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Bedroom tips for 25 year old dating a 35 year old?

Hi,

I've recently started dating a 35-year old guy (I'm 25 now). Everything is going amazing so far and I know that soon things will get a little more serious...
Until now, I have only been sexually involved with guys same age as me, and so hence the question :)

I know that men will always be men regardless of age, but I've never been romantically involved nor intimate with a man who is 10 years older than me before. I like to think I've had enough experience to offer good "bedroom skills" to my new parter, but if there are any men in their 30s here (or women who have had experience with men in their 30s) who think there are things I should consider or try, please let me know :D
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On my profile it says I'm 24 but it was a mistake, I'm 25 :)
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  • Yes, you should try talking to him about sex before it happens. Tell him that you have the feeling that things are headed in that direction and that you would like to talk about it before it happens.

    If you are using an effective means of birth control and are compliant with using it, then why not suggest that both of you get tested for STDs and, assuming you are both clear, then there would be no need to use condoms.

    You can also talk about likes and dislikes. If you don't want to do 69 or anal or whatever, tell him now so he doesn't hear "no" in the middle of being passionate. If you only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, tell him instead of making him discover that by trial and error. If you really want to ride his face, tell him. By having these discussions in advance, you will know what to expect and be more relaxed when it happens.

    You could also suggest having a weekend getaway to somewhere a few hours distant. You could spend a few nights in a hotel and that would be your target for moving to the next level.

    The differences between sex at a younger age and an older age should be the communications and not the arousing little tricks that you do once you are between the sheets.

    • thanks a lot for your reply :) I think this is a sensible approach. I will definitely keep that in mind!

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  • One thing I would say is that you would definitely be able to talk and say about what you really want (or you're not interested) or have an interest on... and this talks could be in a way you feel better with, could be a more serious talk, a playful exchange and maybe even during, on the moment...
    One thing about the 30's is not just the experience but also the openness and willingness so... consider that if you really want to make the most out of it, having yourself in mind mostly, and then, also him.
    (Not all men are the same, but it's still worth to explore this territory)

    • yeah this is something I've been thinking about lately. I think this time around it won't be so awkward to talk about what works and what doesn't, what I like and don't like.. I mean I'm hoping so haha in the past it had either been awkward or the guys simply didn't listen...

    • you've been thinking right, and that's why I mentioned different ways to hint to the subject, if the man is more serious or more playful, something... you'll find the way too approach it.

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  • Is he the dominant type?

    • I haven't had the chance to figure it out yet. I hope so... haha

    • When you're out, is he a gentleman? Does he "drive" when it comes to where to go and what to do?

    • I'll say this - he's very polite and yes he's a proper gentleman but when we flirt he shows a more playful side, for example, he calls me a "good girl" but only when I earn it... you know? Things like that.

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  • From my experience, if you are not going to the gym, get some gym time in.

    Then a lot depends on the type of guy, invariably relationships are a bit more adult when you are in your 30’s.

    at times age is simply a number, he might act like a 15 yr old or a 60 yr old and everything in between, I am childish at times as I don’t give a shit really.

    that likely one of main things is someone in their 30’s usually has more confidence etc.

    again depends on the guy and his history.

    • Hey, thanks for your reply! He's super intelligent and so a lot of our conversations are based on our degrees, etc. but he also has a playful and flirty side to him. Basically, he's mature and polite but not 100%. We have only met once so far but have been speaking pretty much everyday. and I workout regularly so that isn't an issue :)

    • That’s excellent, about in time for lockdown lifting. So ideal

  • I would say, just be willing to try different positions, surprise him with a BJ every so often and don't be afraid to show him your bod. The rest is gravy.

  • He wants nurturing and intimacy. He does not want to be expected to perform like a race horse.

    • The more passionate the better (for me at least) :)

  • Just be yourself and don't overthink this. Ten years isn't an insurmountable thing at your ages. I guess if I was to tell you anything it would be to research the popular culture of his era. He might think it was pretty cool that you did that.

  • That you think there is a difference is troubling. Just go with the flow honey. Be enthusiastic, enjoy him, enjoy yourself. See where it goes.

    • I don't believe there is much of a difference, I'm simply wondering especially since I haven't been intimate with many people before. But yes, I'll definitely enjoy it :) Thanks!

    • This is what I was gonna say but I'm not 30 so.

  • Get dressed up for him, some nice lingerie, stockings, some high heels.

    Maybe get a pair of handcuffs and try those out.

    Butt stuff is usually a winner too.

    If you want holy grail status, be that awesome girl who brings another girl with you and both of you go down on him at the same time.

    • This is awful advice

    • Apparently I am having more fun than your guy ever will.

    • yeah ok lmao

  • He needs to stay fit so he can keep up with you for years to come.
    Take care of his back.

    • he's in good shape and regularly works out but yeah I'll take the tip of looking after his back haha thanks

    • And Saw palmetto and watermelon

    • what does this mean?

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  • Just be a woman, don’t overthink everything.
    Enjoy each other’s company and you’ll be fine.

  • He is likely just going to be more mature and serious in your relationship, it should be a good thing for you.

  • since we do not know what you are doing now, we cannot even guess what you might add

  • More foreplay

  • in that case, you don't have to worry much.
    he will care you like daughter and love you like a doll.
    you will have only love nothing slutty.

  • I am 32 but my girlfriend is 22. And we always had a great sex and romance.

  • Just be adventurous, try oral sex in different ways too

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