If your friends with benefits starts eating your pussy does it mean he is developing stronger feelings?

No rude or mean comments please. I know it might sound silly for me to ask that but it’s really confusing. This friends with benefits relationship has lasted for a year and a half. He’s also one of my ex’s from 13 years ago and we only dated for 4 months and broke up. We was teenagers and I lost my virginity to him back then. He recently told me that we should stop seeing each other bc he doesn’t think it was a good idea anymore and 2 weeks later he came back to me. This has happened 3 times now. So, I’ve asked him to go down on me before and he said he didn’t like it and wasn’t good at. I took it as he just doesn’t want to bc I’m his friends with benefits but whatever. Now the last two times he has seen me, he has ate my pussy and I haven’t asked him to do it either. It’s been a year since I asked and when he told me he didn’t like it. When we do have sex, it’s a lot of eye contact and he ask me questions on what feels good and what doesn’t. He always kisses me when he sees me and always kisses me before he leaves. This past time he ate my pussy and we had sex he cuddled with me for alittle bit and started rubbing my back and we have never cuddled before afterwards so that was first. Big thing is here, he has told me 3 times that we shouldn’t keep seeing each other but then comes back and then starts eating my pussy after saying he doesn’t like eating pussy. Eating pussy to me is way more intimate than sex. I’ve always heard you love what you eat lol.

Would you think that he is developing stronger feelings for me now?
Updates:
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So I got the nerve to ask him if he cared about me or if I was just fun free sex and he said that he cared about me a lot and likes me for who I am and that’s the reason why he comes back because he misses me and cares about me. If I was just for the sex he can get it somewhere else and doesn’t want me to think that.
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  • Not exactly, friends with benefits doesn’t mean you need to have bad unromantic sex, romance doesn’t always translate to feelings or a relationship , (study also shows when people cheat, the tend to be more romantic too, people can stage whatever the fuck they want) it means two adults in agreement to have sex without being emotionality attached to each other. In my opinion, he just upped his game in bed, that’s why he’s eating that pussy hard lately, that doesn’t mean he’s ready to be in a serious relationship. He keeps telling you that you should stop because he doesn’t want you to bank on it or stop you guys developing an attachment, yet again keeps coming back because he’s human, wants that pussy, and it’s available. Nothing like a good pussy. Given a chance, I would still wish to fuck my ex a few not few exactly, a hundred more times 😂😂, though I don’t want her back.

    • Ok that makes a lot of sense

  • I would only have a friends with benefits with a woman who is actually my friend. I would do that for her because she's important to me whether we are romantically interested or not.

    • It’s just weird to me on how I’ve asked him before and he said he didn’t like it and he was bad at it but then a year or so later he starts doing it. Just makes me wonder

    • Every guy is different. If I don't care about her, then I will not do that. I wouldn't have a friend with benefits I don't care about.

    • I don’t think he cared much in the beginning but I think he does now

Most Helpful Girls

  • If he starts to take you out on dates and brings you flowers, chocolate, he acts romantic, those are signs of love. He might eat your pussy to get used to the taste for others. Or just curiosity to try new things. Don't get your hopes up, friends with benefits are bad deals to begin with

    • Agreed. I had my heart broken badly over my last, and I mean last ever, friends with benefits.

  • I wouldn't say eating 😻 is an indicator, lol.
    But the fact that he keeps saying you should end it then comes back might be.
    Either that or he tries things with others and just comes back to you cause you're comfortable.

    • I agree. He may have feelings and want to end it to protect his heart, but his feelings are too strong to let her go. I can relate to that.

    • He has broke it off with me 3 times in the last year and a half saying I let my emotions get in the way and then a week or so later he always comes back everytime. I just don’t understand it

    • He let his emotions get in the way or you did? If he did and you like him, maybe you can tell him you like him too.

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  • i had a friends with benefits and he wanted blowjobs like 3-4 of them each time he came over then occassionally he'd eat my pussy but not everytime... sometimes guys do it to keep you interested or to give better blowjobs

    • I love eating pussy. I love to give my partner pleasure. If nothing else a man should take pride in being able to please a woman.

  • He is doing it so he can come back whenever he wants... smh... enjoy.

  • Would normally say no, because I see eating out as part of sex but, with the details you have given, I'd say maybe so.

    • Yeah I’m thinking so too. Doesn’t make any sense to me other than he does

    • Glad to see your update.

  • A great question, and glad he is eating your pussy now consistently. Your question is hard to answer, because nobody can get in his head for motivation factors. You will have to ask him, what he is thinking.

  • I think he’s bored or maybe he did miss you and changed his mind but you should make him beg for you. Try hard to get

  • Yes I think so and a guy doesn’t eat a girls pussy unless he likes her

  • There is simply NOTHING in this for the girl. ZERO. ZILCH. NADA. A BIG FAT NOTHINGBURGER. You're just a warm place to put it, and he has zero respect for you cuz you've already proven your worth - which is ZERO.
    QUIT DOING THIS.

    • On update... You are a complete fool. Oh well. Desperate and needy we guess.

  • nope just means he wants to eat your kitty 😺

  • No lol

    • 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

  • I don’t think so. To me anyways. I always go down. Always...

    • He has told me that he doesn’t like doing it before a lot of times but now he started doing it

    • Hard to say. My best friend never did it until his wife... now he loves it. Things change. He certainly could be doing it because of stronger feelings and wanting to please you...

    • Yeah probably right. He’s so confusing tho

  • No one here can answer this. Ask him.

    • I haven’t wanted to ask bc I don’t want him to over think or me scare him away

    • Just casually indirectly ask him

    • Give me some pointers

  • He might just be more sexually cofident.

  • No...

  • No it doesn't

    • He doesn’t what?

    • Doesn't have stronger feelings

    • Ok, I tend to overthink sometimes and make myself believe in something my head made up

  • Lot guys love eating pussy

    • This guy doesn’t tho

    • Well have turst girl before I'd do it too

    • I think after a year and a half he definitely trusts me. Another weird thing, been having sex for over a year right... just 3 months ago he told me what he really really likes and how kinky he really is. I said why haven’t you told me this before and his answer was I don't know, wasn’t sure how you would take it when I told you. Which it isn’t anything I haven’t heard before so it didn’t scare me away or anything.

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  • No, It means he likes to eat pussy.

    • He doesn’t like to eat pussy. He has told me he doesn’t a lot of times

    • He may have told you that, but obviously that is not the case.

    • Maybe not now lol

  • It doesn't Change anything

  • Yikes, that's a hard one, as I get to know a woman's body more, I will go for the hot spots more often. I don't ask. I figure it out by exploration. Guys pay attention, it's a mutual thing.

  • Could be

  • He's playing with your feelings. You're his fuck buddy that he keeps you around and leave & go whenever he wants. Don't fall for it.