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I’m torn between giving my best guy friend a blow job vs waiting for a future boyfriend. I’ve never had sexual relations with anyone before?

Background info:

My friend and I have always had a flirtatious history and we’re both single. I am in love with him, but not in a serious way. I eventually want to meet a new guy to marry.

About the idea of waiting for future boyfriend:

A part of me wants to have my first sexual experience with someone I’m in a serious relationship with who I’m deeply in love with. I want his penis be the 1st one I experience. I think that would be really romantic.

Also, I’m afraid I might find it psychologically disturbing to have memories of being sexual with someone else other than him.

About the idea giving friend a blowjob:

But on the other hand, for so long I’ve had an intense desire to be sexual with my best guy friend. I do badly want to see his penis, and I so badly want to touch his penis and see how he personally responds to different ways of touching him. Almost all the time I have intense sexual thoughts of him.

Final Thoughts:

Even though a part of me thinks I should wait for a future boyfriend, I have so desperately for so long wanted to give him a blowjob, I’m wondering if this waiting for a future boyfriend thing is really worth it. I thought maybe I should let myself have some fun because I so badly want to do this.
Updates:
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I’d really appreciate your thoughts on my conflicting desires.
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Do you have any ideas as to what would be best to do in this situation?
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Superb Opinion

  • I see no value at all in waiting. It's like refusing to go anyplace until you find the perfect place to go, or refusing to eat until the perfect meal of all time is presented to you.
    Sex is an enjoyable part of being alive.

    You'll love seeing, touching and snogging your friend's penis. He'll love it, too. You'll both have so much fun. Plus, you'll gain experience and skill for when you finally do meet the guy you think you want to marry. At that point, give the guy you think you want to marry blow jobs even though there is no guarantee that the two of you will wind up getting married.

    What is even the point of waiting? Merely so that you can tell a guy that you've never had any kind of sexual encounter before? If he has a fetish for that he has issues.

    In my opinion, sex is something you should enjoy and it makes no sense to save yourself for a price charming that may or may not appear soon. Don't wast time. Enjoy life. Be fully human.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Only you can make up your own mind. You sound like a really thoughtful person. Think about it and talk to your friend about it.
    I had my first time during a one night thing. It didn't mean a thing to me and I regretted it. It's not like shaking hands.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You’re going to have to make a serious decision here. Either your first sexual experience is going to exploratory fun with a friend or it will be a romantic one with a true love. Which is more desirable to you? No one can make that choice for you. We all had to make it for ourselves. I will say this, a lot of girls regret their first sexual encounter and feel they didn’t make a good decision at the time. If you think you might regret making the quick and easy choice, then you’ve answered your own question.

  • Give you best guy friend a blowjob but make sure you have an orgasm too. You’ll need one 😊.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • So why is it you can’t have your cake and to eat it too? Like why can’t your best friend who you love be your boyfriend who you will make love to, and have you ever considered asking him his feelings? I ask; because something tells me that he probably has feelings for you like that as well both sexually and romantically.

  • If you can let go of the myth that you can only have sex with one of The Ones, you'll be best served, IMHO, by going down on your friend and seeing where that goes. Glad to discuss further if you like.

  • Do you know whether the guy friend wants to have sex with you?

    For someone in your position, having sex with a guy is very likely to strongly affect the way you feel towards him. Are you prepared for that to happen?

  • Give him the BJ and get it out of your system. I mean his system. Whatever. Don't over think it. Do it then wait for full intercourse with the right guy. Problem solved.

  • Just be with your friend lol and stop playing around with it I would advise against making things sexual with him if its just for fun due to the dramas thay come with changing that relationship

  • If he's good with it, go for it, as it will give you some experience for your future boy friend, but make sure you clearly inform your best friend of your intentions and boundaries.

  • Alright, be more realistic and suck his dick then?

  • You want the dick, just go for it. Ask questions later

  • So clearly you wanna just be with your guy friend but won't accept that... makes perfect sense...

  • About being torn... Sounds like to me like you better just tear his pants off and suck that dick. You don't want the first guy you are with to see how terrible you are and your friend would make a good practice partner.

  • I think you should discuss this with your guy friend and see how he reacts. Ask him if he's ever thought about the two of you being friends with benefits.

  • Is this perhaps a situation of friends with benefits?

  • If you were 18 this would be understandable question..
    Give you are +25
    You think of him as best friend and he is already considered you his lover..

    STOP waiting and grab this opportunity and suck his dick..

  • Honestly I think you will only regret it if you don't do it, might as well learn and get some experience... and have some fun. That's just my opinion, I've never sucked any of my friends dicks though. 😝😂

  • Very important question: WHY don't you see yourself being in a serious relationship with your guy friend? What about him is not good enough for you?

  • You never know the future, Live the present.

  • I say you should go ahead if give your best friend guy a blowjob especially if you somewhat in love with him and really want to do sexual things to him. He can be closer than ever and you can just be friends with benefits. Maybe not have sexual intercourse with him unless you want to but oral sex is fine if you just want to have some fun

  • You do realize you most likely won't be able to go back to how your friendship was before, once you do something sexual with him, do you?

  • Who cares? He's your best friend! Nail him with the best blowjob he's ever had. You wait for someone that might maybe possibly exist in the next 20 years and look at what you will have missed.

  • Id just give him a bj if I was in your situation. Just know that you will probably change feelings for him soon after

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