Do we have the moral highground to judge otherwise legal things? IMHO I've got better things to do than care about what two consenting legal age people do. Most people get into the business of others way more than they should. And many times, the reason is a deep rooted jealousy. I find that pathetic.

Me? I don't care as long as it is legal. Just as I don't care about gays and such. None of my business what others do.

[Asker]

What does IMHO mean? I can show you studies and statistics that show how toxic it could for the minor to date way older adult person. And just because the age of consent make it legal, it does not make moral. In some countries the age of consent is 12(!). So it is common sense and normal human behaviour to judge it.

[s2firestar]

In my humble opinion The age of consent where I am from is 12 only in special cases so that stupid kids don't get into prison. I don't care about morality. I don't think I have the power to judge other people openly, beyond the confines of my mind. I am not better than them to tell them what is right and what is wrong. I care about law. If it is legal, I have no power to interfere and I do not wish to, either. Again, what legal age, consenting people do is not my fucking business. If any abuse happens, then it becomes my business. I am a soldier, not a priest or a preacher. My best friend, when he was 15, was hot for girls at 24-25. It was perfectly legal, he was happy as fuck, no harm was done. Was it immoral? Did he got off worse? Hell, if anything, I was slightly jealous. It was his preference and he got lucky with it.

[s2firestar]

I was educated such that I don't judge people for their preferences so long that it abides the law.

[Asker]

I agree to disagree with your posts. I would agree with you if we live in a perfect world but we dont. The chances are higher the younger the minor is. We can't know 100% if the minor is mentally/physically ok with it. You seem like a great guy but also naive and stupid. I mean if we could some way figur it out to know whether a minor really wants it, this would not be even a discussion. The safety of kids/minors is important. So dont be pathetic. Therefore it has nothing to do with getting into the business of others. But still thank you for your replies. You seem like a good guy

[Asker]

Good night

[Asker]

I agree to disagree with many points of yours. It senseless to continue the conversation but thanks for the replies. I wish you a good day :)

[crmoore]

I don't think it's inherently immoral

[kellytheman]

I think it's Okay but legally no from where I am from. I heard one guy who was 18 and had sex with a girl was 17 and someone found out and told the authorities and now the guy is a registered sex offender. I feel maybe there be a law changed for a age to be ok to have sex.

[dudeinohio]

Yes I think it is ok. The age difference isn't really that great. 17 with 20. Only 3 years.

[Gedaria]

There is nothing wrong with it.
I enjoy younger girls, I find better company.
As long as she is not underage.
But I prefer girls 25 to 30..