When It Comes To Sex, Do You Prefer Being The "Top" Or The "Bottom"?

[CrazyGirl2]

Wow, this is tougher than I thought it would be! I guess I don’t really think I have any preference, and yet I do feel genuine yet impalpable preferences… for both? I mean, I love being on top, because it gives me far better control of depth and pace, and pleasure, especially mine, but his too! But with him on top… I feel closer to him. If that makes sense? I can feel his weight on me and depending on how he is positioned, I can either look into his eyes (which I absolutely love) or I can feel his breath on my neck, or face, and I can hear… everything! (which I absolutely love!) I can hear his quiet breathy moan or the slightest change in his breathing which tells me he’s getting closer. I guess I’m saying that I can almost feel his pleasure too! (Which any woman will confess, that on an emotional level, is way better that my own pleasure!) the man I love is connected to me physically sure, I mean he’s literally inside me, and yet he has equally (or I have) connected emotionally and spiritually, in a sort of magnificent tantric trifecta. Even proofreading this, it’s like I’m screaming “you prefer him on top bitch!” But with me on top, although I loose the ability to hear the moaning, or hear the breathing, while on top of him, I can SEE it! I don’t hear the moaning, but I see the rapture on his face, and while I loose the ability to hear him slightly changing his breathing, I gain the pleasure of actually seeing his chest rise and fall, and while I completely loose the ability to feel his breath, what I get in return is the ability to see the quaking of his stomach, him biting his lower lip. I’m able to see all the minute involuntary changes, like the quickening of the pulse in his neck, and the tiny beads of sweat on his brow, neck, and chest! I guess in one way it could be argued that I just have no preference at all, but I do! I just prefer each one in their own unique, and beautiful ways! Some might believe that my youth and obvious lacking years of experience render my opinions… invalid, just the ranting of a girl who just doesn’t know enough yet to even form a clear, cogent, articulable preference! They may be right, but I really think that the newness and excitement of all this, is causing me to be acutely aware of things that perhaps others are just so used to, they don’t pay attention to, or just don’t notice anymore. Either way, this was far more difficult to put in writing than I ever thought possible!

[IronLady6354]

Great sex can happen either way, but I have a preference for being on bottom. It makes my husband more dominant sexually which is very hot for me. I also get a better view of his sexy ripped body and I can rub my hands over his abs and pecks while he's penetrating me (which is very hot).
Good sex can happen with being on top too, but I definitely prefer the bottom.

[caring__1]

Actually, neither. My ideal is having her lay on her back and I am laying on my side facing her. Her knee closest to me is raised, with her foot on the bed. My legs go under her raised knee, with her opposite leg between my legs. That gives me full access to all of her and allows me to observe everything that's happening to her. This enables me to love all of her rather than just focus on one part at a time. This allows for a lot of variety. She never knows exactly what I'll do next, and it becomes a full-body/mind connection/experience. After all, the purpose is to share a special connection, not just to rush to have it over with.

[Lliam]

I like to mix it up. I particularly enjoy kneeling (or standing) between her legs or behind her. That way, I can be in control to grip her or position her.
But I also enjoy being straddled. She can grind against me and do what she wants to do to get herself off, or I can buck my hips and jack hammer her. Reverse cowgirl is quite appealing, but regular cowgirl is excellent because it's the only position where she can dangle her tits over me.

[JackSmy]

Top, but "doggie" position (Gods, I hate that term!!) where I can hold her close, and my hands are free to touch her, wherever she likes! I can whisper sensual things, in her ears, while caressing her, and if I stay still, she can decide how deep, and the rate, for her joy.

[The_Maphio]

Top. I like to set my rhythm. Especially when I know that my girlfriend is a sexual assassin and can aim at every single one of my weak spots with no fail, shortening my resistance infinitely.
It's a battle of who weakens the other first when we have sex. It's AWESOME.

[HawkPerception]

Prefer on top. Gives me more control over when I climax. I generally take breaks when I'm close to make sex as lasting as possible. But when she's on top and in full control, I can't take that break. I'm not gonna be like "Hey stop... I'm gonna cum." That would just make her want to continue till I do lol.

[DocJones]

Both and it depends on the mood at that time. Hopefully sex is different each time and not the same position for the same amount of time in the same room at the same time of day. Sometimes she is feeling it and wants to ride and other times maybe I want to throw her down on the bed, restrain her hands above her head and pound away. Sometimes it switches from one to the other and back again multiple times. At least that is how it was when I actually was with someone.

[kmg9150]

How it happens it happens. Sometimes preferences impair the experience when they are achieved. It can effect the other individuals involved depending on how much it can distract your attention involved. We both focus on preference to make the other one feel wanted, in turn we don’t really verbally express positions, being a result of situation and surroundings.

[ChrisMaster69]

All really, the position at that moment in time is giving my partner the best pleasure.

this may mean her on top riding
may mean me on top.
from behind
both on sides.

flexibility, variation and trying new stuff.

[Red_Arrow]

When I am on top, I have to hold my weight off her. But I can be more agile and move to be able to suck tits and the like. If she is on top, she can put all her weight on me and it is fine. And I get freer use of my hands. Remember last time?

[douride2]

Right about now I would settle for either of those. LMAO

[PaynefulPleasures]

I like variety everything you can imagine. Karma sutra & tantric sex are amazing when it comes to positions & becoming one with your partner ✌️

[MCheetah]

Both. The top is better for performance, but the bottom is better for climaxing (the "volcano" effect). Climaxing downward isn't nearly as good, for me.

[slatyb]

For intercourse? Top. Bottom doesn't work for me.

There is also a concept of "top" and "bottom" for BDSM play, but I don't think that's what you meant.

[ariadneR]

Both.
There's a time and place for everything. 😅🤣

[yourvanessa]

I have vote for top but actually my choice was for bottom 😂

[Hxxmx]

When it comes to sex i like to be spontaneous. Like why don't we go all round before picking what i love most. and if i still have difficulty deciding we go again 😊😉

[sammy1999]

both depends on my mood and the guy if he s to rough i get on top or to slow and i want more

[GFEDATY]

I would take either when I can get it but I love to be on top

[Elliegirl]

I’m fine with being on top sometimes, but I prefer bottom.

[Andres77]

It's easier to control her. She thinks she is in control but now I have the use of both hands so...😉

[Finchie40]

Both honestly I guess I am more dominate when it comes to sex so most the time I am on top but once in awhile I like her to dominate me and let her be on top

[just_a_potato]

Both have their pros and cons don't they? I'd rather be a bottom for power play