Most Helpful Guys

  • No, I don't do safe words unless a woman insists on it, but still don't trust it. Most masochists will go far past what they can truly handle. The easiest solution is not a safe word, but an action, hold on to a ball, my arm, something simple that they just have to do to ensure they are conscious and receiving adequate circulation to the area.

    As a sadist it's not just my duty to have fun, but to ensure the safety and enjoyment of my sub, put her into subspace, and make sure she comes out without any permanent damage. Subs want to stay in subspace and will not tell you about a numb hand, dislocated shoulder, any of that to stay in subspace longer.

    You cannot trust them to say a safe word to actually stay safe but have to stay on top of that yourself. Part of the pleasure they're looking for is surrendering control and responsibility, so it is imperative to keep that trust. If I'm feeling lazy and want to be on the receiving end, mine is apple. Again, I fall to the same mindset and cannot be trusted to say it, which is why I apply the same logic in reverse :p

    • That makes complete sense. We don’t take it nearly that far. Honestly I’m not worried. He’s afraid he might accidentally do something to upset or hurt me, so it’s for his peace of mind. :)

    • Red is usually a good one for simple things like some light smacking, yelling or degradation. You aren't gagged or tied up, and while you might want to yell no and squirm about as part of the fun and games, it's never sexy to yell out a color.

  • No, but I don't do anything in bed that she does not enjoy. The one time I did something that was uncomfortable for her (because of recent surgery and healing that was not completed) I immediately stopped as soon as I realized she was in some discomfort.

    • He doesn’t either. But sometimes I yell expletives when I’m enjoying it and he worries I’m not ok.

    • If my partner gets vocal, I just assume she is enjoying herself, unless she would say "stop." It's not an agreed upon safe word but I know what it means.

    • Fair point! We decided to just nail one down.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Ginger.
    Cause back in the medieval era, they used ginger as a punishment of torture and inserted in people's asses.
    We both love anal,
    and we found it fucking hilarious.

    • I love that! I also love ginger. Lol

  • how do you mean, my husband and I have certain words for certain things,

    • Sometimes when I’m enjoying sex I yell expletives and hubs worries if I’m ok or not. Enter safe word.

    • oh, yes I know what you mean, mine is hungry, meaning I was hungry for sex but the words I use would make a soldier blush

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I don't need safe words. Not into anything that would use them.

  • I don't do anything unsafe.
    No is the only safe word I need.

  • No! I don’t engage in anything that would require a safe word.

  • Don't have a SO so N/A

  • red. It's generic, but it works

  • I don’t have a partner to play with at moment.

    it would be her word and would be something we agree on.

    the important thing is to have non verbal and both visual and non visual.

  • Damn it no lol, I don't even have SO that's a squeaky otter right I guess if I ever find an otter, then I guess I'm going to have to come find you since you know otter language because I sure don't

    • What the fuck? Lol. Your voice to text seems to think you like otters. 🤣

    • Lmao VTT I thought we were talking about SO, ok take a time out I'm so confused

  • Plunder german for random stuff we just thought we never use that in an other way so its our safe word

  • Potter...

  • I don't currently have an SO 😳

  • its a gesture that I recognize that she's being uncomfy. I always try to be mindful of her gestures.

  • i did with my last girl. well she did anyway. i didn't need one

  • Pineapple

  • Stupid ho ☺️

  • No need for a safe word, we don't have weird extreme sex and we have if you have a high level of trust why would you need a safe word.

    • When I’m enjoying sex I yell expletives. He just wants to make sure I’m ok.

  • Papaya

    • I swear there is an American pie spin off where a lady shows how to eat a pussy by eating a papaya and saying “love your papaya.” 🤣

    • Lmao

  • When I was dating, we just used the traffic light system.
    Green: All good, go ahead with what you were doing
    Yellow: Hold up, we need to define some boundaries before we do that/do something else instead/I just need to to talk to me first
    Red: Stop everything RIGHT NOW

  • With my first girlfriend I made sure I wasn't thrusting to hard on her vagina due to some past trama.

    • Sad but very thoughtful of you.

  • I mean we have tried safe words, meaning me saying them but never actually using them 😂

  • I do

    • Do tell!

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