Have you ever had someone in your life with whom you have a mature, civilized relationship... But in reality you just want to fuck their brains out?

[Jamie05rhs]

Like, they're someone you're friends with and you know really well. And you're never anything but polite with them. (Possibly because they've said they only want to be friends and nothing more. Or because you've never asked.). But you secretly think they're incredibly hot and you figuratively drool inside every time you see their body. And you would totally "tear that ass up" if given the opportunity. While still keeping the well-rounded non-sexual relationship that you already have.

And maybe you both know that the other person is a sexual being, but you never talk about it directly. Because that would be "inappropriate."

Can anyone relate?
Or am I just too horny right now?

[DrunkAss]

I might actually be kinda demisexual although I can get all horny over some naked woman I find in a Google search here and there. But you know, she's forgettable later. Unless I bookmarked it, I don't even remember her face.

But sometimes I hang out with a girl too much and I get really into her mannerisms, her face, her way of talking. She might not even be that hot by cultural standards. But I'm into her and I want her so much. I'm at night thinking about how she sleeps and I wanna kiss her face and undress her. And I don't mind if she got a hairy vag because I'm into her.

I try not to do that so much since I'm married. But I do sometimes. Yet the sexual drive is coming from a place that is even more inappropriate than a caveman thing.

[DrunkAss]

But I get used to her too much. Like her facial expressions, the way she talks, the way her hands feel. It is not really "personality". It's shallower than that but not so shallow like, "Nice ass!" That's the complicated thing. It's like romantic spilling into deep sexual.

[DrunkAss]

Or if we're talking body parts, "Nice ass" for me is forgettable. I get that just walking on the street. At the gym, I see endless nice asses. But nice hands mean like I'm falling too much for the girl... or nice face. I get stuck on her if I get to that point.

[DrunkAss]

Nice hands, nice smell, nice voice, nice face, nice smile... things like this.

[Jamie05rhs]

"although I can get all horny over some naked woman I find in a Google search here and there. But you know, she's forgettable later.". Of course she's forgettable. Because you don't know her. You don't have a personal relationship with her.

[Jamie05rhs]

"That's the complicated thing. It's like romantic spilling into deep sexual.". I know what you mean. ... But you have a woman already. So make sure you stay focused on her; okay, brother?

[DrunkAss]

Yeah. But I might be weird in that the strongest sexual desire in my case is with a girl I connect with somehow. I gotta meet her in person. I don't know how to explain it so much and if it resonates with so many guys but it's like my childhood favorite foods. I fall in love with them. They didn't just smell good. I got used to them. And sometimes they don't even taste that good as I get older but I am used to the smell and image and that makes me really happy. Then the new girl is like a foreign smell, like something I never tried, and that never becomes so strong until I try it and it becomes my favorite. But it is hard to replace something new with as strong of an appeal as something old.

[DrunkAss]

I even sorta hated some of them. Like my mother cooked huge pot roasts because she was single and working all the time. So I got used to pot roasts and fork-tender beef. I even got tired of it. But now I think that is way better than new foods cooking, even though I think the new foods smell so nice. There is a familiarity thing for me which is very important that I can't explain so well.

[DrunkAss]

So my horniest way is usually towards like the analogical pot roast with which I am familiar, even though it lacks the newness. It has the familiarity. If I am going full-blown pervert in my fantasies and not just jerking off to a naked lady in front of my computer screen, there is that familiarity element.

[DrunkAss]

>> ... But you have a woman already. So make sure you stay focused on her; okay, brother? Always. I'm a blabbermouth so I might seem more promiscuous in mind than I really am. It's not a challenge for me anymore to remember my wife. She is my "pot roast".

[Jamie05rhs]

Gotcha, man. Makes sense.

[DrunkAss]

Cheers! Well, it sounds kinda gay but there is something beyond basic horny to me. You put even a sorta okay-looking pornstar bending over in front of me and twerking and I got the basic thing. But I don't really want her even though my equipment is pointing to the sky. There's something more than for me which I'd still lump into "sexual desire".

[DrunkAss]

Personally, when I was single before marriage, I found loneliness the bigger factor in sexual desire than anything else. I felt really lonely coming home without a girl. And it wasn't satisfied sexually as much as I thought. I wanted to talk to her and connect to her more deeply. I wanted her love. I foujd the strongest "cravings" in my lifetime were prompted less by horniness than by loneliness, although there blurred into each other.

[Jamie05rhs]

"But I don't really want her even though my equipment is pointing to the sky.". I know exactly what you mean! "I found the strongest "cravings" in my lifetime were prompted less by horniness than by loneliness, although there blurred into each other.". I feel the same way, dude!

[DrunkAss]

Cheers! Well, I can be a totally horny bastard but my cravings when I'm so lonely is like I want to touch her face. Still wanna see the vag and boobs and butt. But I really wanna just talk to her and spend time too. I found when I was so desperate for a woman when I was single, it went way beyond a way that anything else could satisfy. I wanted to hold a face more than hold some tits or ass. I could do that at the strip club. But those places just made me more lonely.

[Jamie05rhs]

I know what you're saying.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Said bluntly, yes. Only with one person though.
I rarely have sexual feelings but I'm not a complete robot!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank you for MHO!

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

[lilyanony1]

Honestly. These days I feel so disconnected every guy I look at feels like a waste of my time.

I know what sex is, and I know what a relationship is, but lots of people don't seem to know about these things and are too busy still trying new things, or playing dumb games.

[modelUN242]

I can relate and yes, I think it happens when you're really horny lol.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. Okay; thanks! 😂

[Jamie05rhs]

But the feeling would still be there even when you're not horny. It just wouldn't be as prominent.

[Jamie05rhs]

But then they wear something sexy, and you're like, "WHY? Why did you have to do that? Arrrgh."

[modelUN242]

Oh, hmm, yeah I guess. It might go away with time.

[Jamie05rhs]

@modelUN242 It might. But then again it might not. As long as you're still in close proximity to them, and you're still single, and they're still hot.

[modelUN242]

Thanks for the MHO

[devilish-cutie]

No, i pursue all my love interests

[Jamie05rhs]

Good for you! ☺️

[Rab1901]

Yes when I was younger, at work and if she's in a committed relationship. Outside of that I make it known that I am attracted and the sexual energy will be there if we see eachother often

[Jamie05rhs]

You are more advanced than I, amigo.

[DizzyDesii]

Sex isn't something i look to have early on when liking someone so no

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, I don't want to have it early on either. But that doesn't mean I don't have those desires.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont even have the desire to have sex with someone unless we're Nearing engagement

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii Do you mean actually wanting to actually have sex with them? Meaning, actually doing it? ... Or do you mean just wanting their body as a general feeling?

[DizzyDesii]

In the question you said fck their brains out as in sex. I dont desire sex

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii I know. But I don't think you understood my question. I mean just having a feeling of wanting to have sex with them, or having a literal INTENTION of having sex with them? There's a difference. I don't actually INTEND to have sex with anyone. (Because my decision to be abstinent has already been made, and I am a very strong-willed person.)

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i get it. But im saying i dont even have the desire nor fantasize too. Like i have a low sex drive unless im actually at the stage of a relationship to want sex

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii "I have a low sex drive..." Okay. Well, I do not!

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but im just answering the question. I dont fantasize about that stuff due to low sex drive

[Jamie05rhs]

I know. :). Okay!

[jaybee281]

I'd only be a girl's friend if I'm not attracted to her - But I've been in the position where I had to stay friends - That was because a guy that is like a brother to me liked her before I did - So even when I could do something I didn't - But if you're friends with a girl and wamt to fuck her and she doesn't want it - distance yourself and eventually leave technically then come back with a certain vibe about you that doesn't scream gay best friend you know?

[Jamie05rhs]

I totally understand what you're saying about the "friend's ex" thing. I've been there before as well. As far as stepping away and coming back, I don't agree with that. Because 1) it feels like a "game," and 2) you'd probably destroy all of the progress you made and have to start all over again getting to know the person.

[loves2learn]

You’re sounding horny my friend. Why not pursue the relationship?

[Jamie05rhs]

I can't.

[loves2learn]

Why not?

[Jamie05rhs]

You'll have to PM me on that one.

[NathanDavis]

No, I've grown up.

[Mofunfour20]

Yeah and i wish i didn't waste my time. If she doesn't send you attraction signals then DONT WASTE YOUR TIME. She will use you to vent her emotions and you will get nothing. Guys that are friends with women will loose. Never chase a woman even for friendship, chase money and you'll always have access to women

[Sevenpointfive]

sure a few times in high school

[Kas19]

I think when I'm ovulating or in my period (extra horny days) then I'll feel that way.

[Jamie05rhs]

Interesting. But were the feelings already there? Or do you just get sexually attracted to someone randomly because of your physiological state?

[Kas19]

Randomly

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, wow! Interesting. Has that ever caused problems for your platonic relationships? (i. e. people being confused?)

[Kas19]

No. I don't act on it and try not to think about it.

[Coulis]

I feel like even shy I'm on this thread and I am so not even going to answer the question BUT I just wanted to add that it's so annoying that on the app like you want to reply and it keeps adding it to your updates.

And then you only get so many updates so you can't even clarify the situation. It's just maddening.

[Jamie05rhs]

What do you mean?

[Coulis]

The nature of the question.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol- no; I understand that part. What do you mean about the updates?

[Coulis]

You see how you wanted to reply to your friend but then because the add update button is right there you added an update instead of replying to your friend.

[Jamie05rhs]

Ohhhh! Yes. I see what you mean now. Right.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I totally get what you mean

[taeh_ie2]

Can’t say I haven’t. And cute dog 😊

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks!

[Laciandmaci]

nope never!

[MannySimms]

You're describing hetero men.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol.

[exitseven]

Yes, on of my female friends had that effect on me. Once we went to the beach and she had me put sunscreen on her back. I had to immediately go in the water to cool down.

[Wiredone]

Yes I've been there several times.

[blondfrog]

Hard to say cause that person by that point I would have too much respect to want to bang them lol.

[Jamie05rhs]

@blondfrog I didn't say it had to be a hookup or a ONS.

[blondfrog]

Still

[Jamie05rhs]

Still what?

[Jamie05rhs]

@blondfrog I used to feel that way when I was a teenager. But as I grew up I realized that sex is a natural thing and it's okay. So you can still respect someone but also have sex with them. When I marry my wife, I think at first I will probably be hesitant to touch her or do anything "dirty" with her. That's just, like you said, the respect aspect of it. But if she loves me and I love her, and we both want it, and she tells me it's okay, then I think it will be okay.

[blondfrog]

Right you are my friend.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks

[COMMODOREII]

That sounds like there is someone you are thinking about eh? 😜

[Jamie05rhs]

Correct.

[Pete671]

Oh gosh yes,

[Twalli]

I'd like to have sex with one of my female friends, she doesn't know and hasn't said anything to suggest she's unwilling. Yet I still enjoy sex with my girlfriend and I know she's more than willing.

[Jamie05rhs]

You should probably just stick to having sex with your girlfriend.

[Twalli]

That's my plan. Desiring to have sex with someone doesn't mean I am planning on it, especially since I don't know her feelings regarding it with me.

[Jamie05rhs]

Twalli, your answer is less than reassuring. But thanks for responding anyway.

[Jamie05rhs]

The other person's feelings toward you should be irrelevant.

[Twalli]

They are because nothing would happen even if I knew.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay.

[Twalli]

To clarify my response I don't plan on having sex with her. I also don't know if she would be willing even if I did plan on it. Because I don't knowmy desire to follow through with any action towars sex with her is diminished even more.