Is asking a girl what size she prefers inappropriate when starting to date?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to this girl and she mentioned her sexual history before. She had talked at length about how unsatisfied she's been sexually and even went as far to say she broke up with a guy over his penis size.
I randomly asked her what is too small for her and I have yet to hear back. I'm decent sized, but I'm unsure now that she's mentioned how small her ex was.

[IronLady6354]

I can answer it right now and save you the trouble: she more than likely doesn't care. This obsession some men have over their penis size comes from watching way too much porn and not listening enough to what actual women (who aren't getting paid to spew out a bunch of BS in regards to what they like sexually) want. The vast majority of women are not physically/visually attracted to penises. Don't get me wrong, there are parts of the male body women go crazy over, but the penis isn't one of them. Women do love a man who knows how to use his penis right during sex, but that has little to nothing to do with the actual penis size. In fact, if a penis is too big it can actually make sex more painful and less enjoyable.

[Asker]

Just the way she talked about the one ex, she seemed she cared a bit. I get what you're saying. I appreciate it

[loves2learn]

It wasn’t just his size that was the problem. He didn’t know how to use it.

[loves2learn]

Thanks for the MHO. :)

[NamerOfStars]

Ordinarily, it's not something I'd ask, but if she's openly told you she broke up with a guy over it, it's probably better to hash it out now, so you don't waste time.

[Twalli]

It's fair because of what she was talking about. Generally it's not a goid thing to ask.

[Asker]

It's been some time since she told me about this.

[BarryLiverstone]

You shouldn’t have asked

[Pizzanado]

Dude, she wants BBC. I met them white girls.
Do I actually have that or no?
Don't ask, don't tell.👌

[Nayyrr]

I would of stopped talking to her immediately

[Anonymous]

Normally I would say no, but since you had a talk about it and she has a strong opinion on the size, I do think its is an ok question to sort out before you start dating for real.

[Asker]

Even though she mentioned this a while ago? We just haven't had sex yet and it's getting serious

[Opinion Owner]

yes, she said she dumped a guy because of size, I see why you would be concerned, and she can just be honest and say what is too small.

[Asker]

Do you think she'll be upset with me for asking? Plus, what if I'm not as big as she wants?

[Opinion Owner]

probably, but just tell her you got concerned because what happened with her ex. If you are smaller than what she say is her limit, then you could tell her and let her decide if she wants to give you a chance anyway. Sex is way more than just the penetration and maybe you can give her better sex then her ex anyway.

[Asker]

Yeah, she says it takes a lot to make her mad. But she already can tell I'm not a confident person. I said I felt stupid for asking, cause it was just random and out there. She also knows I'm inexperienced