Do you listen to the opposite genders advice when it comes to sex and dating?

[MCheetah]

"You don't ask a fish how to catch fish. You ask a fisherman."

Not to mention, WOMEN don't even understand each other or what they want. And women tend to hate women, anyway. A woman can only give advice about what SHE likes in someone, but she can never speak for a large number of women.

Some generalities seem to be universally true; straight women are almost always into tall men (six feet and over), successful men with lucrative careers, and men who have an ass-load of ego (aka self "confidence").

But other things women CLAIM they want, like "a sense of humor" or "a guy who is nice and a decent person." Stand-up comedians, last time I checked, still rarely ever get laid.

So, aside from common sense things, no, I don't listen to what women claim they want from other women UNLESS they were literally a female PUA like Marni The Wing Girl or Kezia Noble. And even then, I take it with a grain of salt.https://www.youtube.com/embed/nzYayRv2GVk

[0112358]

Listen? Absolutely.

Take it all as 100% complete truth? no.

Most people don't give very complete advice. They are best at pointing out 'what behavior they dislike by people they are otherwise attracted to'. This can be useful. However a lot of people's dating challenges are around generating attraction. The truth is, most people are not self aware, or if they are, not direct enough to really give good information on that.

There's an old joke about not asking fish how to catch fish, asking fishermen. That's fairly accurate, but also true: a talking fish would be even more useful. So you should 'see what fish are saying', listen to good fishermen, and if you find a talkative honest fish, consider what they say gold. So it is with dating - there are people who actually give wonderful advice to the opposite sex, but it's probably easier to find people of your own sex who are 'skilled' at dating, and then the biggest pool of advice is from less self aware members of the opposite sex who generally give true but very incomplete advice. But people should be listening to all three.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Can guys who says No explain to me why they do not want to listen to their gfs when it comes to sex. So you are going to ignore her wishes like oralsex/foreplay/sex during period etc? Wtf. What is the point of sex then if you are going to ignore all her sexual wishes and make her do sexual acts she does not want -which sounds toxic and rapey to me? If you are not going to sexually satisfy her, do you want her to get it by another man or what? I really do not understand. I personally would not want a guy who does not want to satisfy my sexual needs.

[Sarahr123]

No. Well see I have only been in one relationship since I was a child so I never really dated at all but if I were to get into another relationship or even in my current one I would never follow foreign advice. I go by what the individual and situations require.

[ChurchOfSteel]

I listen to big complaints women as a whole have. I never factor individual womens' opinions on how a straight man can succeed with women.

When it comes to being successful, the key is learning from other successful people.

It's a rare straight woman that is successful at picking up women as a man. They simply don't have the experience. Same with dudes and the inverse--dudes don't know what works to pick up guys as a woman.

We know *what we want* consciously. But so often, this has no bearing on what we are actually drawn to. Put plainly, we simply do not know ourselves.

[RagnarRedbeard]

Usually no. Some will give good advice but most don't, and that goes for men and women.

You should always consider the source.

If the advice is coming from someone who is where you want to be/the kind of person you'd want to be with, and they're in a happy place, then take it.

If they seem to be unhappy, if they don't seem to be successful when it comes to relationships, then don't.

In the same way that you should take money advice from someone who has a lot of money rather than from someone who is always broke.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Naturally! After all if a woman gives me advice on other women I take it seriously since she's had first person experience so to say.
But I wouldn't discount guy's opinions either, and viceversa. Then make my mind about the opinions I have received and decide the next course of action.

[Red_Arrow]

If it is a matter that I am interested in finding an answer to, then listening to the opposite sex would be getting the advice from the people who would know best. To know what a gal feels about certain things, and how she would react, then I would want to learn from gal.

[NathanDavis]

I do listen to everyone's advice yes, but then is up to me to decide what could work for the better on my specific situations, but yes, their different insights have been valuable, the more you get the better, since everyone is different (has differences as well as similarities).

[ohshee]

I'm going to listen to everything she has to say because I'm curious in the movie she's telling me what she was what you needs and then once you get into bed and you start making love f****** touching foreplay however I also look at the color of her cheeks the way she moans moves her body the way her eyes roll and look back into my eyes because that's also her telling me everything She Wants in that moment without saying one word

[ZackBan]

"Do you ask a fish how to fish?"

Look don't get me wrong I'm sure most advice is good advice but the reason why it's practically useless is because no one lives by the advices they give. The same girl that tells you be nice and she will like you is the girl who wouldn't give a nice guy the time of day, advice from guys is pretty similar.

The truth is the mechanism that decides attraction is not something we control and therefore we can't give a solid input on.

Now I would ask for detailed advice like are there certain things that are commonly approved or dissaproved of but advice on how to charm someone is not something I put a lot of stock in.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yep, always have, most of my girl mates have a completely different view of my ‘dating habits’

even when I was young my sister would throw in advice on dating and girls etc.

basically, if you want to learn stuff about the sex you are dating, do you ask someone from that sex or someone from another?

[Floppy2112]

Not anymore. I used to and I followed it and it never worked and I couldn't figure out why. I didn't know for a long time. With time and research I figured out why. Women tend to give the advice that suits them for people that are out of reach for them. They don't want Mr. Nice guy, unless you are a hollywood or sport's star, have a ton of money, or are otherwise desirable but out of reach. That's the way they want *those* guys to act towards them. This shit doesn't work for regular joe's. Women do want to be swept off their feet, but only by men that are typically way out of their league. Women don't want Joe the plumber to sweep them off their feet. They want Joe the plumber to fix their plumbing and leave. They will get heavily annoyed if Joe the plumber wants to get to know them better.

[oncpl]

One must always listen to opposite gender advice because each gender knows will what are their sexual requirements, desires and process of fulfillment. We can't fully appreciate and understand other gender's mind, so their advice helps us to achieve full satisfaction, love and ultimately it strengthens bonds.

[always_og]

Of course. If i want to learn more about how to go down on a girl and make it as best as possible, why would I ask a guy. A guys evidence to support his argument is purely anecdotal where as a girls is purely factual. If I could then I'd try and find a lesbian to ask about eating out because they give it and recieve it lol

[Adam1978]

Listen, yes following the advice probably not because, they would give me a advice that is bad for me and good for the girl. Something that makes no sense and really doesn't attract women, just benefit them.

[awebee]

Absolutely... I ask my sister my mom my lady neighbors n my ex wife n her sisters and often consult with this site and regularly read posts so I get a better perspective of the workings of female mind... the more I understand and actually comprehend girls point of view the better I handle my behavior n recognize what a douche bag I've been or can be... when I don't pay attention to whats is communicated too me... I'm grateful girls you all rock

[Just_call_me_Levi]

Not just the opposite sex, but would definitely lean more towards women when it comes to asking advice on romance and pleasing women in the bedroom, yes.

I know few men that are in touch with their emotions, and media seems to make them confused as to what women really want.

(In most cases) A woman knows what a woman wants.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I'd take it with a grain of salt. The stuff they say is plagued with phrasing and platitudes which distort the objective truth for a more emotionally satisfying interpretation. We hear the words, but then unpack it with that framing in mind and see if it reflects reality or not.

[TheorionMage]

Depends upon THEIR 'expertise'...
Experience ALWAYS trumps idealistic 'theory'---

Even MORE impressive if the advice comes with 'labs' <>

[weysally]

I'm one of these people that listens to all advice, think about it and discard any that I don't want age has no barriers I have heard children give me better advice than so called adults

[David92506]

I do ask female friends for advice. My male friends' advice usually is, "Fuck her as much as possible." Or, "If the sex is good keep with her." Whereas my female friends' advice isn't sexual.

[kellytheman]

Yes I always get advice fro my girl that are friends on how to please a women and get a female prrspective of how I should handle diffrent kinds of Girls. They are always usally right or give great advice than my guys friends.

[Anonymous]

No because women don't know what they want. I remember older men use to tell us this (not avg men) and i thought they well full of shit. I thought advice from girls was better than advice from guys. I mean it makes sense right? But it actually is the opposite. Makes no sense and is hard to believe until you truly know for yourself.

[MzAsh]

It depends on the person and whether or not they have the competence and insight to know what they’re talking about.

[MeghanL]

Listen, yes. Consider it, probably.

Take it, maybe or maybe not. It undergoes an extensive filtering & vetting process first.

[DizzyDesii]

The opposite sex’s advice is really the only one that matters to me. They know their gender better than any other

[Anonymous]

I truly do believe that as a man it is in your best interest to not take advice from women on how to get women. When it comes to other facets of life then by all means I'd be living to listen to what a woman has to say then.

[meggykentums]

I try to seek it for sure, but I can usually tell when something sounds like bad advice based on my situation.

[Mοssman]

No.
The truth is that women want you to already know, so if she has to spell it out for you it is probably already too late.

Of course, you probably won't know that without some experience first, but I think I'm good in that regard by now.

[CubsterShura]

No, I listen to those of my same gender who are at a place where I want to be. Because only they know what actually works.

[Kabluie]

Practically, I've always had more gal friends over guy friends growing up so dating and sex became rather natural topic at earlier ages.

[Leavesbound]

95% of my skills in bed are derived from listening to women's advice.

[TheBootyChest]

FUCK YES I DO!! Its better to go straight to the source than get it from the competition.

[bamesjond0069]

Nope. Women 99% of the time lie OR just are clueless about their own desires and behaviors. So that makes women highly unreliable for advice. Women primarily say they dont like x y z but then fuck x y z kind of men. That should tell you all you need to know about womens advice.

[kayla09]

Personally I don't listen to streight guys just cause they dont have experience pulling a guy.

[exitseven]

I was really bad at dating until I got some help from a female friend.

[Unit1]

Of course. I listen to hers 😊😊😊https://www.youtube.com/embed/PGuID59YO4U

[genericname85]

rarely. it appears to me that women often give emotionally loaded "feel-good bullshit advise" instead of actual practical and real advise.

[anylolone]

Nope, nor same gender. People are stupid in general and in denial over their own internal world.

Which is why I've been greatly successful in my dating and sex life.

[Anonymous]

Yes because that's who I'm looking to be in a relationship with. If I was looking for women, then I might not.

[Anonymous]

Nope, not anymore. The dating and sex advice I've been given by females has consistently been terrible advice. My conclusion is that women simply don't know what they actually want. They say what they think they are supposed to say but it's rarely consistent with the reality of what actually works with women.

[Josh4206]

Depends on who they are. If they're some random person, no. If they're someone I trust then yea

[clampfan101]

It seems to make a lot more sense than asking guys. Why would a straight guy not want advice from a woman? (Y’know, the source of the subject? lol)

[AmandaYVR]

Of course. People who ignore an entire gender, in any context, are frankly idiots. It's best to stay away from them. Their judgement is off. We can all learn from one another.

[worldscolide]

No, because 9 times out of 10 the advice they give is opposite from what they actually want.

[Caunsos]

It depends. It is accurate criticism or just tell you what they like.

[AydenHazor]

Absolutely, they know when better than I do by nature of being them lol

[MannMitAntworten]

I’ll listen to it. Whether I take the advice and apply it is an entirely different matter.

[Wiredone]

Sometimes I listen to advise from women. Sometimes they give good advice other times it stinks

[TacosRAwesome]

I would if I had opposite sex contact that give valid advice.

[mattissebfan5]

Of course how am I supposed to learn what girls like if I don't listen

[Redred56]

I have an opinion. On opinions!
Opinions are just like "Hind ends" Everybody’s got one!

[dtweed1996]

Well my girlfriend gave me opinion that you could be used for sex and she talks about being used a lot

[SirJohn42]

Yes because they have better insight on how they want to be pleasured and how they like sex

[SuccessfulHornDog]

I guess so. I might depend on the question and why I was asking

[SenseiSeptred]

I listen to each side, but I also realize that age plays a big part in it too.

[Stevefiveo]

Pretty girls know what other pretty girls like. So they give good advice.

[Anonymous]

I mean yeah since the opposite gender is who i want to pursue so itd make sense to want to know their thoughts and opinions (doesn't apply to the entirety of the opposite gender obviously since ur gonna hav sum idiots)

[Vetis]

no because people, especially girls, say what you want to hear

[jerdanro]

If you're a man wanting advice about women, who better to give it than a woman.

[ChiTown33]

Yarp. I think a lot women mean well but their heart is their enemy. It's always giving them bad advice ( tell me am i wrong ladies?).
Honestly i trust my own judgement more then anyones advice.

[faye_girl]

Yes but mostly older guys is who I seek advice from.
I figure that
When I'm asked for advice I have no actual idea what I'm talking about and I just spit crap out, guys my age are probably doing the same thing 😃😃😃

[Tjsmoove]

there's always a chance women can give ya advice that works