I had sex for the first time today and it felt so painful? When does sex not hurt so much?

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I used a condom to be safe and I just hope I don’t get pregnant because he doesn’t want anything more with me sadly, and I just got off my period too with having sex, so I hope I am okay
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  • Well it depends did it hurt because of the girth or did it hurt because of having sex if it hurt because having sex then he made it about himself and not about you and with girth it will hurt but depending on how it's done it won't hurt too long because there's also a very beautiful deep pleasure that comes with it I think LOL

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  • The first time is the most painful, if there is going to be pain. You may have some pain at subsequent times, but it will decrease, and it will be soon that you will have no pain. Actually, you likely may have no pain with the second time you have sex.

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  • Sometimes sex hurts for the first time since your body is adjusting to a new feeling but it isn't supposed to be painful or you shouldn't be continuously in pain when you sleep with someone

    • Thanks for the insight. Yeah that's what i was thinking because i did bleed shortly after and it hurt to pee a bit but now im feeling much better. Hopefully the next times won't hurt me, toward the middle and end, the pain eased down.

    • That sounds about accurate to a first time, if it hurts the next time or even the third time, I'd suggest going to a gynaecologist.

  • It hurts less if you do it right. And have a less shitty partner.

    • It was his first time also so i can understand but after awhile it wasn't hurting so much as the beginning

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  • Yeah it happens, have to use a lot of lubes and foreplays. I hope you have done it right, and next time be careful if there was any things which you didn't took care of. It will subside

  • Because it was your first time.

  • By the third or fourth time (maybe even the second) it should feel a lot better

  • I am not sure as I am still a virgin?

    • I know for some people it means a lot but i swear its not so bad if you find someone whom you feel comfortable with and after you do it, you feel like "wow that was it"

    • It does mean something to me too but i didn't throw it away to someone random. We were talking for awhile

    • I want to wait until marriage. I don't want to be like my mother!

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  • After the first time and it gets a lot better after that! Congrats by the way!! I am happy you joined the club! 😘❤️❤️❤️

    • Thanks it feels like something is pushing inside of you which it is but strong lol i liked it because he was a gentlemen and respected my feelings. I used protection

    • Ouch condom for your first time? I mean i understand why but that sucks lol your definitely gonna love it way more when you try without s condom!

    • I am glad he was a gentleman though! ❤️

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  • It really shouldn't be all that painful at all, if your body is developed, and you were plenty wet, before penetration.

    Also, your partner's technique and desire for more than just their own load being blown, is a major factor for the first few times at sex...

  • Depends on the person though because I know the experiences vary

  • After a few times i would imagine.

  • Once you take it slow and get comfortable with the dude.

  • your other recent question, goes to show how easy it is for the average woman to get sex

  • Next time.

  • About the 4th or 5th times

  • Maybe the second time around. They again and tell them to go slower and not put so much in...

    • Maybe have him go down on you to get your pretty kitty wet and ready. Take your time. Relax and have fun. Remember... ITS NOT A CHORE... try out things you have thought about or heard about. Hopefully he wasn't huge... did he go ham on you? Next time tell them to back off a little and see how it feels

  • It happens. It will get better

    • If u used a condom u should be fine

  • Did he put lube on his penis?

  • take it slow