Does my friends with benefits love me?

[Anonymous]

I know this is a stupid question. Some people are going to laugh at the thought of it but I need some honest value opinions. I’ve been in a year and a half friends with benefits relationship with an ex. I lost my virginity to him when I was 15. We can’t be together right now bc of some situations we are in currently. Firstly we talk just about everyday, we don’t just talk about sex. Secondly he started cumming inside of me about 6 months into our relationship (I have an iud for 3 years now so I know pregnancy is super low) and to me, you only do that to someone you love/trust 100%
Thirdly, I asked him another important question about 6-7 months into our relationship, I told him I loved him and wanted to know if he felt the same and he said he loved me as a person and cared about me but he wasn’t in love with me but If someone to catch feelings. We agreed to stop and would end things but obviously we didn’t. We both wanted to continue it
Fourth! VERY IMPORTANT HERE!!! We do have intimate sex. A lot of eye contact, we do kiss, he puts me in my favorite positions etc. I asked him one day why hasn’t he gone down on me (eat my pussy) about a year in our relationship because I love to give him blowjobs and I’ll do it everytime I see him and he told me that he didn’t like to eat pussy and that he wasn’t good at it (which I thought was just an excuse but whatever dude) so I simply stopped asking, haven’t asked again or said anything else about it, that was about 3-4 months ago. Well today we seen each other and I gave him a blowjob like I do everytime and right when I thought we was going to go to intercourse he said “you want me to go down on you” and I said “yes one day but you don’t have to right now” (cause we was in a time frame this time) and him said “no I want to right now” And it was AMAZING. Maybe I am overthinking it or maybe he does love me like I feel like he does sometimes and is afraid to tell me or say it.

[chrissykerdock]

if you like giving him blowjobs then continue that way... if he doesn't want to go down on you learn to live with it... i say this because i had a boyfriend of 10+ years and it was mostly blowjobs for him but emotionally he filled me up as he always wanted me in mini skirts and dresses and would often like blowjobs from me... which i really liked that often intimacy with him... lot of lap siting and fingering lots of kissing him... a lot of caressing my thighs... he was good with money he'd buy me anything... but that's not why i gave him blowjobs often... basically he loved them from me and wanted them often even after many years together... to answer your question your boyfriend and you should be flattered he often wants blowjobs from you... it's nothing to be ashamed of and don't feel he has to do the same or the equivalent... if he doesn't want to then he doesn't want... but at least he's considering it or has? so that's not bad... overall i'm saying don't feel bad about giving him blowjobs only if it goes to that.

[Asker]

I’m going to continue that bc I like it and so does he but my question was I’m wondering if he loves me bc it has been a 2 year affair now

[chrissykerdock]

i'm sure he loves you he keeps coming home to you right? and only you know from the daily interactions but i'm sure he does... even if your mostly giving him blowjobs it's still a time for intimacy and nothing to be embarassed about.

[chrissykerdock]

or dating you as they say... i don't know your situation but he loves you... or he wouldn't consider that for you but let him decide on that one... pushing him would make him feel like it wasn't his choice... and it's very good that he wants you to give him blowjobs... you may not think so but it's very good that he wants them from you... so don't worry he does love you.

[yucychan]

Sorry. But I feel he does not love you at all. He could love being with you but no, he does not love you.
What you have shared is just about sex, that he enjoys sex with you, that's all.
And if you think a guy loves you just because he cums inside you, you are sorely mistaken.

[abc3643]

Congratulations!
Your question is today's Question of the Day illustrating that Friends With Benefits is an illusion because eventually one of them will get emotionally involved as if ian a couple.

It's not a question of "if" it's going to happen, but "when".

If it is any consolation, in December 1988 just before I turned 26, I was involved in this intense 2.5 week F W B situation with my roommate. I was very emotionally involved, but, for her, I was just a convenient lay between more "serious boyfriend"s.

So, was I a stupid fool? Yes and no. I knew better, but I wanted what I got into and paid the price. I learned through The School of Hard Knocks just like you are...

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[abc3643]

Because "love" is involved with "friends with benefits". Your situation is just one more example - there are a few each day at G@G - in which at least one person in a friends with benefits situation becomes emotionally involved which is what friends with benefits is not supposed to entail. F W B is supposed to be emotionless fucking.

[Asker]

Ok I know what it suppose to be but emotions happen and things change sometimes. So your opinion is no he doesn’t?

[abc3643]

I can't say whether he loves you or not, but he might be getting there...

[AndyOh]

Has your friend with benefits taken you out on a date? Dinner? Movie?
If all you ever do it get together and screw, then I think it is a just a close sexual thing. You might feel it in your heart, but he probably really likes you, cares for you, enjoys the sex, but not in Love, as he stated.

If I like someone, i want to do things with them, take them out, enjoy a day out, see a movie, dinners, etc. The sex is just the added bonus of being a couple... not the whole reason we are together.

[Asker]

Yes we have went out together before. We do eat lunch/dinner together twice a month. Would be more if it wasn’t for our work schedules. We have met up a lot of times and didn’t have any sexual activities and Just enjoyed seeing one another and our company

[AndyOh]

That is good to hear. At least you are kind of going out. But in the many months you have been together, does it feel like you are a couple? Or just friends with benefits's going out now and then? In other words, the sex is nice to do, and you feel emotions, and maybe he does too. But are you dating?

[Asker]

We can’t date right now due to some situations I’m not going to go into detail about but I wouldn’t say it feels like we are a couple bc in my mind I know we are not but I do feel like he cares about me and if he could be with me he would be but I don’t want to be wishful thinking. I can feel the emotion he has towards me when we do have sex and he always apologizes when we don’t have much time and says it makes him feel bad bc he doesn’t want me to feel like he is using me just for the sex because he’s not.

[AndyOh]

So I am guessing that if circumstances were more favorable, you two would be dating... which is good to hear. I think maybe you are on the right path with him. Just your situations are in the way. Good luck with him. :)

[Asker]

Thank you for your time answering my question and being so nice!

[AndyOh]

Very welcome... just be smart about what is going on. Cheers

[Asker]

I’m trying to be smart & not be a fool.

[AndyOh]

Thanks for the MHO... :) Sorry I was out of town for a bit.

[AwanAlphaMale]

You have been used as a cumslut. He does not love you he only wants your pussy. This is what you get for being a whore and giving your pussy away to a man who you are not in a relationship with. Your father must be ashamed.

[Asker]

Speaking of my father, I have a good relationship with both of my parents and my father knows about the situation and no he’s not ashamed of me. My father loves me and shame on you for even saying that and calling me a whore.

[AwanAlphaMale]

But you are not a whore for having sex with Chad and not a nice guy like me. Your father should have raised you better and made you save your virginity for either marriage or intercourse with a 4Chan meme magic man such as myself. Do you feel my thoughts?

[AwanAlphaMale]

*you are a whore for having sex with Chad

[Asker]

Clearly the message your sending me is a whore so no I’m not feeling it.

[Jmmmfi4]

wish I had even half of that with some one

[Romeocuck]

2 things:

1. There's a strong possibility that you really really like eachothers

2. He evolve which is a good thing

Wish you the best.