Do you think he should keep it to himself or ask him?

My friends 36 year old son finds my other friends 17 year old son attractive. They are both gay and age of consent is 16 in my country. Do you think he should ask him if he wants to have sex with him or just keep it to himself?
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  • It's adult on adult. It's legal. It's pure sex. So the answer is yes, he CAN ask. Should he? I guess that would depend on how vulnerable the 17-year-old is. If your 17-year-old daughter was approached by a 36-year-old man ad he wanted sex with her and was bold enough to ask outright, do you think your daughter should say yes?

    • Thanks for the MHO!

  • It can't hurt.

    • What do you mean

    • The age difference is large, but the worst that asking can do is get a rejection which cam happen in heterosexual attraction too.

    • I agree

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  • Oof that is quite a big age gap and even if legal age there is 16 i still get squicky vibes from it. That being said, that's my own bias poking through into my answer.

    If they are both consenting adults and they are both into it then sure. Some people are into the older guy thing. Only thing I can say for sure is the same I say for anyone else, practice safe sex. 😊

    • What if it was your child

    • Age of consent is 17 here, but I think it would be exactly the same if it were my son or daughter. Growing up, with my mom being a nurse, sex was brought down to more of a medical/science conversation rather than one of morality. I don't have to like the decisions they make once they become adults and I would give anything to protect them from harm, it's just, if I hover over them and not let them experience life on their own then I am doing just as much harm. I would hope the lessons I have spent their entire lives teaching them have been learned and they make decisions that make them happy and safe.

  • Can he? Yes

    But I think in current phycology it's considered "deviant" or "unhealthy" to be attracted to anyone outside of your age group (5 years plus or minus)

    So by society standards? No.. he shouldn't...

    But when have I ever listened to standards... Just be happy I guess

  • In my opinion I I think the matter should be approached with caution due to age, but if the feelings over ride with everything then it's really hard to say. Very good question, definitely a complicated situation.

  • Are you saying the legal age in your country to have sex or engage in sexual activity is minimum 16 years of age?

    In most countries it is 18 years

    • Yes it is

    • Well if 16 years is the legal age then they can have sex but still it should be consensual.

    • So you think he should ask or keep it to himself

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  • If he's of legal age and would enjoy an older partner, it's his decision to take.

  • If the other person who is a teenager is at the age of the consent and both people consent to sex I think he should ask him since it is his choice.

  • too much age difference.

  • If he's okay with a no, then sure ask. If he's gonna make it weird, keep it to himself.

  • If it's the age of consent then that would be fine

  • That 17 -18 year old age is tricky as though it maybe legal is it ethical or moral? It honestly comes down to maturity level.

  • I think it would be very inappropriate not illegal but definitely immoral

    • I agree

  • That is a nasty age difference... but I don’t know... I guys it would be just like an old guy asking an old girl to have sex with him... if he wants then yeah go for it...

  • He needs to leave that boy alone.

    • Why?

    • Because he's just a boy.

  • He is of legal age so if they want to have sex nobody can say anything even though some people might be against it

  • Keep it to himself, the age gap is too great,

    • That's strange considering it's OK according to you if a 50 year old woman to do it

  • Great ! Another Pedophile !

    • That's impossible if it's legal

    • Maybe... but it’s pretty fucked up..

    • It's worse if they are younger like early teens

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  • that is Not your decision... lol

    • So answer the question?

    • it's up to him, I have no opinion on what others "Should" do, I say "follow your heart" whatever that is...

  • I can't promote homosexual behaviour but he will do it if he wants to.

  • What country is this in?

    • England

    • Since I’m from the USA my response is going to be different. In my home state consent can be given at 16 but if you’re significantly older than it’s not ok

    • But this is not in your home state, so that doesn't apply to this question

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  • sounds like its legal so go for it

    • You think he should ask

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