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What has sex been to you?

Even though i enjoyed the sex when partaking in it, sex has never truly been a need in my book. At 15, i was pressured into it so i did it for his pleasure. At 23, i did it out of love/commitment but also honestly out of hope for reproduction. Sounds horrible but its true. Maybe when i marry, it’ll be out of a combination of self-pleasure and pleasing one another.
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An act of Self-Pleasure
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A way to Please Others
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An act of rebellion (Example— if you’re young and sneaking around to do it without your parents knowing)
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A way to reproduce
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A way to get fit or blow off steam/stress
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An act of love/commitment to partake in (Example— once married)
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Other
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I’m probably the only one who did it out of rebellion. I hated having to hear my mom have sex as a kid. So when i started having sex, i’d do it in public places hoping she’d catch me. Sadly she never did but lots of family, friends and classmates did. They’d tell her and she’d shun them and call them liars. She stayed in denial until i turned 23. Thats when she thought i lost my virginity, but i wasn't even having sex during the month she assumed 🤣
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  • It's mutual pleasure for me.
    It excites and flatters me when they want it from me, which in turn makes me want to give it to them.
    I'm not exactly monogamous, sex is not a defining act of love or commitment for me by any means, but I don't engage in it casually, treat it as a need nor do I do fetishize it.

    I'm most comfortable when the other party holds a similar view.
    I don't like when they trivialize it, or even worse, if they treat it as an outlet or some kind of compensation for things in their life, even if it's a casual thing.
    The idea of that doesn't turn me on at all.

    I simply think it's ok for two sensible adults to want to engage in mutual pleasure.
    I know it feels good, and I don't think there is anything wrong with desiring it, I also acknowledge that it takes two people and that it puts you both in a vulnerable position.
    If they are willing to put themselves in that position, it always excites and flatters me, and it honestly doesn't really matter what the nature of our other relations are.

    I don't really see it as either self-pleasure or pleasing others, I like to see them enjoy themselves, of course, but to me the most exciting aspect of sex is just how reciprocal it is.
    When I go faster or deeper, they are taking me in faster and deeper, I can't give them more without them giving me more, and they can't "have" me finish in them without me finishing in them- another person.
    It's exciting, no matter the circumstance, can't really make it about them or me in my head.

    • Ahhh that makes sense

  • An act of love and commitment.. Two people giving a piece of each other's souls to one another.. Of course it's an add on that it deeply interacts with our endorphins and whatever giving us a good feel.. But, ultimate it's not just to get a nut off, and unfortunately with all this porn and lack of discipline in our current society that's what it's been brought down to.. An act to get off when you get horny..

    • Lmao yep. Thats why a lot dont cuddle after sex

    • 😂😂😂.. Yeah, I feel you... I'll see what I do, but cuddling would be kina weird... Unless I truly love the woman..

    • Youve inspired me to ask a question lol

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  • It depends on how old I was:

    16- 17 - I lost my virginity either at age 16 or 17. I don't remember exactly if I was 16 going on 17 or just turned 17. Either way, around these ages, sex was a milestone for me. I was interested in it and wanted experience for the first time like many girls this age. After the first time, sex was mostly about me getting more experience so the sex could feel better and so I could improve my sex skills, allowing me to become the good pleaser that I am today.

    18-24 - Sex during these ages was mostly a learning experience. I was in college during this time and regardless of how people might judge me because of this, whether they say I was a "ho" or a "thot," my main goal was to have sex with as many different men as possible. Not only did I do it for pleasure, but I wanted to have sex with men of several races, ages, penis sizes, and so on just to discover what I liked the most and what was best for me.

    25-present - I figured exactly what I liked and nowadays, sex is mostly an expression of love, pleasure, and to gratify my sexual urges with men that I am in long-term relationships with. Even though I always had a high sex drive, it seems to actually be stronger than it was during my college days now, but I have a fiancee that takes care of that these days. Based on my past college experiences, I know that he is the perfect guy for me, so I don't regret my college days.

    • Well at least you learned what you like

  • It’s an act of love and commitment. While we weren’t married at the time, we were very much in love and married 5 years later.


    It’s also an act for reproduction. We have 2 sons now. Both very much planned.


    It’s also an act of passion I engage in with the person I love.

    • The passion is a must for me

    • @dizzydesii agreed! We had that from day one.

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  • It's all of the above (except the rebellion part)

    • I don't know i just had to rebel to get back at my mom

    • I realize that's the case for some people, but it hasn't been the case for me. However, I would say the rest of the options do apply to what sex has been/is for me

  • Guess I now fit (F) the married

    • Thats good though

  • It's an act of pleasure for me. Aside from the penetration aspect, which is WONDERFUL, I just love the look and feel of a woman's entire body. It's better than Disneyland.
    BUT, sex is no good if my partner doesn't enjoy it. The more she enjoys it, the greater the pleasure for me. So it's actually a mutual thing.

    I definitely never wanted kids. Sex is more like recreation.

    • Disneyland lmao

  • sex for me is like Halley's Comet i9t only happen every 75 years, and its been
    30 years so far so that rare occurrence for me will happen in 45 more years and im counting down the days.

    What has sex been to you?

    • 😂😂😂

  • Well...
    Its like a merging two souls...
    I'm not religious... 😂
    But its like 2 people merging into 1 and complete each other.

    • Sounds like a scene from Species 2

    • Hahaha... 😂 LOL

  • I'm selfish, I was 18 and at an age where I got fed up of my friends knowing and me being a good girl. I was curious and desperately horny. So I as the saying goes you seek and you shall find. And that I did. I should have stuck to being that forward. It got me results and I was fearless but listening to a cruel pig kept me mentally trapped and feeling punished for the freedom we're all entitled to.

    • So you did it as an act of rebellion/status?

    • No I did it as an act of self pleasure firstly I guess rebellion was an after thought. Being an only child and having an over protective possessive mother meant she knew everything at all times. When I finally started to make friends she wanted to know the details of everything all the time. When I stayed over my friend's she started saying I miss you I never see you blah blah blah. Always guilt tripping. It was the one time in my life I got to do something for me and something that I didn't need to disclose. It was so liberating and freeing. But I jumped from one pit to another, he thinks he allowed me freedom but he always had his hands on the trigger. I could only do what he agreed. Wtf! His love was conditional to me towing his line. I had to run everything past him whilst I learned of things last minute

    • Well at 15, mine was an act of pleasing him through what i thought was love but also an of rebellion because i was acting out to get back at my mom.

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  • Honestly, for me sex has never been something I rushed, nor something I did out of social pressure. I did it exactly when and with the person I wanted to do it with (and who wanted to do it too, of course LOL). I have never practiced sex as a mean to reproduce, and think I will never do it that way.

    For me sex has happened when I have felt the impulse, and the situation has lended itself for it (or has been easily adapted for it haha). So, its for my own pleasure only.

    I have this thing that... knowing that my partner is aroused, or is in the mood, most of the time tickles my own desire, and whether my body reacts or not, I involve in sex with her, even if it is just to give her pleasure. Its so hot to see my partner feeling hot, enjoying, and cumming. I can happily spend one hour spoiling her, without taking care of my erection. I know in the end, when I do cum, it will be much better because of the build-up of doing things to her.

    • Very good explanation

    • You are very welcome :)

  • For me it is something very special. Is a way a form to express myself with each and every little touch, for me I believe that we all have an energy within us it is more powerful than we would ever even know, I believe when you know how to use this energy touching another energy it is one of the most beautiful feelings ever in this world. Quit having sex making love I never try to do the same way twice it's just a way to express every part of you being of your soul of your spirit onto into the person you're making love to is something that I need and I want because I want to share it and allow whoever I'm having sex with I feel something so freaking beautiful

    • Making love is everything tho

    • It really is and the more that I just go to work and come home and and locked more less in this house I'm realizing how very special that it is I mean every little touch every little breath every little look into each other's eyes are very very powerful and beautiful

  • I was raped my first time, so until the last year and a half or so, sex was about getting off and having fun. It wasn't about love, passion, connection, or anything other just fucking. We were in it for ourselves mostly, sometimes literally. Yes, there were friends with benefits's and such where it was a little more than fucking, it was I'd call sex. Your wanting the other person to also have some fun so you get invited back, but its not a selfless, 'loving' act. So it was totally "E", now its a B/F.

    • Damn you’ve been through the ringer

    • Uhmn, thanks? Feces happens. I have frameworks and appreciate what I got now. I used to rely on my BFF's for emotional support or just go 'lone wolf', but I got the whole thing now from the Hubby.

    • No i meant through the ringer with the rape. I wasn't talkin about the sexcapades

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  • For the most part, a way of bonding.

    • I ain't seen you in forever girl

    • Same. I missed your questions. Hope all is well

    • I just came back myself last week lol. This site too toxic to stay for long

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  • A way to be closer with someone. Yet always disappointed when I can't finish it.

    • Damn.

  • It is a shame that you are not enjoying sex. My mother was like that and only had sex with my father to please him. He died when she was 37 and never pursued love again and eventually became a nun literally. Some women don't like sex period and some women have simply never been sufficiently fulfilled to make it enjoyable to them. I dated a women once who had never had an orgasm but only because no man had ever taken the time to properly go down on her. I ate her out a few times and finally the third attempt she had her first orgasm. This after she had already give birth to her now ex husband's son. Simply fucking is often not enough to cause an orgasm. If the clit is ignored you are not likely going to cum. You may not have perfectly balanced hormones which I think was my mother's problem. I would suggest see your doctor to find out if there is anything that can make you feel more deeply aroused. Have you ever masturbated? If so did you enjoy it?

    • I can't enjoy sex for long when unmarried. But once married, im all for it. And i masturbated before. It felt good when i first did it and i was addicted for 2 months. But i forced myself to quit. I haven't masturbated in over a year now. i prefer someone else touch me

  • A pleasurable way to relax, de-stress and keep fit. It's fun, healthy, and I wouldn't give it up for anything.

    • Haha i see you value it highly

  • Sex is everything you listed but most importantly is one of the currencies NEEDED to make a long lasting relationship being, on point, long lasting.
    Pussy-starve your boyfriend and he won't be your boyfriend for very long.

    • he's a boyfriend, he can wait til im ready. I wouldn't make a husband wait

    • Mark my words, though. And remember them if things go awry or you end up playing second fiddle.

    • I’d just dump him

  • Good question. I voted B, as I'm quite indifferent to it but it's a way to please and satisfy my partner, and knowing it makes her happy makes me happy as well.

    • Yea i could go without it but its a thing i’d do to please them... unless married... then i’m more than happy to put out 🤣

  • I think sex is like, a way to get closer to someone, let off some sexual energy, and then have something to over-analyze afterwards. But yeah building a closer connection and stuff. Really depends on the situation.

    • Yea I just need a very close emotional connection before that physical one though

    • Yes that is generally ideal. I thought I wanted that too. Just turns out I don't have much will power.

    • Gotta love the 51

  • To me, it's a part of identity

    What has sex been to you?

    but also a way to reproduce

    What has sex been to you?

    • Part of identity how

    • It's your preferences, it's what you are attracted to, it's what you like wearing to be playful. Dominant vs submissive. It's your likes and dislikes, and how you view sexuality in general. I think this is different and unqine to each person

  • I view it as a way of expressing my appreciation and love for my girlfriend. I love being able to experience that level of intimacy with her and sharing it together.

    So B and F for me. Eventually reproduction when ready, but I will cross that bridge when I get to it.

    • Aww i like this

  • It is all about pleasure for me

    • I see i see

    • I also provide pleasure too

  • All of the above at various times in my life.

    • I see :)

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