How does marriage benefit a man?

[Anonymous]

Largely depends on what he wants from life, love kids, sex etc.
Marry the right woman and get so much much
1. Love
2. A family
3. Sex on tap
4. A partner in all things
5. A best friend
6. A confidant
7. Help

I'm sure there is stuff I'm missing but the practical stuff your describing such as tax breaks, shared health care, joint income, designated driver etc do not justify alone the risks if you marry the wrong woman. The wrong woman can utterly destroy any man. What's always amazing to me when couples divorce is how cold and ruthless women can be. They might have been planning to divorce for a year but will go through the motions pretending while the husband has no idea what's coming, then she hits with the freight train. Next thing he knows he's moved out of his home, his wife is sleeping with another man and he see his kids every other weekend. To strengthen her divorce case for child custody, child support, alimony, the Home and division of assests she will allege abuse, cheating anything. My aunt when she left her ex had been planning it for two years with her lawyer to best maximise her income and to do that she needed full custody of the kids that way she got to keep his house rather than divide it up, get child support from him, alimony and half his stuff while keeping hers. She put into action her plan. On a Friday from the bathroom she called the police and told them he was attacking her then went and started a fight pushing and hitting him, he pushed her away and she fell over and bust her lip and nose, bruised her arm. Police arrived and arrested him. She had to give a statement later on the Monday. So before that she had her friend punch her a few times around her eye and face and hit her on the arms, legs and waist. She went to the hospital that night and filed her report on Monday. He had to stay in the County jail until his court hearing so she had the locks on the house changed, sold on ebay anything he had of value, maxed out his credit cards, emptied his bank account, emptied their shared bank account, changed the car over into her name, somehow cashed his shares and bonds, had his dog put down secretly moved the man she was cheating with in and on that Monday took out a restraining order. Like I remember overhearing her tell all this to her friend. The guy was a decent man and was from then only able to see his kids at her convience.
Took this guy years to get over it all and when he met someone new she tried to sabotage it for him, tried to win him back and then stopped him from seeing his kids. But you wouldn't think my aunt was like that but she is.

[Anonymous]

Occasional access to her vagina in a gradually diminishing pattern and enthusiasm on her part is a thing of the past. It will eventually evolve to an economic proposition -access will be granted for "service"-if you've done everything she demands. After she calves you've served half your purpose. After she squirts out a few kids she will require childcare, housework along with your usual chores and you damn well better be bringing home bacon so she can play with HER dollies-if you fail in any of these tasks she will divorce you and the Court will order you to pay even more to her with the threat of jail if you are late. She will also keep the children you fathered and are supporting and try to turn them against you. This is what a man gets from marriage-entitled women, impoverishment, boring and very infrequent sex, then financial devastation. I'm an attorney and have handled hundreds of divorces and this is a very common scenario for a man. (And no, I do not just represent the men-more of my clients are women and I have witnessed how mercenary and vindictive they become in the process). I represent them and go after their men for everything they have because that's my job but as a man I see these things and it opens your eyes as to how cold, calculating and mercenary women are. Its a steep price to pay for little return.

[Sangita93]

In marriage, husband and wife, both want to build a life together. They join forces. They want the other to be happy. They support each other. Their partner is most important in their lives, mature relationships are mutually beneficial. If you do not understand that, stay single and avoid all the imagined hassle. Because marriages offers a mutual agreement with vows that bind them together. Nature has designed sex as most pleasant with a purpose of engaging men and women enjoying sex as much as they can to keep life everlasting on earth. Sex is basic need and life force. Men (and women) gets commeeted partner, as and when they need and have ultimate fun. But most men and women hide these words and present other reasons. If he even wants that without marriage, it is not accepted legally, socially, religiously, (all these things are man-made, but accepted worldwide) and expensive in terms of money and social impression. They get someone to look after them, because professionals are never careful and cheaper than a wife. Traditionally, marriage is said security, and benefits for women and children, at the expense of the man. It is less expensive life being single and doing the dating game, than being married. The difference is, women are expected to offer something substantial besides service and Loyalty, and it is automatic or mechanical. Essentially, Women get everything of him, finances, shelter, food, resources, and protection at his expense, but she does the same for him, if not more. Man gets her, the looks that he was attracted to. Focusing on health and life expectancy for men as primary benefits is a good reason for man. If wife died before him, he will get full custody of her all properties, house auto-paid, life insurance payoff, and much more.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

He gets the benefit of someone's loveHe gets the benefit of her commitmentHe gets the benefit of falling asleep/waking up in the arms of sometime who loves himHe gets the benefit of someone to take care of him when he's sickHe gets the "real" friends with benefits... Relationships should be about sharing, caring, loving.. So many people ask what their partner brings, but what do they bring? You get out what you put in... Put in and she'll put out lololIt can't be one sided, it takes two

[genericname85]

as far as i can see, it doesn't really. marriage is an institution originally invented to prevent men from easily getting out of their responsibility in terms of rising children and in terms of enforcing relationship rules on a legal level, so that women don't getabused or fucked over easily. it was meant to optimize the survival of the human species, by enforcing rules that make it more likely for children being adequately rised.

yes it theoretically also "to some extend" protects men from being fucked over but that's mostly theory and rarely actual practice, cause it's usually men that have to lose more. women go for men higher in socio-economic status, not lower, which is why they typically have less to lose. of course exceptions do exist.

for men, marriage has no real world advantages as far as i see. it takes their freedom to have sex with whomever they want (cause typically women are not the ones trying to fuck many men but men are typically trying to fuck many women) and gives them responsibilities in return. not exactly a sweet deal but i'm open to be proven wrong.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Marriage benefits the family. If you want to have a family, being married benefits you by providing the best known environment for that family.

Financially emotionally physically it is more secure and stable for you and your partner to have a strong legal tie to each other than to have the same trusted personal commitment without the legal commitment. This extra level of commitment and security also encourages the relationship to grow deeper and fuller because it's more likely that relationship is gonna be the one your whole life is in than the relationship without the legal tie.

When you have kids, this increases in importance significantly, as well as providing the kids with the most secure stable environment to grow up in emotionally mentally and physically (more stable than the same trusted personally commitment parents without the legal commitment).

Kids greatly benefit from having both parents present and in a good stable relationship, and society greatly benefits from having good stable households and optimally-developed individuals (from good stable homes). Marriage is designed to encourage and ensure toward these benefits.

If you don't want a family there remains little substantial benefit to getting married.

[Anonymous]

He won't die alone, someone will be there with him in his old age, someone will care about him throughout his life, he'll have someone to share his highs and lows with. Men tend to not develop support systems, so it's common for elderly men to become depressed or even suicidal after their wife dies because they have no one left.

[WowwGirl]

You get someone to have your kids. Oh, Plus you get a maid, a cook, a message therapist, a nurse, a dry cleaner, a inspirational speaker and a hooker...

❤️👍

I nailed that

[Anonymous]

Marriage is a risky proposition. It only works when both partners are in it for the right reasons, are highly compatible, and remain in love with each other. That last one is a big “if”. Half of marriages end in divorce and among the other half, many stay out of convenience or because of stability for the kids and are far from happy. Long term happy marriages are the exception, not the norm. So whatever benefits a man (or woman) perceives that they’re getting out of marriage, it can be short lived or not worth it in the end. I don’t necessarily want to rain on anyone’s parade but that’s kind of the reality of it.

[Syrian_survivor]

Honestly I see very little benefits for those in western societies especially where females have the advantage. Only benefits I see are if the two partners are almost perfect people and perfect for each other, which is very VERY unlikely.

Though marriages in places where I like for example? They're essential, sex before marriage is extremely frowned upon, you NEED marriage to start an actual family that's not just full of bastard children, divorce is kinda frowned upon too, family structure is really strong here and it keeps most families stuck together. Also, neither the man nor the woman get anything worth it after a divorce, so it's a lose-lose situation, it's not just a legal bind, but a social and religious one, forcing both partners to not go anywhere.

[Peter0076]

I think marriage never benefit to men in any ways.
We deeply want to have sex with the max of different girls.
Many Women first are nice and after a couple of months after wedding they really want to make men as they want him to be and never as he really is. Many Girls just want to take control on men viciouly and usually choose and make choices not together but alone.. holidays, home, number of kids, and to to stop any willing to break of her husband... they ask him vasectomy wich is sterilising male and take advantage of this.
The man cannot have more children and will stay at home...

[beebella]

He gets the title of "husband" instead of "boyfriend."

That's it.

[IronLady6354]

Not all men want to avoid commitment and just have as much hookup sex as possible. There are a lot of men who want something more than that with a woman. Those sorts of men also almost always also want to have children as well.
Furthermore, married men often get more frequent sex than single men. I know the media often makes it look like singles are always out having a ton of one night stands or casual sexual encounters while married people just get bored and stop having sex, but I don't think that's the case (usually). Single people usually don't get nearly as much sex as those in relationships (including married people)

[etexbearkat]

A companion for one thing. My parents have been married for more than 35 years, and they are still in love with one another. Do they have a perfect relationship? No. My sister is happily married. Does she have a perfect relationship with her husband? No. Marriage takes plenty of work for it to last long term. The no fault divorces are one reason one the divorce rate is so high. If you married someone who wasn't compatible with you, that's your fault, and you ignored the red flags when you were dating more than likely.

[JBlade]

I don't know why people think marriage is about love. Too many Disney movies? Marriage is about duty to another person. Women specifically don't understand this and flip their shit when everything doesn't go perfect like they fantasized lol. Backed up by the divorce rate which is 80% filed by women.

[exitseven]

At the end of the day it is pretty great to have somebody to come home to.

[JuneLady]

Interesting question. For women, the implications are more obvious.

So long as the woman is keeping what she agreed to, the man will receive companionship. From what I've seen and heard, this is what most men yearn for most in their lives. I don't really get how that even compares, but there's something about knowing that he will never be left alone again that brings my partner immeasurable comfort. It's not the sex or the feeling of dominance, it's just my presence. \_(o. o)_/

[Boodica]

Men who are wedded live longer generally. I assume that is a benefit. Most laws are written to benefit men because until the last 50 years the laws were written by men.. Women held no power as they could not vote, procure loans, make purchases, inherit, make decisions about their own bodies... oh, wait, wait... that is still occurring around the world. So I would say that men generally around the world acquire free labor, free sexual services, progeny, domestic services & free childcare. All 'ya have to do is feed her.

[PaynefulPleasures]

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[Apple1996]

With the right women they'll get treated like a king 👑

[AmandaYVR]

Fact: They live longer.Having a partner brings love, lessens feelings of loneliness and isolation, reduces stress, shares the workload of life. There is someone there to share everything with - the joys and sorrows. Males are not immune to desire for this.

I'm going to try and take this q as neutral and not a condemnation of marriage, but it's a pretty shitty thing to ask.

[Floppy2112]

It doesn't. The man gets the losing end of every deal with a woman. Why do you think the marriage stats have dropped so significantly? Because more and more men are just walking away. It's sad, but men have allowed themselves to be degraded and dragged in society and now we reap the whirlwind of that. Turns out it wasn't just jokes and fun times at the expense of men, it was the degradation of men and men are now the weaker sex. Facts suck.

[Archerer]

It's just a commitment of love and life long partnership, we obviously know around 50% fail so it's a huge scam and bullshit, but for those who manage to do it well, it's probably very fulfilling. We have so much freedom in our lives these days that marriage doesn't seem as important anymore.

[Daddyfox]

There are no benefits for a husband in today's society, in fact men are penalized legaly if they enter into marriage. Living togather is fine, but mariage is nothing more than saying i love you so much that i want to give you half of everything i own.