What's Your Preferred Bedroom Dynamic?

[GnatSocks]

I'm curious if it's just a loud minority that has a preference one way or the other or if there is a clear trend of wanting to be the top or bottom (ignore the distinction).

Also if you have studies for these trends, insight, anecdotal evidence, or ignorant ranting and want to just yell into the void, post it!

[IronLady6354]

Somewhere between "lean" and "slightly" submissive. I love it when my husband takes control sexually. It makes me feel sexy and desirable. That boosts my ego and turns me on. However, I wouldn't say I'm 'extremely' submissive because I can enjoy sex while being more dominant as well. I just have a pretty decent preference for being submissive.

[loves2learn]

^This! It’s like you read my mind!

[CourtneyJane]

I prefer to be submissive to a dominant partner during sex.

[TheUniqueOne96]

I'm a virgin, who leans submissive.

The idea of a girl just dominating and taking control sounds like one of the hottest things ever.

Due to me being a virgin however, it's just in theory.

[Diversity_Hire]

I am absolutely dominant sexually, which I find interesting because I'm pretty even keel in my daily life.

[GnatSocks]

It's not that weird. That's actually the reason I wanted to specify "bedroom dynamic." Some people even have the opposite bedroom dynamic than even their relationship dynamic, let alone the CEO that wants to be tied up. Life is weird.

[loves2learn]

I prefer for my man to be in control.

[BarryLiverstone]

Dom.

[MountAverage]

Is this about positions or about attitude/behavior or both? I don't quite get it.

[GnatSocks]

Closer to attitude and behavior. For me it comes out in my positions as well since I can't really relax if I'm mounted, but I don't think that some hardcore Dom giving orders to mount him is submissive.

[MountAverage]

Yeah, for me positions and dom/sub are not really related. I don't see myself as either dom or sub, my fantasies are usually about dominant women, but not in the stereotypical aggressive way (hate that), much more in a playful way. When it comes to having actual sex, I'm neither dominant nor submissive usually. I definitely don't enjoy acting overly dominant with force and aggression, I really hate all kinds of aggressive behavior when it comes to sex.

[GnatSocks]

That's chill. It all sounds pretty neutral to me. Even your fantasies sound to me like you're just fantasizing about some extremely horny girl rather than actual dom or sub, and of course you can take whatever positions seem interesting. It only has meaning if you give it that meaning.

[MountAverage]

Well not quite, in my fantasies the woman definitely is dominant in the sense that she has power. The only difference to stereotypical dominance is that she doesn't act out her power and dominance in an aggressive way, but rather playful. But yeah, I agree about the positions. Sure, it makes sense that a dominant person would prefer to be on top, but not necessarily. And conversely, I can enjoy being on top without it having to do anything with feelings of dominance. Interesting topic for sure.

[bullforcucks]

100% dominant

[JamieLoves]

Her on top , riding me...