Would you let your child transition as a transgender?

[Asianguy123]

What would you do if your child want sex change operation?

[razelove]

No, not at all, I'm not paying for hormones or surgery. First off I don't support making those decisions so young, that's ludicrous, try having an adult body and see if the body dysmorphia is still there before sterilizing and permanently altering yourself.

Second, it's expensive as hell. They can turn 18, get a job, get their own place, then try to figure out how to budget those massive expenses. It would be cheaper if they just asked for a paid off starter house...

www.teenvogue.com/.../transgender-operations-hormone-therapy-costs

[AndyOh]

I don't think children, let alone most teenagers really have an idea what they want or who they really are. To allow them to make such drastic decisions about their body and ultimately their future, is wrong.

If my kid wanted to be the opposite gender, I would tell them they are what they are until they turn 18 (legal age of consent), and move out. Then they can do whatever they want. I may or may not support them, it depends.

Not being mean, but what kid really knows or thinks about the repercussions of a decision like that? And then 10 years later they decide they made a mistake. Now what?

[AndyOh]

Thanks for the MHO :)

[krysten02]

I don’t have children, but I’ll stand by their decisions 100%. I want my children to have the support system I didn’t have. While I do believe we were all given the gender we were given for a reason, I will stand by and support anyone that chooses to be transgender especially my children. If they want to fully transition and have surgery that’s fine or if they just want to dress differently and change their identity that’s fine too. They will always be my kids and I will not love them less or think of them differently.

[jerdanro]

That's a nice sentiment, but children are in the process of exploring their identities. I think it's foolish to assume a child knows how they will feel for the rest of their lives.

[krysten02]

I didn’t read the question as my child being an actual child. Ofc I’d want them to wait until their older. I was thinking of them closer to adult age or as adults because technically they are still your children even if they are adults.

[jerdanro]

Well in that case, I agree completely.

[loves2learn]

YES! 1000% times yes.


Do you think a person would actually choose a path that difficult if they did not truly believe they were in the wrong body?


Furthermore, the suicide rate is astronomical in transgender children who are not supported.


I love my children unconditionally and I would rather gain a daughter than lose my child to suicide any day.

[tripptt9]

Thank yo

[loves2learn]

You’re welcome.

[MrOracle]

"Do you think a person would actually choose a path that difficult if they did not truly believe they were in the wrong body?"

YouTube is filled with videos of teens and young adults who absolutely made that choice, because they naively thought it would solve all their problems - and when they realized that it didn't, they are detransitioning. And that's the point: many of them are being counseled by pro-trans activists and their parents are SJWs or have SJW friends who call them "stunning and brave" for "supporting their child" and they like winning those social points, and they're not considering the actual long-term outcome of the child. Even the children themselves often get social praise from SJW teachers and parents, and what kid doesn't like to feel special?

I suspect that we're going to see a INCREASE in suicides from these kids - but that won't get nearly the publicity, because it goes against the narrative - and people will eventually admit that it was a big mistake, but that will be too late to save a lot of those poor kids.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qXvdrSkBFqw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rC7EtIeWrPs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0R7DXnqkfJw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z2AIAX8-CqQ

[jerdanro]

The suicide rate is astronomical for those who transition too. How can a child who is still developing their identity know? How can we allow children to make life altering decisions? What if my 12 year old decides he is female, has his penis removed and changes his mind?

[loves2learn]

@jerdanro no medical gender confirmation surgery until after age 18. But if my child wants to delay male puberty and present themself as female to the world. I’m going to 100% respect that.

[jerdanro]

I agree with that, except for the hormones. I don't think anyone really knows the full effect of putting a child on hormones, so I'd not allow that.

[loves2learn]

Hormone blockers. Not hormones. My child could choose to enter male puberty any time he wants.

[jerdanro]

Gotcha.

[Prettygurl12]

Much like with relationships at a young age... if it's meant to be it'll be meant to be when they're an adult and can make that decision on their own without my consent.

[ChrisMaster69]

Not while a child, I am open to the entire thing but I agree with current guidelines on this.
the proviso to this, is where the parents have received medical advice (including psychological) that it should be considered.

The important bit is being there for them and providing support, it’s not a black and white situation really.

other than that I support my daughter in what choices she may make.

[nevernevernever]

I would let them socially transition to try it out but I would be more hesitant to allow any medical transitioning processes until they were older

[HeyMikeyLikesIt]

it would depend on their age, and how long they've been vocal about it all

[Apple1996]

Definitely not. My kids can barely choose what there favorite color is so I'm definitely not gonna let them choose if they wanna be a boy or girl. If they are over 18 and wanted to then of course I'd support them.

[Astarlessnightsky]

I want them to be happy.

[The_Maphio]

No child would even begin thinking about any of that. It's a parent driven "decision".
If I could, if ever found somebody doing that to a child, they'd be found slumped over trashbags in a alley.

[TheLittleInnocent]

I see no harm in it but I'd rather they wait till they are older to do the medical stuff. I saw this video where they interviewed some teens who regretted transitioning. I'd like for them to be 100% sure that it's what they want and not a decision made on a whim.

[Paige90]

No and anyone that says they would is a TERRIBLE parent!! They can wait until they are adults!

[TadCurious]

There are no sex change surgeries. It's impossible to change a person's sex. The sex chromosomes are in every cell of the body. If I had a child with gender identity disorder I would not allow the surgical mutilation of their body.

[EternallyCorrect]

No I would not.

[Agape93]

No. I don’t want kids to begin with, and I’m sure as shit not shelling out thousands of dollars for that especially for a child.

[andreasderjuengere]

I see no reason to support the results of my own (parental) failure.

[exitseven]

I would do plenty of research and consult experts and wait until the kid is 17 or 18.

[Ripper_E]

Yes. It's their life.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Absolutely not. They're a child, their sense of self and identity is nowhere near fully developed or mature. Kids can be surprisingly wise in many ways, but they also don't know jackshit. When they're old enough to vote, own a house, or go to war, then they're old enough to make their own decisions about biological modifications.

[FilmGuy93]

I would ask them to wait until they were at least sexually matured (16-17) ... So many homosexual people questioned their gender when they were small children. I think it's important to make a decision about your gender once you have experienced life as your natal gender. My 13 year old doesn't know enough about being a man or woman to know that he/she doesn't want to be one. I would rather my kid wait a few years and potentially realize that they are just homosexual than undergo a procedure that will irreversibly change their life before they have had the chance to see what's what.

[SamtheDnDgirl]

I'll listen to the doctor, but I think I will let them transition.

[jerdanro]

Do you think a child is capable of making a life altering decision like that? I don't.

[KatherineJ]

Honestly there isn’t enough information in the question to give a real answer.

[Xwtxx]

It is wrong to enable the child without all the facts. This is a major life changing thing to wait until 16. The surgery should be done at the age of the majority. This just common sense.