How many of your sexual partners were totally stupid mistakes?

Question

Looking back on my history, there are a few women who I just should have kissed goodnight and then gone home. . . and then ghosted. . . but NO! They were available and I knew it was wrong but I "had to" have sex. And you know how that goes, don't you? There was the girl who my brother had the hots for but she threw herself at me (and she later threw herself at him, too.) There was the girl who I thought was probably borderline after the first date but she had a smokin' hot body (and, yes, she was BPD and batshit crazy.) And there was the girl who was an hour late to our first date and I rationalized having sex with her just "to get even" (which was a stupid, low class act by me.) And ten there is one more that was so incredibly stupid that I won't confess the details to anyone.  Fortunately, those mistakes were made back when Ronald Reagan was president and the experiences have taught me some lessons, but if I had my life to re-live, if I had the chance to void some of those mistakes. . . my body count would be about 15% lower than it is. What percentage of your body count would be eliminated if you could go back in time and change the results? How many of those mistakes were recent rather than in your remote past?

razelove · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't call any of them mistakes. Also this ghosting term is just funny to me. Two people show up with both parties explicitly expecting some no strings attached fun, and one person wants to complain about not being able to get in touch because they're horny, grew feelings or just like to complain.

Anyway, the relationships and what I leaned from them were never mistakes, if anything at all it would be the mentality I had at the time. The jacked up situations where you wonder "damn, why am I dealing with this shit, you know what, I'm not going to" lead you to think back that you dealt with a dangerous, or BS situation because you put yourself there. You knew it wasn't good from the start... but damn was she hot, the logic only kicked in when you weren't in proximity anymore, or after sex.

Those "mistakes" were another of many pushes that got me off drugs, as I saw people who were farther along on that voyage than I was, got turned off, made up excuses, and started to reconsider my own decisions after a while.

Hell, as time went on, the bad relationships I had taught me to handle future bad relationships I could see brewing and get that out of my life like a grenade cook-off. Also some good women in different fields I could call on topics I might get confused about and need an expert to walk me through. Psychology, Archaeology, so on and so forth.

I mean, STDs are never fun, but I managed to dodge all the H's, and the rest are irrelevant in comparison.

ThisAndThat · Accepted Answer

I'm not proud of it the answer shouldn't even be two. However I had two outside of wedlock and both were a huge mistake with the last one being almost 35 years ago when I walked away. After calling it off with the last one seeing how things were then and that compared to how they are now deciding to not attempt it again, of course things lead to me not getting married starting a family, I felt life wasn't fair, things weren't fair. However looking back at it now, God was watching out for me the whole time.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Really, probably just one! Worst mistake, worst cuz repeated it longer than I knew I should and lonliness not a good enough excuse to be THAT stupid...

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

0%  I've only ever had the one and he's my husband so...

kannettava · Answer

I've never had casual sex, so none of my partners were a mistake.

CharlieBadger · Answer

The only mistakes are the ones I let get away.

Lliam · Answer

Of all my former girlfriends, there was only one that was a disaster. She was really pretty but turned out to be certifiably fucked up in the head. All the others were good girls.

loves2learn · Answer

Zero

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

2,  One was just a bad choice, the other a psycho bitch from hell. , stalker, psycho in the extremis

JackSmy · Answer

None, at all! I would NEVER 'undo' any of those relationships! Maybe a few were not the best choice, but we had a lot of fun, together, for a while.

Leavesbound · Answer

3 out of seven.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I would say it’s about 30% of them were regrets because of the drama, headaches, unable to keep things simple, etc.

Of course with time and age, I become more wiser and more careful with my selections with who I engage with now. Whether it was a girl who called at random times, showed up with no warning at my place/ job, etc. I don’t have any bone in my body for the drama because it’s so pointless and attention seeking. Eh, you live and you learn.

NathanDavis · Answer

So far I've been quite selective... so there's no mistakes and zero regrets.

infinitybreaker2018 · Answer

I want to say all of them. But one was still really good

t-8900 · Answer

I never had a sexual partner that I was not emotionally connected with. And every relationship makes you learn, grow, adapt, and overcome. I am stronger for all my relationships good or bad. So 0%

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Thankfully not that many

Neko911 · Answer

1. The first person I ever had sex with. I only said yes cause I was afraid to say no

Redstang88 · Answer

There’s a couple I probably wouldn’t do again, but it wasn’t that bad

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

The ones that didn’t turn out to be relationships

Massageman · Answer

Zero.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I regret committing to people I shouldn't have over having sex with people.

Myk13 · Answer

Wow, that’s a good one! Off the top of my head. I would say 10, give or take. More than half of them were mistakes because one of us felt awkward after that and it ended our friendship. The rest of them, I simply have no idea what the hell I was thinking.

monkeynutts · Answer

None I still love all those queefing little fuckers. Don’t matter how crazy they were. Some of the experiences were truly meaningful, others slightly annoying. But it’s all in the past.