Is it normal to not want sex after having a baby?

I had a baby almost a year ago and since I found out I was pregnant my sex drive dropped a ton. But it got really bad after I had her. I know it’s normal to not want sex in the first couple months after giving birth but it’s been almost a year. Anyone else experience anything like this with pregnancy? Thanks.
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  • Most women do regain a certain desire for sex within a few months post pregnancy. I think you should probably see a doctor or sex therapist to see how to increase your sex drive. They'll know way better what you should do to improve your situation than a bunch of unqualified people on Girls ask Guys.
    I wouldn't be too worried though. The female sex drive is very complicated and may sometimes need professional help. As long as you put forth effort through professional help I do think you could probably get things back on track sexually.

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  • I mean there are more natural ways to increase sex drive such as Maca Root, fenugreek, and horny goat weed. I like taking Maca Root capsules when mine is low bc it makes your sex drive feel insanely good lol. And it’s made from a plant so no harm. I get it from Amazon.

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  • It's not "normal" but it is common. It has to do with the way you spine compressed during pregnancy. a lot of women have the nerve that serves their lower endocrine system I. E. the fun place and hormone producing glands get pinched. Gentle stretching and even just certain sex positions will awaken that fire. Not trying to write a in depth guide here. Hope that helps!

    • Thanks. I’ll look into it.

  • My wife became disgused by even the though of sex... for about a year...
    It was a rough time but it did pass...
    My advice is remember he has needs... get good at hand/blow jobs if you can't do the deed

    • We still have sex just not nearly as often. Unfortunately blow jobs are not my strong suit so I should probably figure out this sex drive thing ASAP

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  • That is very common.

  • Being as it's been a year, it's a good idea to see a doctor regarding this. If the doctor has no help for you, see a different doctor.

  • Has your partner complained about it?

    • Not really. He’s asked if I’m alright a couple times. Nothing beyond that

    • Well that's good at least.

    • Maybe it is and maybe it isn’t lol

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  • My sex desires increased very much after having baby

  • Yep. The hormones. Maybe your husband will get a side-piece.

    • Alright then.

  • i would say that is not an uncommon thing. giving birth is a traumatizing experience. seeing a therapist about that can help a ton.

  • Should probably get your hormone levels checked

  • It happens. A year is very long though. I suggest you see a doc and have your hormones checked. You may can benefit from testosterone cream or something ( unless you are still breastfeeding). I know your guy can’t be too happy.

    • He actually hasn’t said too much about it

    • Hmm.. interesting.

  • Yes it's normal for a while

  • Not a woman so don't know. A guy might lose drive after he realizes a baby costs $300,000 to raise.

    • Great, thanks for your input

  • Yes. My wife did not want sex. She did crave giving head though. lucky for me and her coworker

    • Uhhhhh

    • Yeah lol. Long story there.

  • Yes it normal cause your whole life has changed your busy all the time and tired asf

  • Yep...

  • Tell my wife she lost all interest in sex after having a kid

    • So have I... lol

    • Knowledge what's going on with how often do you still have it