Do you listen to the opposite genders advice when it comes to sex and dating?

[OliviaOfTheScots]

[MCheetah]

"You don't ask a fish how to catch fish. You ask a fisherman."

Not to mention, WOMEN don't even understand each other or what they want. And women tend to hate women, anyway. A woman can only give advice about what SHE likes in someone, but she can never speak for a large number of women.

Some generalities seem to be universally true; straight women are almost always into tall men (six feet and over), successful men with lucrative careers, and men who have an ass-load of ego (aka self "confidence").

But other things women CLAIM they want, like "a sense of humor" or "a guy who is nice and a decent person." Stand-up comedians, last time I checked, still rarely ever get laid.

So, aside from common sense things, no, I don't listen to what women claim they want from other women UNLESS they were literally a female PUA like Marni The Wing Girl or Kezia Noble. And even then, I take it with a grain of salt.

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[AzzaBlue]

I think that men should listen to women. And then, do the opposite.

[0112358]

Listen? Absolutely.

Take it all as 100% complete truth? no.

Most people don't give very complete advice. They are best at pointing out 'what behavior they dislike by people they are otherwise attracted to'. This can be useful. However a lot of people's dating challenges are around generating attraction. The truth is, most people are not self aware, or if they are, not direct enough to really give good information on that.

There's an old joke about not asking fish how to catch fish, asking fishermen. That's fairly accurate, but also true: a talking fish would be even more useful. So you should 'see what fish are saying', listen to good fishermen, and if you find a talkative honest fish, consider what they say gold. So it is with dating - there are people who actually give wonderful advice to the opposite sex, but it's probably easier to find people of your own sex who are 'skilled' at dating, and then the biggest pool of advice is from less self aware members of the opposite sex who generally give true but very incomplete advice. But people should be listening to all three.

[romeo_and_cats]

It's true, others aren't aware of how much inexperienced they need to realize they're. Always fantasizing with the "perfect relationship"

[hi_it_is_me123]

Can guys who says No explain to me why they do not want to listen to their gfs when it comes to sex. So you are going to ignore her wishes like oralsex/foreplay/sex during period etc? Wtf. What is the point of sex then if you are going to ignore all her sexual wishes and make her do sexual acts she does not want -which sounds toxic and rapey to me? If you are not going to sexually satisfy her, do you want her to get it by another man or what? I really do not understand. I personally would not want a guy who does not want to satisfy my sexual needs.

[Sarahr123]

No. Well see I have only been in one relationship since I was a child so I never really dated at all but if I were to get into another relationship or even in my current one I would never follow foreign advice. I go by what the individual and situations require.

[ChurchOfSteel]

I listen to big complaints women as a whole have. I never factor individual womens' opinions on how a straight man can succeed with women.

When it comes to being successful, the key is learning from other successful people.

It's a rare straight woman that is successful at picking up women as a man. They simply don't have the experience. Same with dudes and the inverse--dudes don't know what works to pick up guys as a woman.

We know *what we want* consciously. But so often, this has no bearing on what we are actually drawn to. Put plainly, we simply do not know ourselves.

[AmandaYVR]

Of course. People who ignore an entire gender, in any context, are frankly idiots. It's best to stay away from them. Their judgement is off. We can all learn from one another.

[meggykentums]

I try to seek it for sure, but I can usually tell when something sounds like bad advice based on my situation.

[DizzyDesii]

The opposite sex’s advice is really the only one that matters to me. They know their gender better than any other

[MzAsh]

It depends on the person and whether or not they have the competence and insight to know what they’re talking about.

[weysally]

I'm one of these people that listens to all advice, think about it and discard any that I don't want age has no barriers I have heard children give me better advice than so called adults

[TheorionMage]

Depends upon THEIR 'expertise'...
Experience ALWAYS trumps idealistic 'theory'---

Even MORE impressive if the advice comes with 'labs' <>

[ChrisMaster69]

Yep, always have, most of my girl mates have a completely different view of my ‘dating habits’

even when I was young my sister would throw in advice on dating and girls etc.

basically, if you want to learn stuff about the sex you are dating, do you ask someone from that sex or someone from another?

[Red_Arrow]

If it is a matter that I am interested in finding an answer to, then listening to the opposite sex would be getting the advice from the people who would know best. To know what a gal feels about certain things, and how she would react, then I would want to learn from gal.

[MeghanL]

Listen, yes. Consider it, probably.

Take it, maybe or maybe not. It undergoes an extensive filtering & vetting process first.

[InventorofWarp]

Why would you not?

[ohshee]

I'm going to listen to everything she has to say because I'm curious in the movie she's telling me what she was what you needs and then once you get into bed and you start making love f****** touching foreplay however I also look at the color of her cheeks the way she moans moves her body the way her eyes roll and look back into my eyes because that's also her telling me everything She Wants in that moment without saying one word

[ZackBan]

"Do you ask a fish how to fish?"

Look don't get me wrong I'm sure most advice is good advice but the reason why it's practically useless is because no one lives by the advices they give. The same girl that tells you be nice and she will like you is the girl who wouldn't give a nice guy the time of day, advice from guys is pretty similar.

The truth is the mechanism that decides attraction is not something we control and therefore we can't give a solid input on.

Now I would ask for detailed advice like are there certain things that are commonly approved or dissaproved of but advice on how to charm someone is not something I put a lot of stock in.

[LuvMeSomeBoys]

No, and I don’t ask for it either.

[TheBootyChest]

FUCK YES I DO!! Its better to go straight to the source than get it from the competition.

[Leavesbound]

95% of my skills in bed are derived from listening to women's advice.

[RagnarRedbeard]

Usually no. Some will give good advice but most don't, and that goes for men and women.

You should always consider the source.

If the advice is coming from someone who is where you want to be/the kind of person you'd want to be with, and they're in a happy place, then take it.

If they seem to be unhappy, if they don't seem to be successful when it comes to relationships, then don't.

In the same way that you should take money advice from someone who has a lot of money rather than from someone who is always broke.

[NathanDavis]

I do listen to everyone's advice yes, but then is up to me to decide what could work for the better on my specific situations, but yes, their different insights have been valuable, the more you get the better, since everyone is different (has differences as well as similarities).

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Naturally! After all if a woman gives me advice on other women I take it seriously since she's had first person experience so to say.
But I wouldn't discount guy's opinions either, and viceversa. Then make my mind about the opinions I have received and decide the next course of action.

[Adam1978]

Listen, yes following the advice probably not because, they would give me a advice that is bad for me and good for the girl. Something that makes no sense and really doesn't attract women, just benefit them.