Men are you intimidated by lesbians since it’s seen as competition for the same women?

[ct1243]

I see it as competition sometimes when you have some guy being macho behind a woman. I’m not saying their is anything wrong in regards to competition, but it is when a guy makes it and than whines about it. This confirms that some women have power and it has nothing to do with equality it’s always been about sexuality. Sexuality has no barriers on women and what their capable of doing in the work field , relationships, and etc. Equality has always been about being equal in regards to men as women. I never saw men as my equal challenge , but more say of as a woman who can live fully in my sexuality and thrive on that. Men have it twisted especially when it comes to concept of lesbians and how that comes into place of being one. I didn’t wake up one day and said I want to be gay - this was an aspect of me that I embraced on because of characteristics I loved on women at 13-15. I rather deal with the masculine / femininity aspect of a woman because she can balance both ( all women and men have both aspects ) believe it or not. I want both lol , but it’s never been about equality for women who understand themselves and femininity. There are a lot of lesbians who hate men and those are your undercover feminist to a degree. I can’t hate what I don’t desire and I can’t hate what I have no experiences with. Sorry men ! There are a lot of women who genetically know who they are and they embrace that.

[Miristheiss]

No.
I know the core way life works and I don't really pay any attention to these "against the grain, against the norm" things out there.

There are men and women. Men want women. Women want men. People want to fall in love, get married and have families. Biologically everything is geared up for that... their bodies perfectly fit together and produce offspring.

Lesbians, bisexuals, gay guys, trans people... all of that stuff. I know it is on the fringe... it has nothing to do with me. I married my wife, we have a child. That is pretty much how life works. All of nature works that way. I pay no mind at all to the other. Lesbians are irrelevant to me for dating. They don't want me... I don't want them. I'd never want any women who was open to going down that road so our paths never cross and we have nothing to do with each other. I may know someone socially but our dating, romance lives never cross paths in any way so it doesn't matter to me.

That is minority stuff... not the mainstream society. TV and entertainment probably tries to make it as if half of the world's population is that way but it is a small percentage. If I were single and 90% of the population were lesbians then it might have been an issue.

[ct1243]

You do realize lesbians can have babies without male penetration? 😂 lesbians can have kids I have biological kids and I’m lesbian.. a lot of us have kids prior to our sexuality transition

[ct1243]

There are other options to have kids though

[Miristheiss]

So. I don't care. What's that got to do with me? I just dated the 90 plus percent of the women that want men.

[ct1243]

I’m making a point since you made it clear about nature and how it’s done ( norm) .. I don’t see the use of a man unless she wants a baby with him biologically - everything a man can do so can a woman in regards to relationships, marriages, etc

[Miristheiss]

To sum up. The percentages of lesbians are very low so there is no reason to view it as competition. If it were "competition" then I'd rule that girl out anyway because I only dated straight girls... not bi. No intimidation.

[ct1243]

I never said the numbers were high actually I posted a general question since some men are intimidated by studs and the LGBTQ community

[ct1243]

Also lesbians

[slatyb]

But it's not "competition for the same women". Gay women are not available to me.

That notion of "competition for the same women" comes from the idea that young women are the property of their tribe and they have a duty to accept some male of the tribe as their partner. It's the same feeling that drives hatred of inter-racial couples. Who is most invested in this idea? Males having difficulty attracting a partner, and looking for someone or something to blame besides themselves, whether it's interracial dating, or lesbianism, or feminism, or anything that saves them from having to look in the mirror at the root of their problem.

This idea of women as tribal property is at the heart of most religious fundamentalism. All fundamentalist religions are heavy with sexual taboos focused on controlling the sexual behavior of young women.

[ct1243]

A lot of men nowadays see lesbians as competition when in actuality they’re not interested in men in the first place. Men still think they can change lesbians or get them to convert back to men. My sexuality is what it is. I don’t need anyone to change me. I had a friend who tried to change me and we lost friendship because of that.

[ct1243]

Feminism and lesbian total different aspects a lot of women date men because they hate men. I date women because I desire them and is happy with them. ❤️🏳️‍🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈❤️

[JackSmy]

How is it "competition" if she is a lesbian? For it to be 'competition' I would have to be interested, and want to be with her. DUH!! She is with a girl, so why would I be interested in her? She likes something else.
Yeah, all for women's rights, and choosing, but don't post this shit, and make it seem like somehow guys are 'losing' something, like men are somehow inferior!!
You make a lot of JUGMENTAL COMMENTS, that ARE OFFENSIVE, just assuming all guys are like whichever one you are so bitter about!
Love who you love, and just be who you are, but don't post this load of BULLSHIT, assuming that somehow "You Won" and somehow some guy lost!!
That is just sexist, bias, and nonsense!!

[ct1243]

Who said I was bitter? It’s a question , but you’re making it personal for me whatever reason I don’t know. Yes a lot of men chase lesbians and I still get approached by men who know I’m lesbian. A lot of men are intimidated by lesbians and I can pull up videos on this on YouTube

[ct1243]

Studs vs men and how their pissed at females who dress like dudes

[ct1243]

You’re making it personal and it’s not sexist it’s a question but ok dude

[JackSmy]

@ct1243 I meant no offense, but you went on, and on, and on, so it seemed a personal issue. You could have made your point in two sentences, but you shared much more! NOT SAYING THAT WAS bad! You maybe needed to "VENT" and that's OK, with me. I didn't "MAKE IT PERSONAL"!! YOU, TOOK what I wrote, PERSONALLY!! Don't blame me, and come back at me for just replying what I thought from your post! You CHOSE to read what I wrote, as a PERSONAL ATTACK, when it was never intended that way! Take control of your own feelings, and own those, and don't blame others for shit that you perceive, that was never intended or said! You said a lot of OFFENSIVE things, about/to men, and I let those go.

[ct1243]

I’m responding to the sexist comment you made with judgmental. I haven’t given you a reason to even think this post is judgmental, but this is how all you men think without logic and understanding. You think every lesbian hates men. I don’t think about men period. All the whiney emotional comments proves that men want to fill entitled to something. No worries nor every lesbian is chasing your straight girlfriend. I don’t even date or deal with straight women or bisexuals. I’m not a bisexual. The other stereotype is all lesbians dress like dudes.. I’m a femme which means I am the female and my counterpart is has a bit of both ( masculine and feminine traits ) your homophobic comments make me wretch 🤮.. you clearly hate gays especially lesbians

[ct1243]

Yes some of you are bothered by gays lesbians but why were still females at the end of the day lol 😂..

[JackSmy]

@ct1243 Sorry, no more time for an insane idiot that cannot read, and only focuses on her own BULLSHIT BIAS filters! Wish you the best, Bye, bye!!

[Leavesbound]

No I am not intimidated at all. Women who date women tend not to be interested in men. One of my friends is a lesbian and she has made an excellent wing man since we don't like the same type.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Not at all.

It would be like being afraid the vegan will steal your steak at a BBQ.

[wankiam]

no...

[Runnerc838]

I'm not really intimidated by lesbians because we're two different sexes.
If a woman I'm seeing decides she wants vagina I can't give her that.
If she wants a real penis, the lesbian can't give her one.
There's no way for either to compete so no need to feel intimidation.

[ct1243]

Strap ons bruh lol all these sexy toys I get to differ. I rather be ate than strapped.

[Runnerc838]

I understand, but every woman I dated who had sex toys always told me that nothing can replace the feeling of a real penis.

[ct1243]

There not lesbian than lol 😂 they still desire penis of course their bisexual or straight

[ct1243]

I’m not yearning for dick give me oral stimulation all day from a woman

[Runnerc838]

I'm definitely not dating lesbians as they wouldn't date me anyway.

[ct1243]

You can’t date a lesbian they don’t want you either. Don’t take it as rejection it’s not

[Runnerc838]

I don't even try to date lesbians so there's no issue.

[ct1243]

There’s no way you can date a lesbian unless their bisexual or straight and lying about their sexuality.. I don’t date bisexuals

[ct1243]

Ok..

[snackthatsmilesback]

Huh? I'm not in competition. You can have anyone who wants you ✌

[bowenw]

No as they are looking for lesbians whereas I am not.

[Ripper_E]

No. The competition is there whether it's a man or woman. The only women Lesbians compete for are the ones actually interested in women. The ones who are straight still have other men trying to get at them, so there is no difference.

[Not_Average]

Nope

[Alexandrubaschet08]

No, but anoyed, why do i need to be in competition whit some crazy womans?

[ct1243]

I don't know lots of triggered comments below and even yours ijs

[genericname85]

I think you're not understanding the situation. Lesbians aren't my competition. I'm looking for straight women

[ct1243]

I didn’t say you. I’m speak on men who think they can change or convert lesbians or magically expect women to want them

[genericname85]

well i'm not gonna go out of my way to convert someone. but if shit works out, it works out. my best friend is married to a former lesbian and they're awaiting their first baby now. guess "straight till you get em wet" works both ways :D

[ct1243]

She was never lesbian you know how many times I read this story down my feed. Another guy said the same thing lol.. so if these women are having sex with men their not lesbian to begin with. If a woman has sex with a man and woman she’s bisexual. I don’t care to have sex with men thus making me lesbian.

[ct1243]

He married a former lesbian which means she wasn’t lesbian to begin with

[genericname85]

are you just assuming her sexual orientation? xD *triggered screeching*

[ct1243]

Starting to believe you men are lying 🤥

[genericname85]

well if a girl tells you, she's a lesbian and then she fuck you, guess it's she, who was lying, not him, right?

[ct1243]

I’m not assuming anything Wikipedia and Dictionary will give you the proper text of a lesbian , bisexual, Queer, Transgender , etc. I’ve been in the LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈 community since I was a teen. I have no experiences with men at all no dates , no marriage, no real relationship either nothing long term and nothing short term. I tried to date men and it doesn’t go anywhere. I’m neither attracted to men sexually nor romantically ; actually I’m not attracted to the male penis or have any desire to marry a man or be with one. I can’t bare any children with men at this time. My mate will be a woman I walk down the isle to marry. If a man approached me it would be ackward and strange to me

[ct1243]

She was bisexual which means she likes both sexes. I’ve had sex with men in my past and I’m not interested in male penetration anymore. I’ve had sex with women and I like it

[ct1243]

My grandmother paid a former friend of mines in high school to take me to prom. My family will vouch I have never been on a date with a man ever.

[genericname85]

well i guess people can change their minds on their sexuality after all. or she just didn't know. either way, he's happily married to a girl that told him, she's a lesbian. so think from the male perspective. if you witness such things with women, how are you supposed to take the words they say to you seriously?

[genericname85]

i'm not trying to tell you, that you're gonna fuck a man xD it's just impossible to know from the male perspective, which type of woman is in front of you, i guess.

[ct1243]

I don't know I just tell men I’m not interested in dating them it’s crazy the feedback I get. All of my friends are gay. I have more experiences with women than men. 🤷‍♀️ men go at shit crazy when I tell them I’m not interested in dating them.. their response is what are you gay? Yep is my response lol

[ct1243]

My family is having a hard time accepting me right now.. they thought I was gonna marry my best friend of 15 years lol funny.. really funny he moved on and we lost our friendship unfortunately

[ct1243]

I hated it but I wanted him happy and moved on. He didn’t have to ghost me , but he understands now

[genericname85]

consider that as a man you are taught persistence and not to give up so easily. so there's some ego in the way sometimes. i mean you have to agree that women lie a lot when it comes to dating. probably from your own experience dating other girls xD

[genericname85]

sometimes a "no" can mean that she expects more effort. sometimes "no" means no xD as a man, impossible to know.

[genericname85]

i personally if she tells me she's gay don't mind. if i'm willing to date a girl, i might as well be friends. it's cool.

[ct1243]

Normally how it is for me we end up friends me and men

[genericname85]

yeah. that's normal for me too xD gay people are just people. i don't mind being friends. unless they're male and trying to get into my pants. which has happened before, so i know how creepy clumsy guy approaches can be xD

[DudeDiligence]

Intimidated? Nah, not at all. I think some people use "intimidation" as a way to make themselves feel better about the fact that people are not attracted to them.

[Iron_Man]

Not me I don't involve myself in that nasty world in real life. Any new Girl I date I find out if she's Bi sexual or straight before I waste my time on her

[ct1243]

Understood I kept 100 if a guy approaches me. There’s not cut corners

[Iron_Man]

What do you mean you kept 100 if a guy approached you?

[ct1243]

He’s knows that I’m strictly lesbian. I s have straight men approach me from time to time. I don’t see men as desirable to me.

[Iron_Man]

I thought you always liked me

[Iron_Man]

Didn't you talk about otner guys that have disappointed you before?

[ct1243]

I have no experiences with men beyond that

[ct1243]

I still see men as attractive, but don’t desire them romantically

[Iron_Man]

hmmmm 🤔

[ct1243]

What? Lesbians can still see men as attractive, but don’t men they desire them romantically/ etc nope 👎🏾.. I’m not attracted to the male phallus if this helps

[loveslongnails]

This question does not make sense to me. If both women are lesbians, there IS no competition. A man who goes after a confirmed lesbian is just dumb. However, if one woman is a lesbian and the one she wants is bi-sexual, THEN there might be competition.

[ct1243]

I know lol I had to confuse the fellas it’s not confusing. Yesterday I posted and men were telling me that still chase lesbians lol 😂 I’m like why and if they give you some their not truly lesbian to begin with.

[ct1243]

Men’s concept of being lesbian is wrong too

[loveslongnails]

I don't know what you mean by that, unless you're saying that a lot of men "claim to think" that lesbian means a woman who "prefers other women, but is still open to having sex with men" ? Well, that's not the definition of a lesbian. That would be a bi-sexual woman who leans mostly towards other women. The men who are confused are either too ignorant to look up the difference, or too egotistic to accept that some women just don't want a man, and that INCLUDES YOU !!! LOL

[ct1243]

I’m conferring to a post I did yesterday and the responses I got under that post.

[ct1243]

I know lol 😂 it’s crazy 😜

[loveslongnails]

It's a very simple concept if you ask me. There's only one reason why a man would waste time going after a confirmed lesbian, and that's ego gratification, or in other words, stupidity.

[ct1243]

Right lol 😂

[always_og]

Not at all. The hot ones are a massive turn on and there's a lot of lesbians out there who I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole

[Dchrls78104]

Lesbians don't intimidate me. They just disgust me.

[ct1243]

Homophobic

[AlwaysBelieving]

Nope.

[Glasgow55]

Not at all.

[jasco]

No why would i. Good for you that your les and? I like the women i like and u go for the women you like

[ct1243]

I don’t see what the issue is

[ct1243]

Being lesbian isn’t a celebration

[reddyred]

Nah not intimidated. If I lose out to a lesbian at least it gives me something to picture later on 😂