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Any helpful advices for first time sex?

Am a 32 year old Catholic virgin woman due to get married in three months time. Have ever dated and don't know much about sex as I was saving myself for marriage. Helpful advices would be appreciated.
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And also do men expect the bride to have a totally smooth and hairless body on the wedding night. I mean I do groom my body hair but I have never tried to groom my genitals. Is this something that needs to be taken care of too? Am not too comfortable to ask my fiancee about this.
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  • This really isn't anything for you to know about sex except you wait until you are married and you constant make that with your husband. Otherwise I'm pretty sure you grew up understanding where the penis goes in that's it. If you are concerned about certain things sexually you need to discuss that with your fiance right now. Do not wait until you are on your wedding night and then you do not have this conversation. There's no much advice regarding that accept that you explain where your boundaries are and what your concerns are. Other than that if you're not trusting of the person you with, really ask yourself do you really want to marry a person and losing your virginity that way?

    I think what would help is if you tell us exactly what kind of person do you have for a fiance, is there any concern that you have regarding his past if he has any. While it is important to ask these things way before you got involved with him, you don't want to wait until you're married to find out you got married with the wrong kind of person for the wrong reasons. If you have any concerns about what he has done, or things that he does privately, you need to discuss this immediately.

    • I mean my concerns are I don't know what to expect and how it would be. From a religious family who is extremely conservative and not so broad minded about sex I am not sure about anything related to sex. My fiance is a Catholic guy too but he have dated women in the past and he speaks about sex sometimes and about having to do it before wedding and am like it isn't quite comfortable for me. I don't even know what to say as a response to him, so am just kind off don't know much.

    • Asker. You do not have to date a man of be with a man who had sex before marriage. My advice to you is that if you noticed the red flag don't get married to him. It doesn't matter if somebody is religious or not. As a Christian I am telling you please do not marry and have sex with a man not going to be happy with. Do not get married to this man if you cannot be sexually responsible. It makes you uncomfortable, don't get married to him. That's a sign you should not marry. Marry a person that makes you feel safe and that really loves you and Ashley values you as much as he values himself. You do not have to do what other people choose to do. That is something for you to discover. That's what sucks and that's what marriage is for. That's something that comes naturally. I tell you now I am not comfortable with somebody who had those previous experiences themselves.

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  • I am Catholic ans waiting until marriage as well, I always hear the saying try to relax and stay calm. If it works I don't know? Good luck <3

    • *AND not ans

    • Thank you :-) Good luck to you too

    • thanks!!! :) <3

Most Helpful Guys

  • The frequent advice, say calm and relaxed 😅.

    Seriously, it's important, but I guess you would need more than that.

    First of all, it might hurt the first time, since you are a virgin.
    So it's important that you have a detailed intimate and open conversation with your fiancee about your nervousness.

    And I suggest you do some reading or research on your own.

    There are a lot of informative articles and books written by sexologists which would help you understand a great deal about sex and it's importance in a relationship, how to address various problems etc.

    They say that sex is a very deep subject, so if you do your research, you can have a wonderful married life.

    All the best

    • Thank you for the answer. Yes I would do that, never have been open about sex or spoke about sex much because there are restrictions. I would do some reading on it.

    • Read on it and try to discuss with your partner about his likes and expectations. You can tell him yours too. And about the body hair part, different people have different preferences, you should ask him what he likes.

  • You need to get over embarrassment and have a mature conversation with fiance about what he likes, what he wants to do or not do.
    When it comes to it, take your time. You'll both be nervous, just take plenty of time, don't force yourself to do anything your uncomfortable with. Just have fun. Don't worry if it doesn't too great, you can keep practicing and it will improve. You could trim down there but find something your comfortable with. Don't just do it to make him happy

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  • Clean your holes. I got it from Whisper confessions but some partners are dirty in nonsexual ways...

  • Just trim up, don't be a hairy bush. Your groom won't really care.
    Let him lead, just enjoy the moment. It's what you've been waiting your whole life for.

    We sure hope he's not an ax murderer. LOL

  • I agree with the person who said "clean your holes". Clean your vag, ass and mouth and trim/shave as necessary.

  • Don't think too much & make sure you're wet enough

    • Okay, thanks..

    • Good luck

    • *update- keep it clean & trimmed no need to shave it off completely

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  • The 32 year old who hit the wall found a beta to lock him down with marriage. I would have said give him anal but I bet the guy is too yellow to do it.

    • Please be respectful with your words. Don't try to offend anyone when am not bothering you.

    • desperate idiotic white knights are a plague to the world.

    • People like you are a shame on humanity itself who don't know to respect anyone.

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  • You should talk about this type of thing with your partner. It’s a waste of time discussing it online. Just make sure you make out for a while and make sure he gives you oral, a woman is not a field that needs to be ploughed, watch the tv series unorthodox, that’s not how you have sex. It’s probably why religious people are so messed up, you leave sex to marriage, don’t expect it to be amazing or you to be good at it first go. It will take a long time.

  • Have you learned to masturbate. To discover what you like

    • No I don't do that. Thank you for the answer.

    • I do not do that either @rudon00 I am Catholic like she is and we don't believe in it, as it is a sin!

    • @Laciandmaci Okay I undesrstand

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  • As a virgin I simply put my wee wee inside the vagina hole. Im not sure what it takes for a woman to “prep” her nethers however

  • Relax, and enjoy it!

  • Don't think too much about it. Let it flow naturally, you will find everything is perfect in the end.

  • Trim the pussy and make sure it does not stink

    • I wash it twice everyday so no issues with that!!

  • Get a wax if u don’t want to do it urself, he will be thankful of this

    • I am kind of scared of waxing and shaving, so never did anything with it from the age of 13.

    • Happy to talk to u privately if u like?

  • Catholic guy here. Best advice I can give is to talk about it. You will enjoy it more if you are on the same page. Intercourse has a lot of mechanics that will be new to you. Discuss positions you want to try. Most important thing is to discuss fertility. Catholic intercourse always involves no condoms, no birth control, and the husband ejaculating inside his wife's vagina. You should discuss if this is how you want to have sex. Many Catholics use birth control but many also do not.

    • I would like to have a kid in 3 to 4 years time, so yes I would discuss this with him before our first time. Thank you for being helpful.

  • Wow. So much self control 😂

  • Hopefully you end up having a good sex life

  • I call bullshit.

    • Why bullshit, please don't provide unnecessary opinions if you don't want to on a post!!

  • What do you think will happen?

    • Sorry I couldn't understand you.

    • What advice do you need?

    • I mean I asked if there is any helpful advice that could be provided

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  • Take it slow and try to stay relaxed and horny.

    • Okay thank you for the answer I will

    • You're welcome. I hope you two have a long, loving, and sexually healthy marriage.

    • Every guy is different but I prefer a full bush. I would recommend that you either do nothing or ask your fiancee first.

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