Will his erection problems during sex change the way he feels about me?

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This guy has all 3 night we have had sex in total, had some sort of problem. He can’t get/stay fully hard and he can’t cum in combination with that. He has been drinking all times though, if that has an effect?

In general we connect so well, have fun, and are comfortable in each others company- I really like him.

I’ve noticed he has distanced himslef and I don’t know if it’s because he thinks it’s boring because he can’t cum when he is with me - or if it’s because he doesn’t feel masculine around me as he cannot ”perform”, according to what’s expected.

What do you think? Anyone who recognize this?

Answer 1

NamerOfStars | 1.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Drinking can indeed impact it; more the more you consume. Now, lots of people think that a penis should be essentially spring-loaded and ready to go instantly, for as long as the man its a part of wants- but that's not how biology works. Disease, stress, and other factors can put a damper on things. Usually, it's a temporary thing- give a few minutes or a few days, and it should go back to normal; it's not always a serious medical problem.

Unfortunately, stress tends to be self-reinforcing; you're stressed out, so your body doesn't respond right, which just stresses you out more. Have you tried oral stimulation? I'm told that can get better results. It can also let you get him off with a lower level of rigidity than penetration requires; if you can satisfy each other orally, that'd be an option- and a good thing that'd be, too. See, it's not likely that his feelings towards YOU will change, but he won't be doing himself any favors. It's a blow to self-esteem, and it's not hard to see how he'd feel inadequate- which, in turn, won't be doing the erection situation anything good.

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Good input- thanks!
I don’t feel comfortable doing oral on someone I haven’t been seeing for enough times or have full trust for. It is very intimate for me and I like to build things up step by step when it comes to sex.

I just thought that as he might not feel masculine around me - it might affect the overall feeling he has about me and that could be a result of feeling less connected maybe.

Have heard that guys fall in love with how a girl makes them feel. So if a girl makes him feel masculine and at his best, he will fall.

Answer 2

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Good input- thanks!
I don’t feel comfortable doing oral on someone I haven’t been seeing for enough times or have full trust for. It is very intimate for me and I like to build things up step by step when it comes to sex.

I just thought that as he might not feel masculine around me - it might affect the overall feeling he has about me and that could be a result of feeling less connected maybe.

Have heard that guys fall in love with how a girl makes them feel. So if a girl makes him feel masculine and at his best, he will fall.