What's the saying who cares what other people think
As long as the law says it's all good
Yes. You're right.
I don't understand what's the big difference between a 18 year old and 16 year old. What the lowest age would you go?
17 tbh
15 tbh ! What do you think?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I don't see what's the big deal with dating people our own age. They seem more relatable to me anyway and you can't leverage your life experiences against them.
I am talking about sex, not dating
I'm a monogamous type so it's difficult for me to separate these things. I was never into the casual without a long-term idea or hope or fantasy behind it.
So do you think people overreact or not
It depends really, but in most cases it's definitely not acceptable.
It’s more the idea that the older person is basically having sex with a child or taking advantage. I know 16 is the age of consent in places but it seems that 16 is really close to 14/15 and that’s just wrong. Also, why are grown adults having sex with 16 year olds? And yeah it can be consensual but it’s a bit dodgy
Can a 13 year old consent to sex with a grown adult? Also, the reason why is simple, they're pedophiles/ephebophiles. Asker is 33, so I'm assuming she like dating/fucking 16 year olds. It's like seeing a 40 year old man asking why it's wrong for him to fuck a 16 year old.
I agree with you. Once a person reaches puberty, sex shouldn't be taboo. If a young woman is attracted to men instead of boys, it's fine. And it's normal for men to find women in the perfection of youth attractive. It even makes sense from an evolutionary point of view.
If it's with a 16 yo guy it's okay but a girl isn't trained to check up on pregnancy and everything that comes with it. She's usually too insecure and co dependent on the partner which can be toxic. I think both can be okay if both parents are aware and okay with it and u are always open where you are at right now. But there won't be a lot of parents that are okay with it
The guy can easily get the woman pregnant too. No 16 year old is really ready for it, but they can learn.
Also most girls are on birth control which stops pregnancy 98 percent of the time. I think it's more OK with a girl than a guy.
well if I thought that people overreacted I wouldn't be following you. and no I think that most peoples responses are good.
I don't know much about it but there is not something like "you must have sex with your own age" so ı think that's fine. There are some girls who likes older man because they know how to act and how to make them comfortable. And there are boys that thinks older women are more sexy and they feel more calm with them. There are always some people saying bad things about the things they are not related to (did I write that rigt?). İn sex-positive countries, its not that dangerous too.
💯 agreed
Damn, what if a 13 year old girl is attracted to me? I'm 25 by the way. I can't reject her and hurt her feelings, and besides, she likes older men so it'd be okay, right?
@devilman666 I don't know! That's something between you and that girl.
I think it depends on the teen and the adult in question. As you point out it is legal in most places if the younger one is 16. The problem is that in some countries, especially the United States, there is the idea that teens girls are perfect innocent little angels when it comes to sex. Parents tend to over react in many cases. Do I think a 35 year old man should be with a 16 year old girl? No, not especially. But there are a lot of things that should not happen but are not sufficiently bad that should constitute crimes. When I was in high school over 40 years ago there were a lot of kids I knew in relationships with people over 18. I don't remember anyone freaking out over it or anyone going to jail either. At the time 16 was the age of consent and you could get married at 12 with parent's permission. Today in that same state it's 18 minimum for both with no close age exceptions. So two high school kids have been dating since middle school. The boy is three months older than the girl. They have been having sex since tenth grade. He turns 18 and for three months he is committing a felony with his long time girlfriend. I don't think that anyone should have a felony record for having consensual sex with a 16 year old but I do thin parents should retain the right to warn off specific individuals until their child turns 18. So in other words, give parents veto power. Then if the 35 year old man gets a warning and he doesn't heed it then he can be charged with a misdemeanor. It only turns into a felony if he repeatedly ignores warnings.
It's not just about girls, but boys too
True but most people are more concerned about girls. My best friend in high school had a girlfriend who was in her thirties. he was 14 when it started. We all thought he was the luckiest guy at school. Then when I was 19 I met a woman who was 43 and that was my favorite relationship. Everyone who came after just didn't quite measure up. People tend to be less concerned about boys in that situation. But girls are given a lot more protections from society. If a 14 year old boy has sex with a 25 year old woman he gets high fives. If a 14 year old girl has sex with a 25 year old man he gets prison. Only recently has this begun to shift. When I was in high school it was unheard of for a women to go to prison for having sex with a teenage boy.
I think it's an appropriate reaction, a person should be at least 18 before being with an adult. I think it's a good idea to wait until they are that age
I also think if it is legal and both people consent to it then it is their decision at the end of the day but it makes sense why some people would overreact if they have such a strong opposing opinion but they are not one of the people actually making the decision and it is possible that the person who made the reaction has not had any experience with consenting or being offered sex by teenagers and was brought up with strong opinions opposing the concept.
It doesn’t matter what the law is. It’s not right for a 35yr old person to sleep with a child of 16. It’s about morals. They’ll be predators, most likely grooming a naive child into being with them.
What if they seduce them
Seduce. Ie, groom. Same thing. Adult going after a child.
if its legal and consentual then its no ones business but the two involved so yeah sometimes other people do make too much of it
Most of the time, people react strongly to pedophiles, which is appropriate.
Yeah they overreact.
To me age doesn’t really matter if it’s of legal age of course , so yes people tend to over react to age gaps which to me is silly considering age is just a number , I dated girls older and younger then me , only reason being was cuz we had great chemistry and a connection , when people hold age as a deciding factor on who they can date is dumb to me considering they are limiting themselves to potential partners , when we meet someone beautiful and find out they have a great personality the first words out of our mouths isn’t How old are you? If that is your first words then good luck trying to meet someone lol If I meet a beautiful girl and we hit it off and eventually she tells me her age , as long as she is legal is all that matters to me , I am not going to suddenly hate her cuz I am 10 years or more older then her. As long as my age doesn’t bother her is all that matters
As of now I am 43 years old , I have met girls in their 20’s that were very mature compared to some girls that were my age or older , so again it comes down to chemistry and connection to me, also it seems a lot of girl’s in their 20’s and 30’s are attracted to older guys these days , My guess is because they are tired. Of dealing with selfish immature guys their age they are attracted to a guy that actually listens to them and I understand where they are coming from for the most part , considering I was that age once and when I was that age I was a selfish asshole , As we get older we tend to learn off of our mistakes well most of us lol So again it comes down to chemistry and connection to me , her age isn’t going to stop me from wanting her unless again she is of illegal age. I like to think I am pretty good at picking girls that are of legal age to be honest , if I met one that wasn’t then I would be shocked that I was wrong, I am not going to take the chance of going to jail for sex ,
I am 20 and have always liked much older men. I see no problem with that. It is just me and it is unfair that so many people have some problem with that.
I am 20 yo and am new in a volleyball team and the coach who is old is really friendly to the girls. He is really close to some because he also coaches a school where many of my teammates come from. I know him from before but now he is really nice to me and I am starting to feel like he is into me. Everytime we are chatting in a group he is looking at me as if he was only talking to me. Also the other day we went to a game and had few space in the car so they told him he should carry me but he didn't want to. Then one day he came early and was talking to me and told me that he bought a new tv and this and that and that this girl (grilfriend who comes once in a while to practice) was angry. But if he does not waste his money on a tv he would on beers and he has no wife anyways so... Now, I have a boyfriend who is 45 and he always comes to visit. My coach had already asked me who he was but I can't tell him he is my boyfriend. Yesterday my boyfriend took me to practice and I was there with him for a while but my coach passed by talking to me and then told me to go to practice now and it was still early. Then after practice he asked me again who my boyfriend was and I told him he was a friend and he said he thought he was my uncle. Then he grabbed my ponytail which I had at one side of my head and put it in the back while he looked at my face. I don't know how I should feel about that but I think I am sensing that he likes me.
It's just easier for it to be taking advantage, so I see why people are more suspicious about it. But it's not necessarily taking advantage like some people act like so yeah those ones need to chill. Once they're older the age gap wouldn't matter as much.
Shoot I don't care. I was 17 and dating a 12 year old. Than when I was 21 I was dating a 16 year old. So my opinion is just take the underage person into consideration in what they want instead of what you want, and just love them and care for them because it is a vulnerable situation and they are young so you just want to be careful with who they are and what they will become in the future.
Not really,
I think people should mind their own fucking business. :)
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