I am 23 never masturbated and don't want to, is that weird?

I have a high want for sex (still a virgin). But I do not want, or feel the wanting for masturbation. Is not masturbating strange at my age. I never once even tried and I do not want to!
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my sex drive is not HIGH but I eventually want to experience when married! I mean I want sex when married only. I am catholic.
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  • I am not a doctor, or trained in any way. This is all just my unprofessional opinion:

    Well it's weird insofar as it not common. I don't quite understand having a desire for sex but not a desire for masturbation. Because, although the two are obviously very different experiences, the desire still is one of sexual pleasure and release. So, for me (and most people) it's difficult to imagine having a desire for sex, but not any whatsoever for masturbation.

    I can think of one easy explanation. Although, if Its an accurate explanation. It's surprising that you would post this question. But...

    If you happened to have internalized (very strongly) the idea that masturbation was wrong or dirty when you were very young. That would maybe explain it. Like that would totally explain it.

    Otherwise I would suggest that whatever you desire out of sex (the intimacy, the trust, the connection for example) is not related to physical sexual pleasure.

    Also, there are things like asexuality which I cannot even pretend to understand or know much about. While (based on the nothing I know about it) I don't think you're asexual. But maybe that might be an avenue that could help you find out something.

    I find this very interesting. I wonder if anyone

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  • I bet you can pitch a tent in no time? Haha-ha!!! No, that's not normal My shit would've pointed the way everywhere I went if I hadn't let the pressure off back in middle school &high school but that's awesome. Your brain develops a lot further and you will have greater psychic powers and psychic gifts, being more in tune with yourself and intuition if you haven't wasted your most sacred energy of all, your sexual energy. This is one reason world controllers push sex so much is because they can't control people who are fully in tune with their higher self. Tesla never yanked off or had sex and look at what he accomplished. You have some strong will power sir. Might wanna sleep with goggles on though because after 23 years of being primed up, if that thing goes off on accident you might put and eye out LMMFAO!!! Women act like they are the ones that have what is wanted more but don't let them fool you. They want that sexual energy, that life force. They don't lose theirs but they will sure take yours. We have that creative force, that creative seed. Without it they can't do nothing but bleed

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  • Nope, not weird, just perhaps the exception to the rule. As I understand it, the act itself usually starts spontaneously, and if it never really started or happened (iirc, it was an accident my first try, lol, then I discovered something about myself).

    Women especially are less inclined compared to the average man, just because of how instinct works- men are the ones that are supposed to be, uh... busy, since they can reproduce with any female, while a female has to carry to term and raise the baby and that was basically a woman's job in the past; to make babies and then raise them so they could have more farm hands to help. Also 'cause they died a lot.

    Back to the point, people have different levels/needs for arousal. I do it, and did it, a lot, but as I got older it got a lot less frequent and my need for companionship/intimacy grew more. There's nothing wrong with either bit. If anything, it means sex will both hurt the first time more (sometimes, unless you ride horses or do gymnastics...), and be a LOT more sensitive.

    It sounds like a nice way of bonding with a partner, though, so save that first time, and also don't be too worried about it it's not a big deal it takes like fifteen seconds to an hour depending on the mood

  • Hun it's completely fine if you dislike it or not comfortable with it but masturbation isn't anything to be ashamed of. Its not even just all sexual, it can help you learn your body, feel relieved, at ease , and feel good for a bit. It also can help you mentally but it's YOUR BODY and what you choose to do is all on you but it wouldn't hurt to try but you don't have to.

    • Just read this. Totally agree.

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  • If you cannot contain then find somebody you decide to be married to. It really is that simple. You're 24 years old you're more than old enough to get married in to find somebody. And no it's not weird at all I never done that, thank God. Because all you want to do is ruin yourself. Then when you want to have that kind of intimacy with someone else, you're not going to be satisfied with being with them. You'll survive but at the end of the day you got to learn self-control that's all that means. Learn to have better self-control. And it's not anybody else's personal business.

    • I can contain and I don't want anybody! I never said I can't contain, it was just a question if it was weird I have no interest.

    • You shouldn't worry if it is weird or not because it is nobody else's business except for the person you desire to share sexual intimacy with at some point which should be marriage. At the end of the day, many will find it weird or that your just asexual, no drive or secretly like the opposite sex which is all untrue. YOU are you. And it is healthier for you not to do so than if you did because now you won't be able to really contain and you're ruining your perception on sex and sexual touch. However, what I had said is based on sexual education they are not telling people. But what I am saying is that if you cannot, as the word of God says, you find a husband. Not pretend like you can and you really can't and then God forbid be in bed with a man who doesn't love or desire commitment.

    • I am catholic and waiting until marriage.

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  • No it's not weird at all all I can say is you're 10 times stronger than me because I know that feeling and it's even hotter to do it with someone

  • You are missing out on some great orgasms... but it is your body and your decision so only do what you are comfortable with

  • Don't masturbate. We already know the consequences of porn addiction and masturbation, that's why male virginity and maybe female virginity is on the rise. Save all that sexual energy for your future husband.

    • yep I am waiting until marriage!!!

  • I'm almost 22 and I'm the same as you. Due to life situations I have decided to not to. Is it possible you could be asexual? Or maybe you haven't gotten to that place where you might be curious?

    • I am waiting till marriage plus catholic, so I do not believe in sex before marriage or masturbation.

    • I'm Catholic but I don't share those strong beliefs

    • @midnightcavern01 well I do, thanks. As I know both are sins (taught that in church).

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  • Nope. You do you and if you don't feel comfortable about it, then well let it be
    I don't like to masturbate either

  • Nope, not weird at all.

  • I've still yet to masturbate myself

  • There is nothing weird about not masturbating, and not wanting to. That's quite normal.

  • Why? Do you believe it's "wrong" (some people do)? But everyone is different. To each their own. It's not only feels good, but you can "learn" about your body and what you like also, so masturbation has it's benefits.

  • i didn't feel the need either. i wish i hadn't at 15, but then it got regular and i became an addict

  • Nothing wrong with that.

  • Some people just don't like/want to masturbate, and that's fine. It might not be super common, but I don't think it's weird or anything

  • It’s fine

  • It’s alright. It’s your choice.

  • Is not weird at all. I lost my virginity when I was 15 but only started masturbating at 17.

  • If it makes you happy and you're content about it, then It's not weird at all.

    • okay thanks!

    • =) don't feel insecure about it! Thanks for the upvote

    • thanks anytime

  • You are ok, just not try, because you can get addicated.

    • addicted

  • Are you feeling OK? You're not sick? oooops I'll say no more.

    • I am fine, I went through a sexual assault, (that didn't enter vaginally) so I have bad PTSD and I do not want to be touched. Plus Catholic, so no masturbation.

    • I'm Catholic also, and it doesn't bother me a bit... I love masturbation and do it quite often.

  • I don't find it weird or strange that your age 23 and never masturbated
    I believe you should do whatever makes you comfortable :)

    • thank you!

    • @laciandmaci You're welcome xD

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