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Please help me understand: How is it possible that women are attracted to both: bad boys and humor?

I don't get it..

Women claim they are attracted to humorous men.
But aren't humorous men a complete opposite of bad boys?
The same goes for soft musicians. Some women are attracted to guitar-playing softies but still to bad boys. How can this be explained?
Tony, you misunderstood. A woman is either #TeamBadBoys or #TeamHumor, but not both!
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When we are 20 we have a thing for bad boys, when we are 40 we have a thing for guitar-playing soft musicians and men who can make us laugh.
Vote B
It's like this: When it's just about sex we prefer bad boys! For a long-term relationship however, we prefer the humorous, guitar-playing softie musician.
Vote C
Tony, you seem to be a very smart person and have come up with very plausible explanations! Nevertheless, you are on the wrong track. The truth is different. I'll explain it to you in the comments...
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Since many see no contradiction between being a bad boy and being humorous: There may be exceptional cases of funny bad boys. But seriously: when you think of a bad boy, do you imagine a funny man telling jokes, or rather the mugshot of a criminal who beated someone to the hospital? If you imagine the criminal guy, does he seem to be funny?
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Superb Opinion

  • Humor is part of a package, not the entirety of someone’s personality, and it isn’t always presented in the same way. You have goofy humor, sarcastic or deadpan humor, witty humor, and so on. Many “bad boys” are also humorous and can make you laugh. Psychologically, people like humor because it is a tell that someone is intelligent. You can like both, since people aren’t just one thing. However, there’s also this saying “different strokes for different folks,” some women like bad boys, others don’t. So yeah, the world is a place that is teeming with variety. No need to box people in.

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  • Because humor is subjective.
    Some people find humor in the misfortune of others and therefore find a disrespectful bad boy, humorous and funny when they are rude to others. So hence why it is possible to like both in some cases.

    Also some woman have a completely different definition to the word "bad boy" and therefore misunderstand what you are actually asking.
    They just think of the "handsome tall (tattooed) boy" not the "evil shitty criminal/bully" that you mean with your questions.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Humans aren't that simple. Some may be attracted to only one type of person, but I believe most people are attracted to different traits that may not always seem compatible.

    Take me for instance. I'm attracted to free-spirited, down to earth, hippie women who enjoy travelling and hiking. I'm also attracted to rock chicks with leather jackets, dyed hair and a devil-may-care attitude. I have yet to find a woman who is both, but that doesn't mean I can only find one attractive.

    Humans are many-faceted.

  • People can like multiple things. Wild concept, I know

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  • I thought bad boys were the natural class clowns. Sometimes they play serious but it prob depends on the age. Bad boys dress better but theyre not my type.

  • Well, why do guys like both Betsy and Veronica? Why do they like both tsunderes and yanderes? Why do guys date all of the girls in the dating sim? Is the reason girls date all of the guys in the dating sim and read stories with multiple types of love interests the same reason guys do it?

  • Bad boys can be funny, they’re not exclusive

  • Oh Tony, you're still obsessed with this bad boy thing? I thought you were got over it. 🤦
    Everyone has a kind of humor they like, so that's subjective. Maybe a bad boy can have a sense of humor that a woman likes and vice versa.
    This is all a matter of preference, it doesn't mean all women like the same.

  • Some women are attracted to funny guys, some women are attracted to bad boys, and some women are attracted to funny guys who are also bad boys. Guys and girls don't have to be one way or the other. People can have and like more than one personality.

  • I've heard it described in a way I had never considered.
    We think in stories. What we want is a powerful male protagonist (or antagonist) that follows the script in our head. Combinations of qualities differ from woman to woman, what we really want is a certain character.

  • That doesn't make sense. It's like saying one can only like classical music OR rock. Guitar OR piano. It doesn't work like that.
    And one personality trade doesn't exclude others. You can be a genuinely nice person and still be mean in certain situations/to certain people.
    And being a bad boy doesn't necessarily mean being a major criminal like a murderer.

  • I personally am not interested in bad boys but I don't see why one of them couldn't have a sense of humor. To me, those two things have nothing to do with each other

  • So usually musicians don’t possess a lot of humor
    these tend to be the nerdy introverted guys in my experience. I had a date with one last Saturday and he barely spoke. It didn’t work out for that reason. too hard to converse with them. I struggle to find kind, caring guys who aren’t narcissists who are also extroverted, as I am extroverted as well

  • Maybe people are misinterpreting your question? For me personally, I wouldn't go for the "bad boy" it wouldn't benefit me longterm & of course they can be humorous aswell, but I wouldn't really see that as their overall "trait" I would much rather the nice guy (:

  • I think you should get over this bad boy obsession. You've been spending all your time on this for few years

  • To be quite honest with you, I don't understand it either. It's baffling. I'm guessing they think that the bad boys will provide a bit of excitement in their dull lives, but "bad boys" are more often than not abusive as well.

  • It's almost as if people aren't so black and white...

  • Bad boys have the best kind of humour, though.

  • Your confusion comes from the fact that your stance forgets that not all men and women are the same and that we are human beings capable of complex interests and behaviors.

  • It's not 'Women'. Some people are just attracted to certain people/a few different kinds of people. Certain personalities work better together, so the relationship works better. I don't know why this would be confusing..

  • You totally misunderstand wtf a bad boy is!!!

    @wowwgirl can you explain it to him?

    • @wowwgirl nvm. This guy would never get it anyway.

    • Lol can't fix ******

  • I don't understand your question a bad boy can and is most likely funny why wouldn't they be? Good men are less likely to be funny since they're more "stiff" "serious" than bad boy.

  • Well from my stand point it's nether. Every girl likes different qualities and characteristics in one's partner 💯 some like bad boys and humor, nice guys and loves music and a mix of other traits different people have it just depends on what the girl like in there future partner

  • They're not mutually excluding qualities, you know...

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