And I'm from India.. the eastern part of the world 🌎
Update:As mentioned above, the culture expects having sex for the divine reason of procreation and women are expected to be dignified. They perform the act as a duty for the same. They're afraid of revealing their desires as it may be considered a taboo and they may lose their honor. So the question of compatibility doesn't arise. And when you don't know the extent of pleasure one can have, what's there to compare with anyway?However, things have come a long way and people are even starting to reveal their sexual orientations, leave apart the virginity. But yes, there are still reservations especially in smaller towns and cities.
Thanks for the MHO
Thank you!What did you think of my opinion? :3
Thanks for the shout-out, @AmandaYVR.@Syrian_survivor I agree with everything you said. Our beliefs are exactly the same!
@Syrian_survivor Yeah, like I said, it's really not my area and I don't have strong opinions about this at all. I think you explained it well (but admittedly, you've added a bunch more and I just read the first part). That's really all I have to say. These are just different beliefs, different ways of living.I don't impose my beliefs just because they are different. It's all good 👍.
@AmandaYVR Yeah I do go off in several tangents when talking about deep stuff like that hahaThank youuu! ❤️
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What if a person doesn't wanna get married
I don't believe in harassing anyone because they're virgins. Sex mustn't be pressurized but recreational sex is actually good for you. You can do it with a friend..
Well, I disagree with your opinion. But to each their own.
Why would you not want to get married?
Marriage is a scam (and I'm a cynic)
Plus, I've apathy issues. I don't want to be burden anyone.. or have it the other way around
Aww. I'm sorry you feel that way.I'm a cynic, too. But I'm also a romantic. And my romantic side just happens to win out on this one. :)
I don't want to burden anyone, either. That's why I believe in equal financial contributions to the relationship.
I meant emotional baggage, genius.
@anon1903 Awww. But some people WANT to help you with your baggage! It's part of bonding as a couple! :). You share each other's joys and sorrows and deepest secrets and greatest hopes.
That's a part of my bad boy charm I suppose.Still, can't.
Ah. So you don't want to let down your walls because you don't want to be perceived as weak or soft, I guess?
I AM weak and soft... Badass with baggage. You guys say a lot of crap here, online. In reality, quite a different story.
@anon1903 Well, a lot of that is about "saving face.". It's widely known as an Asian concept, but it does apply to other cultures as well.But I will admit that I, too, am "weak and soft" in some ways.It's all about being humble and honest with each other. That's the first step to true intimacy.
Unsolicited advice, James
@anon1903 Sorry! 🤷
Finally someone with brains
Sexual compatibility is a problem in such cultures, but it can be solved in several ways, sadly not many people follow that, especially the older generation.When couples are engaged, they should be able to pick up any sexual tension and maybe talk about it every now and then in all honesty, the mental and emotional part are the most important, if there's compatibility there, then any physical incompatibility would be solvable at least since their minds are compatible, the love is there, and they want to make each other happy.If emotional compatibility isn't there and they get married recklessly, then yeah, that's a failed marriage at least from the sexual standpoint.And hey, since both partners are virgins, they wouldn't exactly know what the perfect physical sexual compatibility feels like, so they can't compare, ignorance is bliss here. Also they would be "forced" to create the best sexual compatibility with their virgin partner, and that's something really special and creates a unique bond.
Yes indeed they can't "compare" but it results into unhappy marriages. You'd be surprised how many case histories we, as psychology students, have on failed relationships. 45 percent are based on "unhappy sexual life". A person who clearly hasn't gotten laid may underestimate the value of good sexual life. I think that's what happens with them.
I think people rush into sex way too early before they've had any kind of communication about it before, many couples abruptly jump into sex like it's an obligation in every relationship, you can't do that, that's not how it works, and I'm not talking about virgins here, just in general, knowing if you're on the same page and if your partner isn't sexually selfish and won't just try to get their own satisfaction.Talk about it, sext maybe, see if you would actually enjoy every part of it before jumping into it, many people don't understand those ideas.People undoubtedly know when they're feeling good or not in bed, it doesn't really matter whether they compare or not, like I said, if the emotional compatibility is there, they had the talk, and they're kinda on the same libido page, they HAVE to get through and make their sexual lives at least decent.I mentioned the no-comparing thing because sometimes even that communication and emotional compatibility isn't enough. Maybe a guy has had a crazy slutty sexy hooker before and he was into that shit so much, of course he can't compare that to his loving commited wife, it just doesn't make sense, same thing if the girl has had a huge black guy or something before and she wasn't able to walk after, no comparison.And yeah, honestly the thing is, sexual things are considered kinda taboo here which is why not many couples discuss that kinda thing when they're engaged, but they completely overlook how important those things are.I don't care if it's taboo, when I get engaged I'm gonna have such conversations with my fiancé and i dont care if it makes her uncomfortable, this is a life-long commitement and I won't pretend I don't have a dick.
Oml this is so refreshing to hear!
Sexual incompatibility is big issue too. I wish there is a way to figure that out. Dating in western culture should help learning / finding incompatibility.
Woah dude. Did you just blow my mind?
Problem is you see Vagina as sex organs!..That's what your school taught!. It's a lot more than that!.. It's birth canal.. And the door to heaven and the way in and out for Life itself..
Okay you lost my admiration. But good for you.
How the fuck!Did I really read "Virgins" as "Vagina"? The last time I read this question!.. *Dies of shame**WTF is happening in my mind.**Imma gonna die*
Interesting. Tell me more.
Say if you have a cat and that cat dies.. you'll be reminded of it whenever, even if you get a new cat. Same with people and partners that maybe leave awayEmotional attachments maybe leave mental scarring when they break. In the case that some went s*dual without finding that meaningful partner or that "someone" they liked, maybe people think they're not the kind of people they want to associate themselves with.. (thishasreasonstoo)
Ah, makes a lot sense.
Or they haven't touched anyone because they've something.
They have something like what? What do u mean?
Something wrong with them, a mental disorder, deficiency, chronic illness threatening?
No they’re simply virgins cuz they choose to be or they are virgin for religious purposes
Don't speak for all.
I’m not speaking for I’m just telling u by experience
By the way... the 144 ,000 saved people going to Heaven are all men , and also vigin.
What the heck are you talking about?
I know right 🙄
I guess no ones read the Bible.
@Djaay If there were only 144,000 people going to Heaven, then it would have filled up a looooooooooong time ago.
anon 1903... Because of the (Blood Covenment) is the true answer.
There's more than that , although those are depicted as garrenteed to be there and the greatest example to follow.
Can you simplify your answer for the sake of understanding?
anon 1903. Sure. A virgin is not only a physical thing , but also virgin in spirit also. Losing your virginity physically or spiritually is what is called the ( Blood Covenant ) .
That's pretty deep. Thanks for explaining.
And if you put it that way, I guess it makes sense.
anon 1903. Genisis 15:9-21