Should I stop giving him sex? How can I get back at him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is a bit younger than me and sometimes he acts really juvenile and it completely pisses me off.

I let a lot go because I can be silly and joke around too but this was just a step too far.

We had had sex in the morning and then he came over to my house. I cooked him a lovely meal and we were watching a film. I instigated and we started having sex. We were on the sofa and I was on top. At this point he says “BOUNCY BOUNCY BOUNCY” and starts laughing. At first I laughed in shock but then I got really annoyed and just got off and put my knickers back on. He was happy not to continue and just watch the film.

I felt like a TOTAL JOKE. And I am still reeling from it hours later.

He’s totally put me off sex with him. I shot him a look after and said that no one ever said that to me before (as if to say you are a complete joke). He ruined a lovely evening.

he's not as fit as me and I’d say a little overweight but he needs to be able to keep up and if he can’t then don’t insult me and make me not want to have sex with him.

Im actually super upset over this and would really appreciate some advice. I’m thinking of cancelling seeing him tomorrow.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Cut him off from sex till he apologizes and quits doing stuff like that

Was he trying to insult you by saying that?

[Asker]

He says it was just a stupid comment and he doesn’t know why he said it. He also tried to make excuses. It’s the wake up call I needed really. He made me feel like a joke and it will never happen again

[Gwenhwyfar]

Good

[Twalli]

Have you told him? Guys aren't mind readers. You get mad and expect us to know why. Then you get mad that we don't know why.

[Asker]

I said no one ever said that to me before and gave him a look to which he went bright red. So he knew

[Twalli]

So the look told him exactly what you felt and you know he understood it? I wouldn't be too sure. All you know is that he understood what you said. It may hp if you firmly and calmly explain how it made you feel. I don't trust looks as getting a guy to to understand because apparently girls give signals to guys that they like them and most guys are oblivious.

[7771999]

That's just fucked in the head, right there

[Asker]

I’m glad someone else thinks so too

[7771999]

I just cringe inside me thinking of that... I'd never want to see that person again

[Asker]

A massive part of me doesn’t tbh

[7771999]

You take your time to figure out what you feel about him. Maybe I'm overreacting a little. But I'd not feel like being intimate with someone like that.

[Asker]

I don’t want to even see him tbh. I still feel like crying. I dated a narcissist for a long time before this guy and even he never made me feel like this. Someone else said I’ve been to available so I’m backing off

[Asker]

I don’t need this shit in my life in my 30’s

[7771999]

You've been very unlucky. Too good for the immature and self centered morons

[Asker]

Thanks for understanding

[7771999]

Of course 🙏🏻 You need to draw a line

[Asker]

I had a call with him earlier. I had messaged him saying I need a break and I wouldn’t look at him the same way. It’s been six months so I was super upset. He calls me and says he only said it because he’s stupid and he’s sorry. He tried to blame being stressed but I wasn’t having any of that

[7771999]

Damn, he's trying. He's stressed? So why not release some of that stress during sex instead of ruining the chemistry? Dude is flipping mad

[Asker]

Exactly... that’s what I said to him I don’t get. I even said if you asked 1000 men if they had ever said anything even remotely close to that and they would say no. He just kept saying he was stupid and he was different to other men lol

[7771999]

He definitely is different 🤐💀 Hope he gets better 🤣

[Asker]

😂😂 thanks

[Asker]

I’m taking a break from him though so we’ll see

[7771999]

I wish you good luck 🙏🏻

[Anonymous]

let it go
he is joking lol

[Asker]

No the time tho is it

[Asker]

Is he going to joke at my grandmas funeral and embarsss me? I don’t need a man child

[Opinion Owner]

ok then break up cause im not dumb I know what you want

[Asker]

Lol 😂

[Opinion Owner]

you are laughing cause you know what im saying