Is giving someone a massage considered cheating?

[Anonymous]

[Massageman]

Someone could run through the alphabet three times with options, icw "only spanking"- - - only oral, only HJ, only boobs, only clit, only vag, clit and boobs but not vag, etc. If someone is having sex, that would be a problem.
If A were true, then every handshake or fist bump would be "cheating".
B would be true by default, except for having sex (which wasn't even a choice).
C could go either way, depending on the scope of practice of the legit practitioner.
D would be the closest to "cheating".
E is just plain illogical given the permutation.
To the basic question, I'll give a qualified "no by definition".

I have additional certification in Oncological and Breast Massage (via training through Cheryl Chapman, New Jersey- go ahead- check it out). And even if I didn't have that,, breast massage will be a requirement for 1 out of 8 women since they will have breast cancer. For the remaining women, it can be a good adjunct to preventative treatments. Legit Massage Therapists (as long as they are in Therapist Mode, as I call it), do not view the breast as a sexual object, but a ducted, fatty, lymphatic system acting as a source of neonatal nutrition set outside of a muscular base (pecs, etc). I have a specific protocol I follow- loading strokes (pulling toward nipple like spokes), draining strokes (pulling away from nipple), gentle R twist, gentle L twist, general kneading, full gentle compression. Cancer tends to settle in "folds" of the skin (armpit, underboob, groin, etc) and in areas with little or no "voluntary movement through use of muscles" (they have no muscle- just ducts and fat going along for the ride). Periodic structured movement helps act as a preventative. (Cheryl Chapman has examples of DIY exercises and massage that can help).

And even for those of us who do perform erotic massage (the term "sensual" has been cannibalized, it's applied within a therapeutic intent, not a cheating one.

[OlderAndWiser]

None of the above. Some people are professional masseurs and masseuses. That is how they earn their living. And most of them give legitimate massages that do not include "happy endings" or anything of that sort.

If you aren't a professional, to whom are you giving the massage? Your mother? Brother? Best friend? Or the hot new receptionist at work? Your ex?

Is this something that you have done with this person many times over the years or is it something new? Why are you giving the massage now? Were they in a sports competition and have some stiffness in their back. . . or were you trying to give them some "stiffness in their front?"

Did all clothes remain in place? Did they massage you after you massaged them?

@massageman, what do you think?

[legalboxers]

I support Counsel @olderandwiser on the dissent of this comment.

[Massageman]

In addition to my opinion to the original question, OAW, here are a few more specifics -- - - - I'm in my 28th year of Licensed Clinical Professional Massage Therapy, so I've been at this a while and have experienced many situations. Giving a massage is not cheating- definitionally- unless there is intercourse involved. At that point, it is no longer "massage", but just intercourse "hiding" behind a guise of "massage". I deliberately phrase it this way because there IS "erotic" massage (I hate the tern "SENsual", since ALL massage addresses the senses but even so, most are not SEXual. Many people don't understand this simple difference). Personally, I can focus my mind to allow me to do erotic work without becoming aroused myself. by the way - we do not consider breast massage "erotic or sexual" massage. Anyway, I had this one particular female client- in the middle of her erotic session (following her therapeutic muscle session) ask, "Don't you EVER get excited?" "Not as long as I can keep my mind's focus very detached from my bodywork." Re the clothing question- I CAN give a therapeutic or erotic massage through clothing, but a relaxing massage IS very difficult to do well through clothing, unless all are skin-tight and no oil is used (doable but not ideal). Did they massage you- This would be an "exchange" and is how I get about half of my massages! Hope this helps a bit.

[AGirl_x]

Hahaha! I'm pretty sure messaging dick/pussy and then the mouth component... would be considered cheating. It happens often though... I was trying to relax and he brushed his hand on my pussy and he saw I have no objection as so he massaged my clit like a pro, and that is a great massage...
But honestly , what better way to make someone relax then massage their whole body and finish with the penis?

[1stranger]

Talking, touching, seeing, eating, calling OR texting? Hmm..
Depends on the type of massage and masseur.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I think you massage wrong...

[MrNameless]

if we are talking about at a professional place where you get massaged and it's not for sexual reasons, it should be ok.

but if it's just by a friend who gives you a body massage and it's not for health reasons and done professionally, it's kind of weird. like thats something you can't do at work to a coworker without stares. Not even a back massage.

question is.. do you feel comfortable telling your partner you got a massage, and do you think they would be comfortable with it?

[Enygma]

Touching, Massaging, Hugging or Holding are Not Cheating. It's Perfectly OK to do these.

[mistixs]

I believe it's cheating if it's being done for sexual gratification. For example, for most people, giving a foot massage wouldn't be cheating, but if the person has a foot fetish and is doing it for sexual gratification, that would be cheating.

[summiter]

There is nothing wrong with a massage. If sex is involved or handjobs etc. then it would be cheating.

[Leavesbound]

Not if you are a professional massage therapist. Also some people give massages to family members. If I found my girlfriend giving a massage to a woman I wouldn't really think much of it. If she was giving a massage to a guy then I might be curious why. If I felt her response was reasonable or legitimate then I probably am not going to get jealous.

[Dinklex3]

As a Licensed Massage Therapist, No.

[kkirk4442]

It all depends on what kind of massage, the kind of relationship present, and the purpose behind giving the massage. There are also people who give massages for a living, and obviously, they don't cheat every time they give a massage.

[jshm2]

WTF makes you think any contact can only be sexual contact?

[ShedzJo4322]

I think so

[Drumlin2001]

Depends on type of massage.

[Ripper_E]

Depends on the nature of that message.

[Browneye57]

Fucking is cheating, silly. What are we missing here?

[ToastyOats]

Why you trying to massage other guys?

[Wise4myage]

Its cheating if one or both people involved are nude and the massage is on the erotic side.

[vald9inches]

Nope not cheating

[Wiredone]

If it is cheating, there must be a lot of massage therapists getting divorced

[jahaims]

Unless it is your job yeah

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No..

[COMMODOREII]

Stupid question