My friends with benefits got real pissed off when I politely asked her if she could shave up good next time we met?
We have been real good about communication. Last time we hung out I asked her if she didn’t mind if I was more straight up about sexual stuff over messages (I usually don’t say anything). She said yes.
So anyway we made plans to hang out again on Friday. I asked her if she didn’t mind if I made two small requests. First was to bring her toy (she has a hard time climaxing) because I told her it was my goal to give her the big O. She laughed and said okay. Second was if she could shave up real good because it makes me enjoy “downtown more”. Last time we hung out she was a bit prickly with the leg hair. I didn’t say anything but the truth was I didn’t like it. It wasn’t a dealbreaker and I know it’s a pain in the ass for women to shave. But still I enjoyed it much more when she was all smooth the time before she came over.
She didn’t respond for an hour. Then she defensively said 1) everybody has hair (yeah I know). 2) it wasn’t my body so I don’t get a “say”.
I apologized and said “seriously no big deal”. This was the first time ever she got bitchy with me. Ever.
She’s a senior in college and I get a bad feeling she’s just parroting woke feminist bs. She NEVER brought up politics/feminism to me in conversation or in person (neither did I bring up my beliefs). That’s what I liked about her.
Anyway I already said “sorry I didn’t mean it that way”. I’m not going to message her again until she messages me first.
But I’m a bit pissed off by how she reacted to that. We agreed to have transparent communication and I’ve been very good to her. I expressed that I liked smooth legs and it was in context of the conversation.
If she was taken a back fine. But that “it’s not your body” part set off a few red alarm upstairs. She was trained to say that.
Thoughts on how to respond?
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