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How normal or acceptable is Gerontophilia around the world? Can I have a normal life while experiencing and acting upon my Gerontophilia?

I am female and I have just turned 18. I feel a strong sense of freedom, especially sexual freedom, and I plan to become sexually active as soon as I can. My issue is this, for the past several years, I have had intense sexual desires because of an attraction to older men (over 55 I think, definitely men in their 60s, 70s, and maybe 80s). I find most older men extremely attractive, and I fantasize about men in that age range. There's no specific thing about them that triggers me, but them doing sexual stuff gets me going way more than anything else, and it confuses/scares me.

I do not know why I'm this way. Although I am attracted to guys around my age, no one gets a stronger response than a much older man. It's not even close. Like, I have had 3 teachers, one of them was 58 and the other two were over 60, two of them are bald or balding, and I was instantly attracted to them in a major way. I fantasized about these men in every way imaginable. The pornography I've watched includes older men masturbating, and older men having sex with women around my age. Recently, I've found myself centering on older men with large wangs. Figure I may as well be totally honest at this point.

I plan on looking into dating apps and websites, like Tinder, but I don't want the entire world to know that I am exclusively looking to hook up with older men.

Okay, so on how this becomes an issue.. Is there even thriving community of older men looking for casual hookups around the US/World? Will I have to hide my sex life from my dorm mates? What about sorority sisters (assuming I'm accepted)? I can't imagine rolling up to my parent's house with my 60+-year-old boyfriend (if I ever decide to date someone). Will my kids have a hard time with a very old father?

And above all else, how will I avoid being called a gold digger looking for a sugar daddy?
I just want to live my life and enjoy myself, but I'm thinking that I'll have to hide my sex/romantic life forever.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • There are guys around and you see their posts on Tinder.

    a lot of it is down to society morals and values on what is socially acceptable or not.

    I have various run ins with holier than though types that view BDSM, or even goth weekends as a profanity against god and the world in general.

    Similar to this, if you want to scratch that itch, go for it.

    as someone heading that way, I am all for it.

    Society is shit though and judgmental, not just sexuality but things that don’t fit in to neat tidy proper ways.

    I have dated girls 20 and in 20’s and get comments, just roll with it.

    the main thing is two people have fun, have trust, openness and respect for each other.

    • Just do the time warp, then they can never do anything to you... lol

    • @razelove lol trust me, various things have been tired, worse if in dressed up mode and you bump in to Victorian values couple

  • Every law in physics says you can't get something for nothing. There is always a trade off.
    In society, you can't have one ambition without giving up some innocence. In your case, you want an older guy but appear to be totally sincere about it.
    Uh, sorry. Preconceived notions exist despite how arrogant we are thinking we are above such things.
    Time to make choices with attatched consequences.
    Welcome to adulthood.

    • It hurts, but I think what you're saying about relationships is real. I really don't want to trade anything off, but something will have to give. I'm thinking that for now, secrecy is the best option. I've seen some toxic behavior, and I just want to be happy. A long term relationship is probably not possible for a while, but I wasn't planning on making that kind of commitment till I'm much older. Thank you for your honesty.

Most Helpful Girl

  • A lot of girls experiment with older but it's unusual to target gods waiting room

    • I'm hoping to face this fantasy and it will become less intense, but I think that kind of thing can go both ways. I really don't know. But knowing that other people experiment with this is very relieving. Thank you. It took me a while to deconstruct the "gods waiting room" part. Haha!

    • I doubt you'll have trouble finding a volunteer

    • @purplepoppy you crack me up. Lol

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  • Well, you'll give some older men lasting, and possibly final memories. As far as normal, it's an illusion, no one is normal, no one has a normal life. You can pick one or two things to say, hey, I fall into the average of my peers on these. To fall into the average on everything and be "normal" would make you truly unique.

    Experience the metamucil and viagra, the choices are yours to make, and who knows how any of those experiences will turn out if you don't try it?

  • this seems like a troll question because of all the older guys on here talking about liking younger girls, i dont think your being serious. dont get me wrong it happens but i dont really think that is a thing unless its one way and your taking advantage of them , your not doing that are you because of there SSI checks?

    and before you start crying fowl with what im saying yu got to know there are way better choice out there than grand pa in a wheel chair needing you to wipe his butt and shower him. or did you think it all through when you thought it was what you were wanting?

    its not all mature and sexy you got to know that about older guys

  • OMG you are every 50+ man's wet dream. Why hide it? Date whoever you want. Never apologize, never explain. If you put an ad on a dating site with that age range you will have about 100x more messagea than you can answer.

  • I think you may find that once you're these older guys will love playing with you and eating your pussy if they can no longer maintain an erection but will mostly just want casual sex with you and not a relationship. I'm not saying it's impossible to find a sixty year old guy that would want a relationship and not just sex but I would say that is a rare find.

  • The guys you're looking for may not be on tinder.

    I suspect you'd have better luck actually going to places men that age are and flirting a bit.

    • Thank you for responding, and I was thinking the same thing. Would you mind telling me more? Like what kinds of places do you think? I was thinking about this, and I'm stuck on golf courses, but there has to be more.

    • After work bars at happy hour. Sporting events. Gyms.

    • Thanks for getting back to me. I'm a little worried about meeting married guys, but not too much. I think that most men that age wear their wedding rings all the time.

  • Do you like older men, or just the appearance of being older? For example I am 29 and balding, so I am not that old, but look older. I have a former teacher that went fully gray at 35. Neither of us is old but looking at our hair, we appear older.

    • I am immediately attracted to them physically, so it's appearance first, but more than just being bald/grey. There's a kid who went bald early in my high school, and I've never fantasized about him. I have not tried to figure out what combo of qualities trigger my feelings, but I know for sure when intense attraction hits me, and it's been men who everyone I know would call older. If an 18-year-old went Benjamin Button, he would have all the qualities of an older man, and I'd probably be attracted to him. If I liked him, he wasn't severely disabled, and he wasn't emotionally toxic, I'd pass him a note/my number. If a 40-year-old looked 60, I'd probably feel the same.

  • message me and lets talk about it.

    • I can't message anyone, it says my level's too low.

  • That sounds really hot.
    You and I could be perfect.

  • Normal enough.
    And you can.

  • Wow, that's old, I felt I was old for a girl your age! Lol

  • It is your life, live it, ignore those that are jealous or do not understand. If he is not happy, you will not be there. You are only a gold digger if you are in it for the money.

  • I have found to enjoy life with others no matter what age... legally of course. Life is too short.. do you and what makes you happy. Don’t worry what others think. I get the gold digger part.. but with communication.. like you did here.. he would be fine with it. I know I would be

  • It's been a year, have you accomplished your goal?

    • Sadly, no. My sexual preferences have expanded greatly since then, but this is still my top fantasy. My life has led me into constant contact with a potential partner, but our relationship dynamics require me to take my time during my pursuit. His romantic relationship history also makes this a complex evolution (widower), and I'm not sure if I can even come close to pulling it off. I can say for sure, that he is not a person who would be interested in casual sex. Sex is linked to deep romance for him, and romance is emotionally intense for him. But I find him extremely attractive, so I will be patient, and I do not intend to waste any opportunities for intimacy of any sort with him. I am able to hug him tightly (I always breath his scent in really deep), kiss his cheeks, hold his arm during specific events, and I can do other non-physical things that I will not mention. I always sit as closely as I can to him, and we spend a lot of time together. I'm still not old enough to go to bars, so he is basically my only bet for the time being. And I really like him, so I don't plan on looking for anyone else to fulfill this fantasy, unless I wear him out as a possibility. If I get to fulfill this fetish, I will definitely write something about the experience. I'll probably write a "myTake". If not, then I can write you if I get a breakthrough. Just PM me. I am so horny for this old man! LOL

    • how old is he? Mytake would be nice so everyone that commented on here can have the chance to see and reply remember to copy this mytake so they remember

    • He is either approaching, or he is an octogenarian. I know his exact age, but that is what I am willing to say. I will also say that he is very healthy. What do you mean by "copy this mytake so they remember"? Do you mean to post a link to the myTake on this thread? Or update this topic with a link to the myTake?

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  • Try sugardaddy. com. I hear its a legit website.

    • Thanks for posting! The site's name pretty much kills it for me, but I'll still look into it. My actual dad is wealthy enough, so I'm happy concerning money. I don't want sugar daddies, just dating with older guys. I don't want them to think that I'm hooking up for money, and I feel like that site would absolutely shout the opposite.

    • Thanks and your welcome. Then just try regular sites like Tinder and their are other dating sites that cater to older men/younger women.

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