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Should I move out or stay?

I have been living in a shared rent apartment for the last 2 years with six other people, two of whom i knew from before and the other four i met when i moved in to the apartment. There are four guys and three girls including me and we became close room mates and everything was fine until recently i caught one of the guys masturbating to my pics. I walked in to his room to ask a few things and he had probably forgotten to lock the door (which was strange because his room is normally locked) and i caught him masturbating and i would probably not known he was doing it to my my pics we clicked during the two years had the laptop not fallen from his lap to the ground and i seen it.

I had talked with my other room mates and though he can do whatever he wants to but seeing he did it to my pics i feel a awkward around him now. I am not even saying he is a bad guy or something and we have always been good friends. Should i move out of the apartment or do i stay and hope the awkwardness and all passes.
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  • Your concern is totally understandable and I am surprised at the maturity with which you've written this. Any girl at your place could be fuming about it and be highly frustrated

    With what you've written I believe you don't intend to any kind of relationship with the guy and neither your interested in him

    As you said you all became close room mates, such behaviour is totally unacceptable

    As such, my advice would be that you can move out if you find it uncomfortable

    Unless you're the girl who enjoy the sexy image and gets pride about the fact of guys fantasizing you sexually and nutting, you are very well reasonable to move out

    • Thank you for the opinion

    • You're welcome!

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  • It's a tough one. I guess neither him or you are comfortable with each other right now.
    It's very awkward for you and very embarrassing for him.

    I don't see any wrong in what he did, as you agree. Unless he either stole those pics from you, or took them without your consent.

    Try seeing it as a natural thing. Explain to him you're not mad, but you hope nothing changes between you two.

    • The pics were normal pics we took in parties we had in the apartment or sometimes when we went out on group outings or stuff like that

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  • Guys masturbate to everything. I still masturbate twice a day most everyday. Sometimes to friends who I’m attracted to, sometimes to porn.
    Whether or not you move is all about what you want to do. It likely is nothing and if you never moved nothing would happen. That being said I could understand fully if that’s too awkward to want to stay.

    • Yeah n a lot of things as well which u can ask privately in text but not here. Anyways thanks

  • Unless he is doing other things that are discomforting to you, let it go, and stay.

  • . let it go... you violated his privacy... now u feel uncomfortable... get over it the world doesn't revolve around ur comfort... if u can't learn and adapt ur never gonna get anywhere...

  • If you no longer feel comfortable, you should move out

  • There are three girls living there. Maybe that just happened to be your day.

  • I simply wouldn't live in a commune. No fukkin' way.

  • Honestly I don't think its worth worrying about unless he starts making advances on you and you aren't interested.


    If accidentally walked in on a girl doing that to my pics, it wouldn't bother me even if I wasn't interested in her, because it has no tangible impact on my life.


    Now if she started to sexually harass me, I would need to like her to tolerate that. And if I didn't like her, I would have the other roommates get her to stop, and if that didn't work, I would move.

    • Something else to think about, he is probably way more uncomfortable and embarrassed than you from this, after all you did just walk in on him masturbating and then start telling everyone..

  • I mean... I feel for the guy having to live with a girl he's clearly attracted to, but can't do anything about.

    I personally would stay because I dont care if people masturbate over public pictures of me, but this is more of how YOU feel about it.

    • Okay.. thank you for the opinion

  • Hmm, I dont think it should make you move out, I think the awkwardness will pass.

    • I hope so.. its a lot tbh

  • I'd say stick it out

  • You should feel honored that he chose your pictures. He must think you are very beautiful. How do you feel about him? I wouldn't move out because of this. I'm sure he was more in shock then you were

    • He is just a friend

    • Maybe you should take him on the side and discuss this with him

  • First, you should know that it's normal for a guy to masturbate to someone they are attracted to.
    Now, should you move or stay? Depends on you, how do you feel after all that? I can understand it might be a bit awkward, but give it a week or two. See how things work out, if you still feel awkward after that time passes to the point you can't focus on your studying or whatever you are doing, then id suggest you move out if you have another place to go to.

    • Its been almost 3 weeks now actually... and can u message as i would be more comfortabke talking there and if not its okay

  • Rule number one, if the door is closed, KNOCK and do not enter until invited in. Hey, at least you know he likes you…

  • Talk to him, tell him how you feel

    • Kinda have.. and also to my room mates

    • Did it help or hurt

    • It was a bit of both

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  • You should stay, it's flattering as long as he's harmless.
    If I caught a female roommate masturbating to me it would be a thrill.
    I love attention though.

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