Should I have taken it?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has been talking about having a baby (especially since he knows I just stopped taking birth control) I said that I won't agree to actively try but if it happens it happens. Yesterday we had sex and he came in me each round. I went to the pharmacy to pick up some meds and I also brought a plan b... He already as a kid and I told him I don't wanna just be another baby mom during the conversation we had about trying and he said why would you just be a baby mom we literally always talk about us getting married. Which we do like we even talked about the type of engagement ring I want. After that part of the conversation I said the whole not actively thing. The whole time we were having sex he kept saying I can't wait for you to have my baby or I'm gonna make sure you have my baby and stuff like that. So like really was I wrong for taking the plan b?

[Anonymous]

Be sure that YOU are 100% ready and don’t let him talk you into anything until you are — I can’t stress that enough. That is a lifelong commitment, even if you guys don’t work in the long run. I know the plan is to be together forever (and you guys absolutely may), but realistically, life happens and sometimes that isn’t the case for everyone. Would you be ready to co-parent? Or mother alone? Are you ready financially? What about your career and goals — can you still work towards these as a parent, or are willing to try? These are all obstacles you have to consider and be ready for. If you didn’t feel quite ready then you made the smartest choice by taking the plan B. Take your time with this huge decision. Even if the age thing is an issue (pushing 30 without kids, I’m right there with you and I get it lol); do what feels right. Ask him to stop pressuring you about kids, and let these things happen naturally.

[loves2learn]

You sound quite confused. You need to iron all that out before making babies.

[bowenw]

You're not wrong for taking a Plan B. It's your body and you have not agreed to actively try to get pregnant. He seems to be focused on having a baby regardless of your wishes. If he continues to disrespect your wishes, I suggest you start taking birth control again or that he finds someone who will give him the baby he wants.

[Asker]

I know it's my body and stuff but I kinda felt bad once I got back home.

[bowenw]

You may feel bad because you feel you are going against your partners wishes. That seems like a normal reaction. If you continue to have unprotected sex you will likely get pregnant. I think you and your boyfriend should come to an agreement regarding having a baby. If you're not sure use some form of birth control until you are.

[Asker]

I know we need to have more of a conversation especially because I've had horrible side effects of every birth control I've taken. It's not that I don't want a baby I'm just terrible.

[bowenw]

You are not terrible. You are simply dealing with making a big decision. With regard to birth control options I suggest speaking with your doctor or pharmacist. As for having a baby, you may want to wait until you've been with your boyfriend longer to be sure everything you are planning falls into place, such as getting married.

[Asker]

We've been together for 4 years last week. Thank you

[Kabluie]

It's your choice, i had a girl take plan b once, but that was a mutual agreement because we both wanted unprotected sex in the moment and there was no other option. You should talk to him about expectations since it's a good subject to build on long-term.

[Red_Arrow]

You have gotten yourself in a bad situation with him. Do not make it worse by getting pregnant. You will become a mother and he will leave you for the next gal.

[Asker]

😂😂😂 so not what happened in the situation with his kids mom but okay.

[exitseven]

Does boyfriend have a job?

[Asker]

Of course. Why would he not?

[exitseven]

Just a hunch, thats all.

[Asker]

He is in tech and makes 6 figures. Money isn't a problem in this situation. Please do know imply that because he has/wants child out of wedlock that he is some "bum" cause he is far from that. If you didn't have any advice to give you could have kept scrolling.

[exitseven]

I guess I would like to apologize. Sorry.

[COMMODOREII]

Yes take it.

[Yellovv]

Does your first baby from different person?

[Asker]

I don't have any kids

[Yellovv]

Ok you can let him cum inside you, whenever he want.