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Why Do Some People Make Such A Big Deal About Their Partner Watching Porn?

Why Do Some People Make Such A Big Deal About Their Partner Watching Porn?
I personally never saw an issue with someone watching porn. The only issue I'd have is if they got to the point they preferred the porn over sex with me or turned down sex with me to watch porn instead. I've always said, hell watch it together... The only other thing was always, if given a choice I'd rather be having sex than watching others have sex...
Why Do Some People Make Such A Big Deal About Their Partner Watching Porn?
Why Do Some People Make Such A Big Deal About Their Partner Watching Porn?
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  • "... given a choice I'd rather be having sex than watching others have sex." I agree 1000%.

    Porn can be fun.

    I surf porn sometimes and, yes, sometimes "relieve myself" when the near prospect of real sex isn't in the cards due to work schedules or various other reasons. I even save the url's of good videos that I run across in a file on my laptop.

    I don't mind if my partner watches porn on her own. It can also be really fun to watch her get all hot and bothered and masturbate while she watches.
    I had one hyper-sexual girlfriend who masturbated, sometimes to porn, when I wasn't around, even though the two of us had sex at least a couple times a day and sometimes for hours at a time. She was insatiable. I had nothing but admiration her libido, especially since, when we were together, she made me feel like a sex god.

    I've watched porn with a partner just to get us both good and revved up or to sometimes say "Hey, we ought to try that (technique or position)!"
    I've also watched porn while getting my dick sucked.

    I like the idea of watching porn on my flat screen mirror. LOL
    I've done it, mainly so I could see her face and tits while I was hitting her from behind. I LOOOVE watching tits flap while she is bent over. 😛😛😛🤪 Being able to watch her jiggly ass and tits at the same time is fantastic.

    • You should write sex stories... Come on, I'll be your publicist... We could make a fortune 🤣🤣 and each book will come with a free sex joke take 🤣🤣

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  • I always use these reasons why persons still masturbate in a relationship:


    No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
    A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
    It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
    A person is bored
    A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
    A person is stressed
    Because they like it
    They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
    Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
    They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
    Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
    It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
    It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
    They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
    It's fun
    They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
    They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
    To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

    • Some people will say it's a problem if they choose porn over sex but sex is not always enjoyable with your partner. A woman can have insecurities for example she can fear pregnancy, feel uncomfortable being naked, etc and a man can still experience performance anxiety so they will probably be more relax masturbating to porn. I think this is the first reason I mentioned why people watch porn in my first reply😊

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  • Thank you!!! I don't have an issue with a guy I'm seeing watching porn; it's normal!

    Let's be real here: we're all adults. All of us have seen, watched, or read some form of porn. I will watch porn with my partner because I'm secure enough to know it's just a fantasy for most people. Heck, you can even use porn to try new moves and fantasies with your partner!

    As long as he doesn't use porn as a substitute for being with me, or constantly compare me to other women in porn (ie: "Why can't you look like her?" or something to that extent), there's no harm in it! If it bothers you, then talk to your partner about it; it's not that complicated.
    I think people associate porn with being lonely and single, so when you're in a relationship, you shouldn't need porn because you have someone- that's not necessarily true. Heck, look at the couples that make porn! Haha.

    • Thank you!! Exactly!! Well said!!

    • the thinking "in a relationship, you shouldn't need porn" is what that ex i mentioned thought. thats why i explained to her that "though i dont (didn't at the time) see us not working out, what if we dont? and what about when am not able to be with you but need release?" and more along those lines.

  • Mostly because of insecurities. There are people out there who see this as cheating.

    Personally, I find porn entertaining and never had an issue about it. Like you said, the only problem is when someone starts finding it more desirable than real human contact/starts watching it obsessively.

    • Right! Exactly... Funny some chicks say porn is cheating but will plaster the internet with their titty/ass pics or sext with strangers 🙄🙄

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  • Insecurity and lack of knowledge about human sex drives, I'd imagine. If he (or she; it's rarer, but it's not like it never happens) is raring to go far more often than you are, it's only natural he'd take care of his needs on his own, and what else would he use? I mean, would you rather find him masturbating to porn, or masturbating to a map of Latvia?

    For that matter, sometimes you're going to be unavailable or unable to take care of them, so they'll have to do it themselves. And sometimes they'll just want to get off without bringing another person in; masturbation isn't always just about sex. I

    • 've always figured that if it's not getting in the way of the sex you DO have, and not somehow causing your browser to hit the "submit" button while you're still typing, no harm, no foul.

    • Exactly!!!

  • Insecurity? I'm not sure.

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  • Yeah, porn when you're in a relationship is like a video of fire when you have a fire. Sure, maybe once in a blue moon you want to see what sparklers look like, but you can be warm and cozy by your fire to do so...

    Maybe that's the problem though, some people prefer the video, or start to expect their cozy fire to be more like sparklers. It's the best metaphor I can think of, sex in porn is nothing like sex. Porn sex is just straight painful for both parties. If you say otherwise, either you found some fantastic, gentle, lover-like porn, or you never tried having photogenic sex for hours.

  • Neck I sometimes text my hubby porn that I pretty sure he will like 😃

    • That's cool 👍😎

  • I have no idea! Total waste of time an energy, in my opinion. Watch it together. It’s fun!

    • Right!!!

    • How would I love2learn? 😂

    • How would you what, Sam? Watch it with me? Lol Sorry. Not looking for porn buddies. I only watch with my man. :)

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  • I completely agree with you!!! For me, I don’t care if my guy watches porn because I’d suggest us watching it together and I’d even suggest that we try whatever it is that he’s watching. However, if him watching porn interferes with his daily life and it gets to the point where he needs to watch porn to be stimulated and he’d rather watch that than do anything with me, then there’s a big problem!

  • Personally, I don’t care. Who the hell haven’t seen porn?
    But I guess the people who have a problem with their significant other watching it probably don’t want them looking at a naked man/women. To each his own.

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  • I don’t know, insecurity?
    usually we would watch together and have a laugh at some of it.

    we shot one for ourselves once lol.

    more of a giggle fest than an fuck fest though.

    • 🤣 but yeah watch together or if not your thing, let him or her watch, don't shame or any like someone a perv for it

    • Yeah, but definitely keep the volume down, nothing worse than parents etc calling and all you can hear in back ground is ‘oh yeah baby, oh yeah baby’ lol

  • You know I have never turned down sex with you to watch porn! 😍
    Completely agree with you. Porn can be fun, but it does not beat having sex, especially with someone you really care about. If someone prefers watching porn to actually having sex, then you are overdue evaluating your relationship.

    • Well said!! Agree 💯... And forgot, you used the "not tonight dear I have a headache"excuse 🙄 typical male 🤣🤣🤣

    • Yeah. But many times I took an Advil and jumped your bones. No headache is going to stop me. 🍆

    • 🤣🤣🤣 (buys a 5000 count bottle of Advil)🤣🤣

  • I can see making a big deal over it if their partner is showing signs of addiction to it. Or, spending an excessive amount of money on weird porn subscriptions or webcam models, etc. But occasional porn... Heck they should watch it together and get ideas and have fun with it... LOL

    • Right!

  • I don't, answering your question.
    I like it, when I am with someone, and we get to a point, when maybe, we might?
    I never thought about it, before, but in college, one lady suggested we share our favorite PORN, TOGETHER! She said she wanted to show me what made her horny, and wanted to know what I liked, so we could have a better time, together, when we did have sex!
    Quite interesting, and very helpful, actually!

  • This was a major issue with the ex. I never once chose it over sex with her though. What made it so ridiculous is we were involved in the Lifestyle our whole marriage.

    • Yeah that don't make sense

  • My boyfriend claims to have never watched porn, but I do & admit it proudly. I don't care, it's like watching any other movie in my opinion.

    • Right!

  • I believe that those people are just insecure. Otherwise, why would you care.

    • Right! Exactly!!

  • Porn desensitizes you from reality.

    • I don't really think that's the case for everyone

  • I think to be open about these things! I love it!

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  • Unfortunately, I'm not qualified to respond to this question. I never stick around long enough to find out why.

  • Because they think you might leave them for that porn star! It's called being super insecure.

    Find a partner who loves to watch porn with you... or make one with you! Ha

    • Lol right!

    • Strange thing my first wife started this. She use to pickup a video from under counter, which was rather Juicy. I was surprised when I got horny she had a play with my cock , there were a lot of times we needed a second session we didn't get through the film before being distracted.

    • @Gedaria see, right!! 👍

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  • I mean, it’s obvious to me; it’s simply insecurity. Everyone has some level of this to my belief. The feeling of being inadequate or unsatisfactory can be summoned from a lot of sources or methods.

  • I think they feel it's either, that they are not good enough (insecurity) or their religious views... Something like that

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