Guys, is it okay if your girlfriend is scared to let you see her naked?

[Anonymous]

I’m 24 and a virgin. I don’t think I’ll ever be in a relationship or intimate with someone, but I’ve always thought what if it happened.

If it happened, I would not be comfortable naked around him, because I know I don’t have a good body for sex. I have broad shoulders, small hips, man hands/feet, stretch marks, skin discoloration in my inner thighs/butt area/vagina, strawberry skin on my breasts/legs, love handles, some loose skin on my stomach, large saggy boobs, etc. I’ve never seen a woman with as many issues as I do or a worse body than mine. I couldn’t imagine showing my body to a guy because I know how it will end.

It’s not difficult to know what a guy is attracted to. If I were in this situation, I think I would stop him if I caught on that he wanted intimacy. I’d explain that I can’t let him see me naked, he will be disgusted, I’m doing him a favor and he can easily find someone more attractive. I’m not embarrassing myself and I’m saving him from looking at me which I think is a win win. 😊

[InventorofWarp]

I'm a 24-year-old male virgin.
I recently changed almost everything about me that I didn't like after so many years of just being that really unattractive loser who just sat in the corner alone reading as a kid while girls never noticed him at best and told him how ugly and pathetic he is at the worst.
I stopped feeling sorry for myself, started doing real emotional work, started working out and got ripped in the last 6 months and it's honestly had this effect where I do kind of feel better like I'm proud of myself when I look down now I see abs, another man's stomach and chest, instead of a gut and it's actually kind of freaky and scary. Like, I was a sweet kid when I was 14 but no one ever wanted anything to do with me. And now I take my shirt off when I'm outside in the front yard and women are looking at me and it freaks me out so I put my shirt back on. It freaks me out because I still don't consider myself attractive and can't really comprehend it. And it freaks me out because I know they don't see that sweet kid like I really want someone to. They just see some really tall guy with a hell of a chest and stomach definition that they really like but... they don't understand why that's there. How long I had to spend as a loser and a lonely kid before I got there.
Freaks me out a lot of the time.
Best I can offer is if there's something you don't like about yourself, either change it or learn to live with it and love it until you do... the fight that comes after that learning to accept the change and get rid of all of the fears is something I still can't quite help you with.

[exitseven]

Do not explain it like that, you don't want to scare him away. Just say that you are shy and could we please do it with the lights off. You are not the first person to feel this way. Guys can feel this way as well. It may take a while for the two of you to get comfortable with each other.

[exitseven]

Thank you for the MHO 😊😊😊

[Curmudgeon]

I would say post a picture and let us decide, but if it is any consolation, he's likely even more nervous what *you* will think of *him*.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

You sound quite attractuve from the desription of yourself. Yes its ok if your nerves about undressing.

[Browneye57]

Seek professional counseling. They are pro's at helping people sort through what's real and what isn't. This just isn't normal. You need help, and it's okay to ask for it.

[genericname85]

it's totally ok to be scared of that. i mean it is scary. but it's not ok to not get naked anyway.

[ashish804]

if he loves u.. he loves u with all the flaws too.. so be confident and one would want to bang u rather seeing so much think... he would bang ur butt to make it bigger and do all to make u more fucking sexyyyyy

[Wise4myage]

You need to stop believing all the things you mentioned or your gonna be a virgin for life.

[clampfan101]

I wouldn’t want my SO to see me naked until we were married.

[COMMODOREII]

Hell no!!

[Juxtapose]

It's actually really rare for a woman to be so ugly that she's unfuckable. If she is fun I can look over a lot of flaws :)

[Twalli]

Any guy you will date will want to see you naked. Truthfully most guys will want to see you naked even if you don't date them. I can't explain how deep this runs with guys, but we like seeing the naked female body. It doesn't even have to be of the person we're dating. I guarantee you the guys you will date will want to see you naked and like what they see.