Does the hook up culture bother you, if so why?

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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I’ve been retired from the game for almost a decade and a half, so I’m a little out of the loop... are people not doing relationships anymore or what? I used to kind of live that way in my early- and mid-20s, but maybe a little differently. I would see girls for a little while at a time, but there were no commitments made, we were free to do whatever, and a lot of them were just college seniors who would be out of town soon, so there was no sense in getting attached. I didn’t do a ton of one-nighters, but they definitely started like hook-ups, it was just a matter of how many return engagements there were, and whether it was for months or just weeks. I don’t know, it was more like a friends with benefits situation, I guess, they just changed fairly frequently, and we’d sort of... not go on “dates”, but like we’d go to parties together and leave together, that sort of thing.

Sounds like it’s a little different now, I’m guessing because of dating apps? So like... no disrespect to anyone, but... does everybody just have the herp now or what?😂 It was already scary enough ducking that when I was younger, sounds like we should be using body-condoms now lmfao.

TonyV · Accepted Answer

Only bothered me cause I wasn't cool or good looking enough to be a part of it.

Now I'm in a semi serious relationship so I'll probably never get the opportunity to have the no strings fun so many others had, I missed out on those experiences and that sucks.

chrissykerdock · Accepted Answer

i was older when i had my 1st online hook up... it's addicting you definitely get this adrenlaine flow... to meet a guy wearing a mini dress and heels then getting to give him a blowjob in my case is definitely exciting... even though i had a boyfriend at the time then you can't stop doing it... they were mostly good experiences... i had a few guys that i met scold me call me a slut whore yelled at me for wearing lipstick because they didn't want their wives to know but those were a few... a lot of the guys i met were really nice to be and thankful... making the experience good for me

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Only bothers me if i make it clear that im not into hookups yet the guy still only approaches me in hopes of a hookup

TurboKid · Answer

In a sense, yeah. I don't like the idea of raising kids in a culture that normalizes this so much among teenagers, for example. I tend to mind less if it's mature among very honest and consenting adults. But I hear a lot of young guys, even teenagers, deceiving girls and pretending to love them to get into their pants, for example, and then ditch them soon after. That seems highly unethical to me and I get bothered when unethical behavior becomes widespread.

Nimphfromtx · Answer

It doesn’t bother me a bit. Fuck boys are the way to go. They give you what you want and then leave

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Yes n no has benefits to each individual but it's got a lot of people so lonely.

NathanDavis · Answer

Absolutely not, not one bit.

I've never done hook ups myself, it's just not my thing, and I don't mind if others do it.

Whichever way they decide to live and enjoy their lives does not have to bother me, my well-being does not have to depend on what others do. It is not affecting me.

Adam1978 · Answer

Since I don't take part in it, it really doesn't bother me, but people that are, usually get messed up one way or the other.

Jjpayne · Answer

Simply because it's surface level and uncommitted. You are not investing in the other person but simply using them for pleasure

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

It is unbiblical, promiscuous and cheapens the meaning of both sex and love like some second-hand commodity people put out whenever and wherever, rather than a sacred gift from God and a bond between man and woman in marriage. It's a trashy and undignified way of life.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Bother me? No. People can live their life how they want. Not my thing though. I prefer to be in a relationship

BillHe1 · Answer

I wish there was a Hook Up culture when I was in HS and early 20's. I would have loved it, and maybe I wouldn't have still been a Virgin at 23 on my wedding night.

exitseven · Answer

I feel sad that people cannot make meaningful connections and everything revolves around mechanical sex. I read people's questions on this site and wonder how it all happened.

Jesus_is_the_guey · Answer

It bothered me when I was single because every woman I ran into was a hoe I stopped caring when I got into a relationship and even less when I was married but not that I’m having a daughter it’s worries me more than ever that she’ll be influenced by this whore culture for you sjw that applies to men and women

Shark_61695 · Answer

A little, I'm looking for something longer term and it means fewer options.

sammy1999 · Answer

nope i love the freedom

es20490446e · Answer

No. I simply don't deal with those people.

collie22 · Answer

i try not to notice

Wise4myage · Answer

No, its none of my business what other people do and I would do it.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

I don't view women who engage in that as relationship material.

jasco · Answer

To some extent yes. I could understand if older women did it but the younger ones are doing it instead of thinking about their future. A lot of women want to be rich yet don't want to put in the work or learn how to. So basically its just a waste of energy, time and money on the parents. Why would you sell your future just because you want sex. it's stupid and unhealhty