Why are you for or against Polyamory?

[Anonymous]

I'm curious what people think on the subject.

My view is that it can provide a sort of super family unit, with greater wealth and influential than a traditional monogram family. Particularly if many of the women are productive professionals.

The kind of polyamory I'm interested in is a polyfidelity, harem style. As in I'd like to be the only guy, with several women, have a bunch of kids, pool our incomes and childcare efforts and live a better standard of living than would be possible with just two cooperating adults. It really can be a way to escape our debt trap society.

My main reason for wanting to be the only guy is because I've read about bad psychological outcomes for poly groups with multiple men, where the low status men become unhinged and violent. My reasoning is more about creating a stable home for kids rather than living out an orgy fantasy. If you're not having kids then by all means do whatever you like in my opinion.

I've had a bit of interest, but not the commited LTR interest I'm actually interested in, more from just swingers and such. Mind you I live in a small generally conservative city, so that might be part of the problem.

I find that most women seem to assume all poly is only swinging and just refuse to consider it out of hand. Is it a possessiveness thing? Or are they worried about competing with the other women?

Is it about not having the monopoly on sex in the relationship?

It's interesting though, it seems that being anti polyamory is the only thing liberals and conservatives can agree upon. If it makes that many people mad I feel like I'm on to something.

[perfectchaos]

Not into polygamy. The most poly thing about me is would not care if my significant other wanted to mess around with other girls. by the way I don't want to be a part of that messing around.

[Juxtapose]

I would be interested in a three-way relationship that was equal. I'm not the jealous type anyway.

[Juxtapose]

Thanks for mho my man.

[Asker]

No problemo

[Justneedtokno]

Honestly at the end of the day I get a little jealous and I don’t like to share. I had a hard time with my ex he wanted to be with me and this other girl at the same time and I can’t.

[Justneedtokno]

Well thank you 😊

[SavageGirl101]

I lowkey could never been into poly stuff because I don’t wanna be shared💁‍♀️And I’ll get jealous so nah I just want a normal relationship not a poly one

[Asker]

So for you it's about possessiveness and getting all of the attention? Gotcha.

[SavageGirl101]

Ofc💁‍♀️

[Asker]

Well I admire an honest answer. Most women won't articulate their objection beyond a low seething rage at the idea of a guy being a dominant chooser lol

[SavageGirl101]

What?🤣

[SavageGirl101]

“A guy being a dominant chooser” what bro?

[Asker]

Women usually want to be the chooser not the chaser in terms of romantic affection. And I don't know what it is about society these days but it seems like their training everyone to be a soyboi.

[SavageGirl101]

What’s wrong with being the chooser💁‍♀️

[Asker]

Nothing, I prefer it. It's just a bit boring to play to type in my opinion.

[SavageGirl101]

“Bit boring to play to type”? 😭😭whatttt

[Asker]

As in it's boring to have to chase women, I prefer it when they come to me lol.

[SavageGirl101]

It’s boring to chase anyone

[Asker]

I suppose I should point out that you're can share without being shared in poly if that's what you negotiate with your partner.

[SavageGirl101]

What do u mean?

[Minahh]

I'd never get into a polyamorous relationship for numerous reasons. I don't like to be shared and I don't like to share. It is enough for me to get involved in one person's drama, I don't need a second one. You've mentioned that it could help with debt hmm I don't want to deal with a manipulate bastard who only wants to my steal money from me or who is so lazy he can't get up his ass and find a decent job and also I'm on a journey of awakening so that's against my belief of how should relationships work/kids be raised.

[Asker]

You seem to be projecting a lot of personal drama on the concept. If everybody works and pitches in then a poly cluster could live in luxury house or mansion where their professions would only normally yield a meager apartment. It's interesting that you assume some kind of exploitation, and I think that reflects more on your own psychology than on the concept. As for how kids should be raised, I suppose you'd prefer them to be raised poor, or by strangers in a daycare?

[Minahh]

No I'm not projecting. I'm stating my own opinion and you don't have to agree with me and neither I'm asking you to. Yeah probably at least loving parents can adopt them who are going to give them more than poor parents who fuck around without thinking about the consequences.

[Asker]

I think you're missing the point. In western countries if you're lower or middle class in a traditional two parent family you get two choices. Mom stays at home, and the family is relatively poor, or mom works, and strangers raise the kids in daycare. This is the reality in North America, UK etc. Maybe it's different wherever you're from. Eastern Europe right?

[Asker]

Also loving or not loving wasn't part of the subject, you're projecting again.

[Minahh]

Here mother stays with the child until it is 3. When it is beyond that age or even sooner naturally it goes to day care/kindergarten. In my country mostly gypsies are poor and most of the population is middle class and also if someone told even a word about polyamory our country based on catholic faith would eat him alive.

[Asker]

Ah so you would have strangers raise your children and yet you presume to lecture me on what constitutes a good environment. Why are you being up gypsies? 🤣 Just do you have someone who you can feel superior too? Here's a bit about basic economics, no more than a third of a population can be middle class. You're not middle class based on your feelings, it's a relative income calculation. I suppose you could be including itinerants in order to fool yourselves into thinking you're all middle class, but it's not doing you any favors. As for the Catholics, how much stock can you place in the piety of a clergy which surrounds itself in gold while ignoring the suffering poor, protects pedos, and allows the CCP to appointment Bishops who literally edit the Bible. You think those clowns are worth listening to? Go for it. Furthermore, by changing the Sabbath to Sunday which no man has the authority to do, and worshipping mortal Mary, they are outwardly luciferian. Think about that for a while if you want to get on a high horse about being Catholic.

[Minahh]

Alrighty you can have the last word. I'm not going to argue with a stranger on the internet anymore. Have a nice day.

[Asker]

Well thank you for the interesting conversation. I think my key failing is to account for emotionalism and slave morality.

[SavageGirl101]

@Minahh yess sis👏👏

[Asker]

Oh sure gang up on me. 🙄 Dogpiling doesn't make for a valid argument.

[SavageGirl101]

Hush I wasn’t even talking to u🤠silence child

[Asker]

You really shouldn't encourage the whole racist against gypsies, projecting negativity, suddenly catholic schtick, but you do you. LoL

[SavageGirl101]

What are u even talking about 😂boi please hush

[Asker]

Read the whole thread 😅

[SavageGirl101]

Polygamy is gross and what sis said first is truueee so I agreed

[Asker]

Ah, so you're here to troll gotcha. You know what's really gross, slave morality and embracing a mediocre life.

[SavageGirl101]

How am I gross because I find polygamy disgusting? Y’all learned the word “troll” and haven’t stopped using it since

[Asker]

You can be disgusted by whatever you want. Personally I find closemindedness disgusting, but you do you.

[SavageGirl101]

It’s not closeminded to not wanna be poly💋so u do u boo

[Asker]

You're free to not want to do it. It's closed minded to pass judgement on it and call it disgusting. I'd that how you treat LGBT? Call them disgusting too?

[SavageGirl101]

Lgbtq and poly people are 2 different things sorry u already lost the argument by tryna bring up something completely invalid

[SavageGirl101]

And since when did being closeminded become a bad thing👀it’s disgusting end of discussion

[Asker]

Oh you say you win that must make it so. 🤣

[SavageGirl101]

Yep💋

[Minahh]

@SavageGirl101 👏