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Is pulling your dick out in a restaurant on the first date sexual harassment or is it a compliment to a woman?

Hi guys, the last few dates I have been on (before the lockdown) have all had one thing in common - the guy I'm on the first date with casually and randomly pulls his dick out during the conversation and asks me to either play with it, suck it, or deep throat it. When I say "ehh no, thanks", he gets extremely angry and says that I'm a useless whore who will never find a man. The conversation prior to him pulling his dick out of his pants was usually something about travelling, his family, the food we're having in the restaurant, some random films and TV shows. I understand it wasn't the most interesting conversation, but it kind of felt appropriate for the beginning of the first date. The guy usually says: "Please suck it, or you have no chance of dating me because I don't want a woman who doesn't enjoy sex!". The man doesn't care that we are in a public place! The restaurant is candle lit and he's doing it in a way that isn't blatantly obvious to the restaurant staff.
Is this normal first date behaviour? Do you ladies suck your man's penis under dinner table on the first date? Is me not liking the situation a sign that I'm a prude? Thank you guys!
Is pulling your dick out in a restaurant on the first date sexual harassment or is it a compliment to a woman?
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  • I do have a lot of questions reading this and honestly don't believe it really went exactly like that. But I have been in situations where dicks got whipped out while I didn't ask for them to pull them out.

    It weren't restaurants and things were heated up more than a conversation about family and travelling, but for instance a first date at a bar and we are outside kissing and the guy whips out his dick and pushes my head down to get to work. That happened more than once. Or watching netfilx on a couch, getting cosy, fondling a little and suddenly I get a big saussage in my face and he grabs my hair and uses my head as a masturbation toy. That also happened.

    It just seems like guys these days are really expecting blowjobs on dates. I don't even think about it as real sex anymore because it's becoming so normal. I don't mind that much, but come to think of it, it's also not a great thing and makes sexual acts like a blowjob completely emotionless.

    • Ahh those sort of situations have also happened to me, years ago in my early 20ies. And you shouldn't be giving a blowjob to someone who doesn't respect you!

    • that's disgusting. lady you're gross and i wouldn't kiss that mouth of yours not even if you used a 100 bottles of mouth wash at once

    • @Rob17792 lol what? Dude I'd open my eyes if I were you and realize not everyone is disgusted with no strings attached sex. In fact most people aren't. Not in the US, not in Europe.

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  • Really not buying into this story.

    However, just for fun. No its not normal and it has never happened to me.

    You need to find a new way to meet guys, if that is the kind of guy you are finding.

    • Again, it was on Tinder, which I have since deleted

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's unhh, I don't have a word. Maybe stupid would cover it best. I doubt if it was much of a turn on- you didn't mention if he was hard. I've had come ons in restuarants that were very sexy and some involved flashed pussy but that's kind of subtle compared to pulling a dick out. Maybe I'm missing something but I love reading those, " what's your biggest turn on" surveys that women answer and I've never read one that said, < when I'm eating oysters rockefeller, I like it when my date pulls his dick out"

  • On a FIRST DATE? Geez Louise, that's the sort of thing I'd hesitant to do with someone I'm MARRIED to. That is VERY MUCH harassment, assuming you made it clear that you wanted it to stop, and it didn't. I'm kind of confused on how NOT wanting quick, easy sex makes you a whore. Either that guy's very mixed up, or there have serious changes in how prostitution works, since last I checked.

    • Thank you very much for your answer! Yeah I'm being called a whore when I turn a guy down by not sleeping with him within first 5 minutes of meeting. I was wondering, what would be the opposite, what could a woman do on the first date that would be similarly harmful? Like, ask the guy to transfer his entire bank balance to her account or else he's poor and stingy? Ask him to get married to her by dragging him to the marriage register, or else he's not serious and a user?

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  • Wtf? LOL

  • You're claiming not one, but three guys did this? And the same way, the same time in the date?
    Don't quit your day job and don't try to become a writer/storyteller cuz a 6 year old could probably come up with a more convincible story than what I just read 😂😂😂
    "Your post has just been nominated for GAG troll post of the year award"😂😂😂

    • this post is so fake

    • @oldtvshowlover188 right!!! Like how stupid to think people gonna really believe that bs😂

    • @Brainsbeforebeauty this site is full of trolls like a man would take out his dick in a restaurant thats a jail sentence & having to go door to door telling people you just moved in the neighborhood

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  • No, it's not. You should take your plate of hot soup, dump it over his nether regions and left. You should also have made a police report against that moron.
    How do you know this guy in the first place?

    • It was a Tinder date and I felt like it was kind of my fault for trying to find love online. We were talking for 2 weeks before meeting up, and not once during the convo he said anything sexual at all, so I thought he would be a safe potential boyfriend choice. Sounded like a total gentleman, so I was obviously shocked that he had faked his entire personality (or hidden it). Looked the same as pictures though.

    • @Asker I could be wrong but I always feel Tinder is more for casual dating and hookups. Maybe try another app that focuses more on serious relationships

    • Yeah I have realized that. I feel like the guy who pulled it out was probably just insecure? I know men these days want to know whether the woman will sleep with them straight away in order to not take a girl out on countless dates and then she would disappear? But dating is like a roulette, you can't put 5 dollars on number 6 and tell the casino:" make sure I win or you will be in big trouble and I will ask for my money back!"

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  • Why do the dumb pink anons on this site, who are most likely guys, troll with these BS stories? I can't see any guy on a date doing that, or any girl not leaving if it was done, unless it was a Tinder date where both were expecting sex.

    Is pulling your dick out in a restaurant on the first date sexual harassment or is it a compliment to a woman?

    • lol im on your side in this situation, however once i kid you not, at a dinner hall at a student residence where 1000s of boys and girls go to get catered food and sit down (like a school dinner hall), this guy turned up at our regular seating area and sat down. A girl who is with us went to get some fruit and suddenly this guy decides to get his dick out and tells us she's so hot omg.. he's like 18yrs old? lol so yeah this is somewhat believable. I know a girl who told me a guy massaged her breasts at a restuarant when he sat her down, thats all he wanted to do then left, wasn't interested in sitting down himself and ordering a meal.

  • Nice post for Troll of the Week

    • I'm not trolling, this is my actual experience and I wish I wasn't telling the truth, or else I wouldn't be single and traumatized

    • Yeah sure... some guys at a restaurant just pull out their cock... TROLLLLLL

    • Well I'm glad it never happened to you. I regret not documenting it, my brain thought that he would get aggressive if he noticed me filming him? And also, why would I want to film it if I found it so disgusting? It's a very difficult choice you have to make very quickly, but in most stressful situations I just freeze, unfortunately.

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  • How are you consistently finding these losers?

    • Because losers attract each other.

  • If it’s the same guy he has mental health issues, as that is not normal.

    there is exposing and then there is harassment.

    if it’s more than one guy, nope you are trolling.

  • Assuming this isn't a figment of your imagination I would call it sexual harassment. I would also call it indecent exposure, & so would the people calling the police.

  • That’s not NORMAL. That’s crazyyyy you had every right to say no. That’s sexual harassment. You aren’t his escort you are his date. He needs to understand these are two different words

  • Harassment

  • Oh yeah that's totally normal, in fact it's customary here in America. 😜😁😁

  • That is truly bizarre behavior. Where ever you found that guy, don't look there again.

    • It was on Tinder, of course. Deleted the app now

    • Good move.

  • That would be a dick move literally 😂nope I wouldn’t do anything with a guy in a restaurant just to get caught and embarrassed. Like really he can just wait until we get a room a do whatever he likes

    • Maybe top it up with mustard sauce 😂😂😂

    • disgusting and gross lady

  • Are you Freaking kidding me?
    I think any guy that does that has A - no respect for you and B - no class!
    Wow, you need to find another group of guys to date, rather than guys who expect you to take care of their dick, right there in the restaurant, or even later.
    Talk about self centered douches!
    My hope is that you do find other guys to date who will treat you with respect and Class. Good luck.

  • Depends on the meal.

    • ok remind me to never get my dick near you EVER... fucking disgusting

  • In no manner is that a compliment to a woman. I mean, that is straight up sexual harassment. And it's the first date, no one even expects a kiss on the first date. Next time that happens, just get up and leave and if possible report this. So that the man will learn, this is not the kind of behaviour a person should have.

    • Thank you for your reply! I wish I could have made this up, but it actually happened to me. I guess you never know who you're meeting from Tinder, and some people are not who they say they are. And certainly don't know how to behave!

    • People are just so desperate for sex that they end up doing bullahit like this.

    • But that definitely isn't a way to get sex!

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  • Not only is it sexual harassment, it's totally disrespectful to you and other diners or staff who may see it... and it has a "ewwwww, how gross" aspect to it - tbh, only a pathetic jerk would do that; it'd also indicate a stupendous ego, this'd be a guy who thinks his dick is:a work of art, and it probably isn't !

  • wtf r u on, in what world is this acceptable

    • Oh really

    • What?

    • What do you mean

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  • This sounds totally believable 👍

    • I wish it wasn't true!

  • Okay. This story would sound more realistic if you claimed 1 guy did it, but your last few dates?

    I'm callin BS. Unless you have the worst Dating luck in the history of the world, or you accidentally signed up on what you thought was a dating site but turned out to be some sort of escort for hire site. (Idek if they exist or not)🤔

    • I signed up for Tinder! And I think it's a good lesson for life - to never chase love, let love come to you instead

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