Ladies, will she catch feelings?

Anonymous

Aight girls I’ve got a friend and we have had feelings for each other in the past. For a few reasons a relationship is out of the question rn. There is so much sexual tension between us you could cut it with a knife, but she’s also very tender and a loving soul. We would have had sex a few times by now but I don’t want to as I’m scared she’ll get attached and it will do more harm then good. Am I trippin? Can we just fuck and still be cool or will it ruin things?

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btbc92 Master
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All you want is sex. Feelings have nothing to do with it. Sex before marriage will cause problems and women will get attached because that is how we are designed. You would learn this in sex education. So no. If you have no true desire to love her, leave her alone. You want somebody to screw find somebody else.
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- Asker
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  That’s not all I want. I’d like to be with this woman eventually but we are on two different life paths right now and it’s not a reality for a few years. We have both acknowledged this, we’ve also both had sex before. The real question is do we go those paths knowing these feelings may fade and never have experienced each other? Or do we hook up here and there and try and take a “break” or the next couple years? Also, before you try and belittle me I did attend sex education. I learned about the reproductive system and nothing was taught about the mental affects of sex. Through personal experience and knowledge handed down by mother, I personally believe you give a piece of yourself to each sexual partner. This why we haven’t had sex yet. 🙂
- btbc92
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  First of all, if you're wanting sex PERIOD. YOU are WRONG. If you have nothing serious, leave her BE. End of story. If you had sex before you already screwed yourself up before marriage. And it will cause a problem. She is screwing herself up and will blame you for it. Once you have sex outside of marriage, you made a serious mistake. That is why premarital sex is a sin. If nothing was taught about that, you weren't taught proper sex education. God made sex a marriage. Since you had sex with her, you already made her technically your wife. She is already yours and you gave yourself to her.
- Asker
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  I have had 15 sexual partners do you think I’ll go to hell? 🥺 I really don’t want too
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- Asker
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  Also we haven’t sex with each other, I meant other people. She’d be number 16. I hope god can save me
- btbc92
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  So that means you married 15 people. I say it's too late now with what you're saying with those women. That's why you don't have sex before marriage. It is more than just giving yourself to each other, you become ONE. As the word of God said. A sex partner should be your spouse. Since you not legally married you already created a marriage and cannot have sex with other people, otherwise, it's adultery. But you people call it religious. That is why you have all of that sexual tension your body wants to be joined again as God intended sex. That is why you don't have sex with people you aren't married to. Look, you decide if by your life choices. You have to stop doing that and repent, really mean it, and be saved. Because you're going to make this girl fall along with you. And by you having 15 sex partners, she'll be having sex with them all along with you through you. And vice versa if she also had sex with other men. Do you think she would be happy knowing you had 15 people? Do you know about her? You need to seriously discuss these things because that is how you end up in serious trouble and ruin your lives. I think you better rethink your involvement with her and be more focused on what the heck are you doing in your life. You people call this religion, you're experiencing the dilemma now why the Bible is true.
- btbc92
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  Sadly, you will not be taught this in school because they don't want to teach the truth about sex and the consequence. Abstinence education has been greatly defunded and so, many problems occur because they don't even go that deep in church either. If you know neither of you is going to be serious or situations prevent you from doing anything move on. Sex will only make it worse.
- Asker
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  God is a woman though
- btbc92
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  God is a man. You don't know God and I warn of you don't mock him for he is not one to be mocked. What you do and say gets recorded. Don't play with your life.

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Anonymous
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Sex was never meant to be casual. You're sharing your body with someone in the most intimate way. So I would say if you don't want anyone getting attached then don't have sex.
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- Asker
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  Thank you. I do love this girl and she loves me and I am moving to another country for work for 5 years. We haven’t had sex for this reason but both want to share that intimacy. It is something that is sacred to both of us and I agree with you, probably more harm then good. Thank you for your input