Why aren't women sexually attracted to men and visually aroused by them. Why is sexual attraction always one sided (Men lusting Women)?

[SnuffleMuffins]

I keep hearing and reading and coming across different sources or observations that keep enduring the same theme revolving around gender-biased sexual desires. I try not to be sexist, but I'm starting to believe that it might be true. I'm attracted to the vast majority of women and since I have a visual sex drive I get aroused a lot of the time, but that's not the problem. the problem is that my desire and sexual attraction is never reciprocated back to me by anyone. Women never look at me and it feels like they could care less whether I was alive or not. It hurts to desire members of the opposite sex only to realize the opposite sex doesn't desire men as much or in the same way. I'm not ugly, I've already asked a lot of other people. I'm tired of finding females sexually attractive. I'm tired of getting aroused. I'm tired of desiring the opposite sex because that energy is never reciprocated and I'm left to deal with my sexual urges on my own and over time it hurts emotionally not being desired back. It feels pointless to have a sex drive when the opposite sex doesn't even desire you sexually. So am I just overthinking things or is it true that women don't want sex with other sex. Do women find men sexually attractive. Is it a vast population of men or only the top 20 percent that are sexually desired by women? Do women look or are they very secretive when staring at a guy? I'm sexually frustrated and I would appreciate opinions on this.
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[AmandaYVR]

Ok, let's crack the code here. (I'll try to keep this short[er] but no promises.)

Let's bullet point this, shall we?

• Of course women are sexually attracted to men. What do you think all these humans are doing here on the planet - they were made by having sex, by mutual sexual attraction.
• At 18 your hormones are raging more powerfully than your female equivalent's. Your urges are extremely powerful. She's a bit more in control.
• Girls look at the whole package (that's personality++, not down-there package.) They're much more selective (probably due to thousands of years of risk of pregnancy, etc etc.) You are "attracted to the vast majority of women" but they are attracted to far fewer. You, fundamentally, are wired to want to spread your seed. She's wired to think, "Who will be a decent guy, and stick around, should I accidentally get pregnant?"
• Men's brains compartmentalize more. They aren't incorporating all of their 5 senses, all their memories, all their emotions, into everything they think and do. You see a cute girl and that's all you need to feel momentarily happy and aroused. She's less easily distracted by this and has five other things on her mind; not to mention the associations with other things, that you, or her environment, etc etc bring to mind.
• Girls are much more indirect in all forms of communication. They do not want to get busted checking out a guy (only, maybe, the very boldest of them wouldn't mind.) Her subtlety is your ignorance. And, some may actually like what they see, but they're not going to let anyone know. They're young and insecure and it feels too vulnerable to do this.
• You're unlikely to get a girl just by her choosing you based on how you look. You've got to charm her/them. Use more brain more, and think, now what are they looking for? It begins with words. Trust me. (And yes, of course it helps if you are good looking, but millions of average looking men have partnered up, so think deeper than that. You can compensate in one area, but being more attractive/appealing in another. Like knowledge, intelligence, sense of humour, etc etc.)
• If you're only after sex, and nothing else, they will smell it. And they'll most often walk away.

[SnuffleMuffins]

I get that maybe evolution could play a major role in why they are like this, but it still hurts a lot to not be desired back with the same intensity that I feel towards them. And one more thing... I don't want a relationship right now, but I still have strong sexual urges and needs. I want to avoid going to the strip club or prostitution because first of all it's expensive, and second of all it's not the same as someone wanting to actually have sex with you. I also want to avoid one night stands because if I'm going to be spending time with someone then I want to develop a human connection with them. If not then it would feel like a waste of time not ever seeing that person again. It would also allow us to get to be more comfortable around each other and get to know each other's rhythms and desires better. But I don't want to be in a relationship. I feel like most men aren't sexually desired because they need to have all their qualities polished up, where as women don't need anything but to be a good human being to be sexually attractive to men. It's this imbalance of sexual attraction that is making me depressed with being a male. A man needs to be so many things just to attract women, but women don't need that much to attract a man. The lack of sexual reciprocation hurts, a lot. Sorry if it feels like I'm ventilating. I'm just sexually frustrated. I desire so much and since my sex drive is based off visual perception I get aroused a lot, but it's never reciprocated. And that's the part that hurts. I wish I could stop desiring the opposite sex, but since my sex drive is visual it's impossible to turn it off and I hate my sex drive now. I never wanted it. I wish I had a choice to disable it because there's no point in having a sex drive as a male. I wish men and women were attracted to each other in the same way so that there wouldn't be an imbalance in sexual attraction. :(

[mistixs]

Women can be attracted to men but the problem is that a lot of men don't take as much care of their appearance as women do. Many women spend up to an hour getting ready for the day, while most men don't even put a comb through their hair.
I noticed I'm more attracted to gay/bi men because they generally take more care of their appearance than most straight men.

[SnuffleMuffins]

So if more men were to take care of their appearance then there would be more sexual attraction towards men? Like for me, I always comb my hair, smell good, brush my teeth, wear good looking casual clothes and like khakis, jeans, and different types of shirts and I also make sure to clean my shoes from time to time. What about if you're working out? I personally still find women sexually attractive when they're working out or training in a sport despite if they're sweaty or wearing a sports uniform like for soccer for example. That doesn't impact sexual attraction for me. How do you think women would view this in general?

[Zygum]

Wow, really wonderful answer, as you claim that you are very successful man attracting women, so how many women you bring in your bed, weekly?

[SnuffleMuffins]

@Zygum I'm not successful. I just take care of my hygiene and stuff, but women still aren't sexually attracted to me.

[john23232323]

So girls don't find YOU attractive and now the whole gender is somehow asexual? And what if they do like you? Do you think they'll throw themselves on their knees and say "please master fuck me hard, i will forever be your little slave"? Girls don't make the first move so if they are attracted to you and you do nothing then they'll just totally forget about you and move to a different guy.

[SnuffleMuffins]

I study other men as well who I think are physically attractive, but the women around them don't even look at them either. And I asked a lot of people whether I was ugly and the majority said I was a little above average. If they do find men sexually attractive I'd expect for them to at least gaze at them, but they never do. I don't expect them to throw themselves and beg them for sex, but I would assume they would look at them, but that doesn't even happen. And the fact that they'll give up on you if you don't make the first move just proves that women aren't as attracted to men as men are to women.

[john23232323]

@snufflemuffins because women aren't as desperate as you and have much bigger pool of men they can choose from. They are also more subtle than men and try to not seem like they check out guys but they usually do.

[SnuffleMuffins]

@john23232323 I hate the gender imbalance. Hopefully this eventually balances out. It's not fair that men in general don't get enough desire as women in general. The system of attraction is really fucked up. It's so imbalanced.

[allin246810in]

Lol. Women definitely are. There's really no difference between men and women except how they're raised to have higher expectations and more respect for themselves on a broader basis.

[SnuffleMuffins]

Thankyou for your response. I was just so confused because I feel like anytime I happen to be around women, none of them find me desirable to any degree. I don't ever catch women looking at me, but yet I always found a good proportion of women attractive and desirable. And I started to get depressed recently because I feel as though my sexual attraction is never reciprocated. I feel undesired by the opposite sex. And I even asked a lot of people whether or not I was ugly and a lot of people kept saying that I was actually a "handsome young man". I found it hard to believe and I still don't believe it because of this. If women do lust men Are women just very cautious and quiet about their sexual urges? Thank you again for your response. :)

[allin246810in]

Carry yourself with confidence and don't pay do much attention to every hot girl you see. Just assume every girl is looking.

[SnuffleMuffins]

Alright. I'll try! Thanks for the feedback. I greatly appreciate it!

[UnlovedWife]

I don’t find that to be the case. I’m turned on by looking at a man.

[SnuffleMuffins]

wait, really? So women also get visually turned on by looking at men? So is it a false stereotype that "women don't get aroused visually"? I always thought that it was only men who are turned on visually. And I got depressed believing that because I took it as sexual attraction was almost always one sided because males are visually aroused and females aren't.

[UnlovedWife]

Absolutely women get turned on looking at men. Definitely not one sided although one way to really turn a woman on is to put on a well fitted suite or a uniform of some kind.

[Battleghul]

There are plenty of videos you can find on youtube of women thirsting over celebrities, and stuff

[NotMe1]

Those are celebrities 99.99% of men aren't celebrities and don't look like celebrities and don't have money like celebrities

[SnuffleMuffins]

But celebrities are the top percentage of people. Do women even lust the typical men they come across throughout their daily lives? @battleghul

[elvitto]

Bro i also believe our attraction for women is way stronger than in the other way around. I can relate to your feelings. That one you posted is a great question by the way.

[SnuffleMuffins]

Thank you. :) The imbalance of attraction hurts more than women realize. There's honestly no point in having a sex drive as a male :(

[Zygum]

It is not necessary that men are more lustful than women, it depends upon sex drive, which has more

[SnuffleMuffins]

So you're saying it depends on the individual whether or not they desire sexual connection or have sexual attraciton?

[Nachowedgie]

Well that's false

[SnuffleMuffins]

So women do lust men? Because anytime I'm around people women never look at me, or is that because they're just somehow looking at me without me knowing? I'm very observant and aware of my surroundings and I've never caught a female looking at me. Is it possible that they low-key desire me and I'm just unaware? Or do I have to be really attractive in order to receive lust from women?

[Nachowedgie]

You're probably just not attractive to the women you're surrounding yourself with

[SnuffleMuffins]

@nachowedgie I'm not surrounding myself with specific women. I'm always around different types of people, but no one ever finds me sexually attractive, or at least if feels that way. I asked a lot of people whether or not I'm ugly and the majority said I'm a little above average so ugliness isn't really a problem I guess.

[Anryy]

Maybe because women are GAY AF, i'm not really sure

[SnuffleMuffins]

that explains why they hug and hold hands with eachother so much!

[Anryy]

It explain also why they are so obsessed with lesbian porn and lesbian sex and tomboys

[Anryy]

*explains

[SnuffleMuffins]

@anryy Yup. That makes sense

[Anonymous]

Wow, bro, first of all, chill the fuck out. That's way too much text for my screen.

[SnuffleMuffins]

Lol! My bad. I kinda ventilated a bit... so that's why I typed so much. I got carried away. So what's your opinion on this. Any response is appreciated.

[Opinion Owner]

Focus on making friends with women and finding out what interests them. You have to put in the work. You have to gain trust and intimacy. It's not easy, but, hey it's the opposite sex we're talking about. First try to be intimate and caring and compassionate towards yourself. Then, you'll understand a little better what it means to be a nurturing female and that what they really want is that stupid romantic stuff. You just have to be there for them and be affectionate. It's really hard because they don't really trust us and you'll face rejection by being vulnerable, but if you're good to yourself and trust yourself, then eventually you'll find someone.

[SnuffleMuffins]

I think I'll just switch my sexual orientation. It's honestly probably a lot easier than having to deal with women's repulsiveness.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not true. Women Lust for men a lot. Some girls can have even higher sex drives than Men.

[NotMe1]

Women lust for women and the top 3% of men

[SnuffleMuffins]

so women do lust for men? do they lust men in general? or only the top 20% of men? Or does it depend on the person? Can you be an average man and still have women lust you although you're not the best?

[aieeazumui]

Women lust for men..." A lot"? Kidding me?

[Opinion Owner]

@NotMe1 Not sure where you got that sat lmao

[Opinion Owner]

100%. Women lust for men with who they feel a connection with and it doesn't have to be physical.

[aieeazumui]

Who they feel connected with... lol... ok I thought women lust for men... in general as well :/

[SnuffleMuffins]

@aieeazumui Exactly! women only lust men they feel a connection with. Men lust women in general in terms of sexual attraction. If women only lust because of emotional connections then that doesn't mean women lust men. In doesn't mean women lust men as much as men lust women. And that imbalance is the problem.