Was he starting to get bored with the sex between him and I, or could he have been sexting another?

[Anonymous]

So this isn't really important. But I'm a tad bit curious. And, maybe y'all can help me Understand this situation a little bit better and maybe the person. But anyways, I had a friends with benefits for about 6-7 years on again and off again type of thing. And truth is, him and I, we never went out nor on any real dates. And he never once tried to attempt to make me his girl. But, We're there Ever any real feelings there between us. Yes, but I guess not enough for him to commit himself. But anywho, I started to really notice a change in him in the years of 2018- 2019 and 2020. Like, he wasn't really pressed on trying to Smash. Not, like he use to be. But yet, when I wanted to leave and I would tell him, that it's better for us to remain and just be friends. Oh lord, he wasn't going for that. But, it's like he didn't want me, to leave, but also wasn't putting in enough work for me to stay either. I did tell him, how I didn't want to come off and get on his Nerves and feel as if that I was bothering him. And, he told me that, I wasn't. So now I'm like, what gives and why was he so Absent and just didn't really seem to be Interesting in the sex or me anymore. Like, for me it was more then just the sex. He always made it about sex. And for 6-7 years now he just like Withdrawals. What gives?

[Anonymous]

This is what happens when you're a wh*re.
Can't believe how many people like you exist on GAG, like 6 to 7 years friends with benefits? Seriously.. yeah, ofc he'd get bored you're 24/7 open for him, I mean anyone would be bored.
Maybe he found a quality girl who isn't a wh*re like you and wouldn't want to smash with you anymore.
You clearly stated you saw him as friends with benefits, now why are you hurt? Perhaps you should have had a little bit more shame instead of being up for him 24/7 for 7 years.

[Asker]

(Laughs) I'm not a whore- and I don't go allow anyone in my good grace. Yes I know it's wrong to have someone around for that long. But I also mention about we was on and off as well. So in 7 of those years I haven't had sex with him. But I feel ya and where your coming from. I can't even get mad. Frfr. But a whore. Nawl never that.

[Opinion Owner]

Doesn't make sense, you said 7 years you were friends with benefits, now saying you didn't have sex for 7 years. What's your point?

[Asker]

It's been about 6-7 years since we have known each other. And it's been only 2 times that we didn't have sex. But yes. I did give him the goos for to long and he probably was like so over it. But help me understand, instead of him just saying no more sex... Instead he distance himself but yet would feel some type of way when I told him. No more sex.

[ananias55]

This can be a mix of different possibilities. But you have an easy solution. Just ask him for more sex. Let him know that you're not happy. And if he makes the effort for you then he cares. If he doesn't then his heart really isn't in the relationship

[Asker]

We last spoken. It was like last year. And I was actually Opening up my true self and feelings for him. And all he said, was. How he still wanted too, but Understood if I didn't. But didn't pacifically say what he still wanted to do. Like maybe Continue the sex or try to make us work. I don't know maybe both. But I already laid down my cards on the table and I left him.

[Asker]

But, don't get me wrong. I know that there was a child Involved And some other woman. And the year of (2016)- (2017) I found out that he was in a relationship with someone since 2014. So it Puzzled me4 years to if he was still with her or broken up. It was just a lot of lies and Secrets that he kept from me. As he would say, it was Very toxin in a lot of going back and forth. I don't know even if he truly felt bad. Yeah he Apologize for his wrongs. But never for the fact that he had a whole girlfriend and Cheated on her and keeping me has his side peace and others.

[ananias55]

Thats the kind of guy that doesn't care.

[Asker]

Facts. About her or me or even himself smh