Sadists only: Why do you get turned on when you inflict pain on your submissive partner?

I personally love to be submissive. I’ve heard many guys tend to be sadists. If you’re a sadists, do you get turned on when you choke, spank, pull hair, etc? What about it turns you on? Do you get turned on when you know it hurts her but it’s still consensual because she enjoys the pain?
Sadists only: Why do you get turned on when you inflict pain on your submissive partner?
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  • For me it's not technically the pain. I've had 3 girlfriends who were all into bdsm in some form and they all had different tolerances and limits but they all equally turned me on.
    I guess I just enjoy the ego boost and power trip that comes with being in control and the thought that this girl has chosen to put herself in an extremly vulnerable position with me.

    My first partner wanted to be hit hard. I would spank her with a paddle until her butt was bruised and sore and it would get her off.

    My current long term girlfriend can't handle that, at most she's up for a few medium slaps on the bum with my hand. But she's into tickling.
    I can tie her up and tickle her until she's a sweaty blubbering mess of a girl and she loves it.

    So I guess there is 2 different kinds of pain, but for me it's just a means to an end. The actual intensity or medium doesn't matter. It's all about the pain relative to her tolerances and the feeling of power and responsibility that I feel when she gives herself to me.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I don't know if I'm a real sadist, but I do enjoy actions that can cause pain. I do however also find pleasure in receiving pain. But my partner has to be into it as well; it's not fun, if it's not enjoyed by the recipient.

    But to me, neither giving nor receiving is about the pain itself. It's about the freedom and engagement I feel. I like to play rough, but if I have to constantly remind myself not to spank/slap, scratch or bite (among other things), it puts me more into my head and pulls my out of my body; I'm not as engaged. I'm not saying that I need to cause pain to feel engagement. Sometimes I'm in the mood for something else.
    I also receive pleasure from sensing my partner's enjoyment when I cause pain.
    Likewise, I feel her engagement when she slaps or bites me, which turns me on. Not the pain, but her being into the sex and into me.

Most Helpful Girl

  • It is such a turn on being spanked.
    I experienced this at school, and my dad when I was naughty.

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  • It is a turn on, mostly for me it's a combination of the power I get to hold, and that it has been willingly, eagerly, trusted in my hands.

  • No, you get happy that your partner is getting release

    admittedly I am not a true sadist nor would I want to be.

    I definitely do not get turned on knowing it’s hurting grr, however you do it because it’s needed.

  • There’s a fine line on conflicting pain to someone to me , Me personally doesn’t want to physically hurt her but playfully being rough with her is a turn , , I never understood people that enjoyed getting bruises and scratches that bleed to be sexy and a turn on

  • Yes, spanking more than the others. What turns me on is not as much the pain but that she's consenting to making herself vulnerable by baring her ass and bending over to be spanked.

  • Maybe the guys you deal with are sadists. I don't think most men are. And I am pretty sure many men, including myself would be hesitant to hurt a woman, even if they wanted to be hurt.
    Watch out who you are dealing with. You started dipping your toe into the waters of BDSM and like I said, it gets dark really fast. The second you show any interest in such stuff, the weirdos come out of the woodwork pronto. So I am sure you have been getting some crazy messages since you started your curiosity with it.
    I am telling you don't dance with the devil, he leads.

  • Inflicting a bit of sexual pain on my partner is something I'd do only if she really wanted it. What do you think about guys closing your mouth while you try to moan? Something that turns you on?

  • I do. But only to a certain degree. I don’t want to cause severe pain, just enough.

  • It’s all about the power in the relationship and the power that the sub is willingly giving to me as her dominant

  • I only enjoy it if it gives her pleasure. I have spanked and flogged women many times, but I don't seek it out.

  • For me, it is about her willingness to do anything I ask of her for my pleasure and her own.

  • I'm not the one getting turned on...

  • You should watch the Netflix show, "Bonding". You'd like it

    Stop perving on here

  • @hannah_ann_linge
    your submissive but does that mean you enjoy pain?

  • I'm not a sexual sadist; i don't want to see my partner hurt at all. I'm a vengeful sadist; I enjoy inflicting pain on those who have wronged or hurt me.

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