I have feelings for my Friends with benefits help me do I tell him I want more?

[Anonymous]

I’ve known him for 8 months now and we have good sex and he enjoys it and cums in me and says he wants my children and we used to go on dates but now he only uses me for sex and the way he speaks to me he’s just started speaking to me like trash. He used to speak to me in a nice manner but now he speaks to me like a object, we get along so so so well when we are together we used to have sleep overs and watch movies and go out on dates and now he just has sex with me then leaves. I messaged him today saying i want you and he just replied saying ‘Helloo’ i don’t know if he knows i have feelings for him. We agreed on it being a fun thing but i caught feelings, shall i tell him i want more but he’s only 18 and and i’m 19 and he dosent want anything serious he said or shall i just carry on being his friends with benefits?

I was really depressed over this guys when we fell out before and he ignored me for 4 weeks

[abc3643]

Congratulations!

Your question is today's Question of the Day illustrating that Friends With Benefits is an illusion because eventually one of them will get emotionally involved as if in a couple.

It's not a question of "if" it's going to happen, but "when".
If it is any consolation, the same thing happened to me...

In December 1988, just before I turned 26, I was involved in this intense 2.5 week "F W B situation" (*) with my very attractive nymphomaniac roommate. I was very emotionally involved, but, for her, I was just a convenient lay between "more serious BFs".

So, was I a stupid fool? Yes and no. I knew better, but I wanted what I got into and paid the price. I learned through The School of Hard Knocks just like you are...
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(*) This is long before "Friends With Benefits" became "a thing". No one said that in the 1980s let alone thought it because it would be considered an embarrassment to sink to that level. Apparently, being a slut or manwhore doesn't matter in today's "hook-up culture".

[beldath]

If he's treating you like trash, that probably means he's sleeping with someone else he likes better now.
friends with benefits usually ends with one person catching feelings, and that same person getting hurt.

[Kymberli83]

If it were me, I wouldn’t tell him I have feelings for him, I’d leave him alone. Any man who treats you like that, isn’t for you. A lot of men start out being really sweet and kind, but if their ultimate goal is to sleep with you, why wouldn’t they be? It seems he is using you for sex, because he’s suddenly treating you badly. Him cumming in you and stating he wants your children doesn’t mean anything except he’s careless and irresponsible. You should probably talk to him and see what he wants, since you have feelings for him. I wouldn’t count on anything serious happening, though. Good luck!

[Breanna_nonbinary]

The problem with friends with benefits is that sex creates bonds. Having an orgasm will release hormones like oxytocin which helps bond sexual partners. It’s always good to keep in mind why you friends with benefits and not in a relationship.

[LiamSawyer]

He's too young to get serious with any woman. He just wants sex.

[In_Trance]

The same way you just told everyone here