Would you allow your teen child to have sex in your home?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Yes, sex is healthy and natural for both young men and women as they enter physical sexual maturity. It is better that they have a place where they can meet their needs in safety and privacy.

To be sure, I come at it from a somewhat clinical point of view. My father was a doctor - retired now - who tended to treat nudity and sex as just another day at the office. Nudity was never a big deal in my house - I saw my brothers and sister in the nude and they me - and as I got into my early puberty it never occurred to me not to ask my dad - or even my mom - about sex.

When, as a teen, if I was naked and I had an erection, it was taken more or less with a shrug of the shoulders. Though sometimes my brothers would tease me and I them.

As to sex itself, the truly exemplary moment was when my dad came home early one time and caught my girlfriend and I having sex. I had left my bedroom door wide open - thinking we had the house to ourselves - and dad walked by. All he said was, and I will never forget it, "Oh, excuse me." Then as he closed the door he added, "Don't forget to use a condom."

That was it!! I took it in stride but my girlfriend was mortified. Believe me, we were both completely naked and you could not miss much. However, after about ten minutes or so I calmed her down and we finished - though she did that more for me I think. She just wanted to get dressed and get out - though later we laughed about it.

Anyhow, with my own kids - two boys, one girl (all quite young right now) - when they get older I want them to enjoy sex and to know that it is perfectly healthy and natural and I want them to have it when they feel they are ready. It will be better for them and will help them accept that part of their natures and instincts.

To have that, they need to have sex in a place where they are safe and it is accepted and not hidden away. They need to know that there is nothing to hide or be ashamed of when they want to share their naked bodies with another person, rather out of love or even simple pure lust and instinct. A place like their home is the best place for them to learn how to manage those feelings and that experience.

[Little_Bumblebee]

This right here is such a good answer I love it.

[Opinion Owner]

@Little_Bumblebee Thanks for your kind remark - and the thumbs up.

[schließlich]

So correct! Being a place of safety and comfort where they can explore their needs and desires is key!

[Opinion Owner]

@schließlich Certainly that is a very important part. Also to understand sex not as something that is shameful, but natural and instinctive.

[schließlich]

Exactly, parents job should be helping their kids learn, hand on teaching and instruction

[Opinion Owner]

@schließlich Well, young people can be skittish about those things so parents should do what they can. However, it is a simple fact of life that instinct will drive young people to do what they will and it is likely inevitable that much of what they learn they will learn on their own. The job of the parents being to make them comfortable and also to make sure that they understand that while their feelings are natural, spontaneous and instinctive, certain responsibilities attend those instincts. Suffice to say, and here I speak as the parent of four - it is as much an art as a science.

[Opinion Owner]

@schließlich As a teenager - or as a parent of same?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, by the way, I "followed" you, so that should open up DM I think. Forgive me, I am not very technologically savvy.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes but ideally not when I am home.

I had sex at home, but was not until just over 16 that I was unofficially allowed to.

it was not like a ‘go on son bang her upstairs’

just an unspoken thing that it was allowed.

17 was first time I had a girl sleep over.

[rxm_bxl]

Let's start at "would I allow my teen child to have sex, period?"

However I feel like we cannot stop teens, whether they are our children or not, from having sex, it most possibly will happen. We can only advice them on how to go about it safely. However our teens at least owe us discretion if their having sex under our roof, like i shouldn't fucking know. So it's not a matter of allowing, but rather I shouldn't know.

[GrimmGothBabe]

They will do it anyway doesn't matter what you do or say to prevent it. Think back we were all teens once and I know I wasn't sexually active but I heard all the fun ways classmates and friends would sneak about because the parents didn't allow it. If teens really want it they will find a way.

[kannettava]

If they were fully educated on sex and protection and had common decency, I don't find anything wrong with that.

[schließlich]

Exactly! It’s important for parents to help guide and teach kids in sex as well to ensure safety and a great time.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No I wouldn't and didn't... My feelings are if you grown enough to have sex than you should be grown enough not to do it in your mommy and daddy's house... Teens can abstain from sex, but the minute you give them the okay they're going to do it...

[DizzyDesii]

I’d be like, Just because ya mama and daddy did it dont mean you should too 😂 I want you to be better 🤣 seriously, they can take that shxt elsewhere. I’d LIKE for my kids to wait til marriage but if they didn't, I’d prefer they at least wait til 18 and having already graduated HS. If you're gonna have sex, please do it somewhere outside of my house

[loves2learn]

Yes. I would. My house will always be a safe place to talk about and have sex.

[schließlich]

Same. Loudly and openly if desired.

[ushagomez]

Of course, absolutely. It is much better for a teenager to be safe and comfortable enjoying at home then them feeling they have to sneak out and hide somewhere.

[schließlich]

Exactly. Teach condom use and proper technique and be there to assist in anything is the key

[Astarlessnightsky]

Yes. Of course i would.

[Poppymarie]

No I would not. If they’re old enough to have sex they’re old enough to have their own place to fuck at.

[AndyOh]

Nope.
Once you let them start, then they will think it is always a safe place to hang out, have sex, party, etc.
So my advice is to say no. Also, advise them about birth control!!

[just_a_potato]

If my teen is 16 sexually they aren't my responsibility anymore, I would teach them about abstinence and birth control but the rest is up to them. But no one is fucking in my house, and I would never have sex in my parents house either. It's odd and a little disrespectful in my eyes.

[Agape93]

Yeah. Rather home where it’s safe than at someone else’s house where I can’t protect them if need be.

[sheikalana]

It depends how young and mature they are and how young their partner is and they have to wear a condom.

[schließlich]

Showing how to use a condom young is crucial, and teaching and answering any questions

[sheikalana]

@schließlich I believe so too. This should be more emphasized amongst teenagers. There's a lot of information nowadays but some of them still like to take the risk perhaps because they were not 100% informed.

[schließlich]

Exactly! It’s why my wife and I tend to show our kids how to properly have sex. Hands on always is the best bet.

[exitseven]

No. I don't think so.

[lucyloo76]

No , or not want to know.

[JessieBellll]

You should

[lucyloo76]

@JessieBellll , she is 13. I remember what I was doing at the same age. It makes me cringe. My parents told me not to do something I just did it to find out why not. Thankfully we are closer than I was with my parents.

[schließlich]

13 is a great age to start having sex, hopefully you will give her a place to do it safely with your guidance and help

[lucyloo76]

@schließlich I want her safe and if she is wanting to go down that road it will need to be looked into

[schließlich]

I would definitely recommend letting her into your bedroom, to ensure she is looked after. I would want to help her along the way and make she is safe during each of her encounters at that age. Your daughter is very beautiful and it would be wonderful to share in her first experiences sexually with her!

[lucyloo76]

@schließlich As far as I know her first experience with sex , was to see her dad having sex with a girlfriend. She had gone to bed and heard a lot of noise she went into the dining room. And through the French windows she could see her dad totally naked. Shafting the girl. I asked her what did you , I watched them. How did it make you feel excited and funny inside. I said how long were you there , she said about half an hour.

[schließlich]

Sounds like she enjoyed seeing her father fucking his girlfriend! Thats really cute! I hope she was able to cum herself while watching him!

[genericname85]

i would not allow them to have sex but i would still provide them with condoms. cause i think that's what a responsible parent does. "officially" not allowing it but still handing the tools to do it responsibly, if they decide to do it anyway.

[Bethany98]

Yeah, better there then somewhere unsafe

[soe11]

Absolutely yes.

[always_og]

Yes definitely. You can't always stop teens doing what they want so you might as well support it and make sure they're being safe, otherwise they're possibly just gonna do it behind your back anyway.

[schließlich]

I will encourage it! I hope they explore all their sexual needs in comfort and safety with family

[Dchrls78104]

NEVER!

[Wiredone]

I would/did let them have sex in my house behind a closed unlocked door. If I heard her say stop more than once I'll beat his ass right out of the house. Lucky for him he was responsible and respectful of my daughter. I'd rather she had sex in a safe place where she was protected if the guy got out of hand not somewhere in a car where he can force her to do things she wasn't ready for.