Guys, are there any of you out there who are more aroused by mental/emotional stimulation than raw visual and physical stimulation?

[MCheetah]

Reposting this from another question:
I'm more of a "mental stimulation" person than most men, meaning a bad sloppy BJ isn't going to get me hard, but sexting and erotic voice messages have certainly done the trick before. Sometimes I think I'm like a woman in this regard because it takes more than just tits or a naked female body to get me erect.

I rarely, if ever hear men who are like me when it comes to this. I need a mental connection in order to be aroused, even if it's a fabricated or unreal one. I need to feel like a woman wants me. (Which is also why I am not and never will be attracted to 'bisexuals;' why the hell would I want a woman who has no genuine interest in me, men, or masculinity in general? Lesbians are a huge turn-off to me.)

Furthermore, if a woman DOESN'T want me, like she's only attracted to tall men, or white men, or super athletic six-pack men or something, then I can't even physically be attracted to her and couldn't sleep with her.

I also don't watch porn either and I'm unsure if it's related to this or not. (The site of looking at another naked dude or his dick grosses me out though, so I don't get how any straight men could watch porn.)

This also makes up most of my sexual fantasies. It may sound bizarre to a LOT of men and women, but one of my biggest turn-ons is a woman who REALLY wants me. Like, dresses in lingerie and gets wet at the thought of me being inside her. It's super-unrealistic (especially with modern women), but hey, that's why it's a sexual fantasy. A fantasy of being loved and a woman being aroused by my short, ugly, chunky ass.

Are there are other men like this; whose sexual desires and lust derives more from mental and emotional turn-ons than just physical ones? Those who can't just jackhammer away at any pair of tits and ass?

[MrBadd]

I feel exactly the same.

Looks matter to me of course but yeah it takes more than that to turn me on. The mood has to be right, and her energy has to be right - for me, soft, feminine and submissive. Some girls if they're very confident can be a bit more of a playful challenge or more testy (I'm talking before sex) and it can be fun to play the game with them so I don't mind it, but the fun in that is getting to the point where they soften up. If that doesn't happen I'll move on.

I can also relate when you say that you need to feel like the woman wants you. With a BJ for example, there's a big difference between a girl who is just going through the motions and a girl who is really turned on by it and enjoys pleasing you. With the first girl I'm likely to get bored and lose arousal, with the second girl I'm going to be rock hard and ready to pound her into next week.

[exitseven]

Yes, if a woman can start telling me that she wants me and what she wants to do to me it will probably get me more excited than if she just paraded around naked.

[exitseven]

thank you for the mho

[MCheetah]

"paraded around naked" conjures a really funny visual for me.

[Lliam]

I'm more visual.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Hmm I think it’s somewhere in the middle for me. I can go off pure desire and looks but in the long run of trying to date someone? I need to be attracted to their mind and personality too or I’ll get bored immediately.


It’s not like I can self please myself on pure emotions tho , that I need a visual stimuli. In terms to spark up the desire to do something with my partner doesn’t have to be pure visual cues, they sure do help but it’s not the only source of my passion for someone who I’m dating.

[Jjpayne]

I think the visual stimulation is just how guys are wired 🙄 but I like the idea of it being emotional rather than visual. Maybe there is a way to do it blindfolded with an so, or to do it with eyes closed to simply bond with them in a new and unqine way. Eyes closed with just thoughts and emotions