I support Counsel @OlderAndWiser on the dissent of this comment.
In addition to my opinion to the original question, OAW, here are a few more specifics -- - - - I'm in my 28th year of Licensed Clinical Professional Massage Therapy, so I've been at this a while and have experienced many situations. Giving a massage is not cheating- definitionally- unless there is intercourse involved. At that point, it is no longer "massage", but just intercourse "hiding" behind a guise of "massage". I deliberately phrase it this way because there IS "erotic" massage (I hate the tern "SENsual", since ALL massage addresses the senses but even so, most are not SEXual. Many people don't understand this simple difference). Personally, I can focus my mind to allow me to do erotic work without becoming aroused myself. by the way - we do not consider breast massage "erotic or sexual" massage. Anyway, I had this one particular female client- in the middle of her erotic session (following her therapeutic muscle session) ask, "Don't you EVER get excited?" "Not as long as I can keep my mind's focus very detached from my bodywork." Re the clothing question- I CAN give a therapeutic or erotic massage through clothing, but a relaxing massage IS very difficult to do well through clothing, unless all are skin-tight and no oil is used (doable but not ideal). Did they massage you- This would be an "exchange" and is how I get about half of my massages! Hope this helps a bit.
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