So what value is there to having a high body count of sexual partners?

What "value" does having a high body count add? Can someone explain that. Seriously *what* value? Is there any value. Personally, someone who has slept with multiple partners is a red flag. A warning sign that there's something **wrong** with them. Maybe they're abusive, maybe they're drunks or druggies, maybe they can't hold down a job, maybe they're as trustful as a weasel, maybe they spend money like it grows on trees, etc., etc., etc. I don't see it as anything desirable or worth bragging about.

It's like if you applied to a job with twenty short 3-6 month term jobs prior. Companies rarely hire someone with such a track record cause it implies the potential employee isn't worth the bother.
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Okay. Keeping with the job comparison as some said it makes for more sexual experience. Okay. Sex is simple. It's the simplest aspect of relationships. Now a jack of all trades is experienced in many aspects of say construction. But between a professional plumper and Joe Smuckers 9 out of 10 people are going to go with the professional plumper unless cheap.
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  • You're putting entirely too much stock into what a high body count equates to.

    You imply it means they can't hold down a job etc. I see what you're trying to say, lack of commitment. However if you want to get a high body count, particularly as a guy, you need to be committed to that and you almost always need money which means having a job.

    And continuing that analogy, a high body count does not equate to lots of jobs on a résumé. That would imply they've had many relationships, when in fact it's many sexual partners which is entirely different.

    Sorry I had to spend so long explaining how it differs from what you suggest just so I could answer properly. The benefit to a high body count will be a lot of experience, also sex is fun. Not everyone wants a relationship or holds a job which makes them available for a long term relationship.

    Basically there's no negative to a high body count so long as you're using protection and you're responsible and safe when meeting partners.

    • So it means more sexual experience but gives no value to anything else. It's like a jack of all trades who should be thankful whenever they get a job and stop living off food stamps/welfare

    • Again you're completely misunderstanding. It can also give value in the sense that you get to meet lots of potentially interesting people. And more sexual experience is not a bad thing. So as said, no negatives if you're responsible, but has positives. So I don't see the issue you're having here.

    • No I'm not misunderstanding. Having many sexual partners without a relationship means you're not worth a relationship. Just as how a jack of all trades that can't do their job right isn't worth paying

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  • Basically none.
    I wouldn't even say sexual experience is even a thing. People in relationships have more more sex, and it's more specific to those two people. Being "good at sex" can be divided into different aspects. What most people would call the sexual experience advantage of multiple partners is really the honing of the most generic and lowest common denominators of sexuality. That's not attractive. I don't want you to be good at sucking dick. I want you to learn how to suck my dick and to intensify our relationship. The "skill" these high body count women believe they display is just as much a display of you getting around town so to speak. Not being good at sex is literally more attractive that being good at sex.

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  • Its all about context. I think someone who had 12 *relationships* in a year is a red flag. But 12 sexual partners in a year could mean a lot of different things.

    Personally, I've had a lot of sexual partners because my values are a little less restrictive. I dont think that says anything bad about me inherently. I think MY red flags are where I've failed in committed relationships.

    I agree with the idea that a "body count" is nothing to brag about. Quality over quantity is important. Now how many, but how good?

    • 12 sexual partners in a year can mean a lot of things. Like what? A person can't commit or isn't worth an actual relationship

    • Or it could mean they're just not looking for a relationship and they're having fun. Don't be so close-minded, babe. Relax and try to see the best in people.

    • Don't see any value of it. More they're like used cars.

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  • It's not only zero value - it's less value - men value virgins - If you've slept around too much you're just someone we see as easy and we'll fuck don't worry we will - but you'll get no commitment whatsoever - I don't know who the hell taught women it's better to sleep around - Sex comes easy to them there that's theur power and when they give it up so easily they lose all their power..

  • I don't see the value in that. It could be quite to opposite. People with high body counts tend to be less faithful and more likely to sleep around. I'm not saying it is true in all cases but if somebody is 18 and has already 20 or more partners it suggests they have difficulty maintaining a long term relationship.

  • None at all. There's a reason some people don't buy high mileage items; in fact, the higher the mileage, the greater the associated costs and complications, the lower the overall value, and the shorter the shelf life.

    • Good comparison. Similar to a used car. The more it's traded in the cheaper it gets

  • I have a lower count and like it that way. I’ve always had a girlfriend and high sex drive so the number of times I’ve had sex is probably higher than a lot of people have in a lifetime. I’d rather have that.

  • I see zero value

  • Value is a perception

  • Nothing

  • There's no real value to it unless a person is looking for an easy lay and nothing more.
    The "Greater experience" factor in incorrect because people in long relationships have the most sex generally.