so what if it's your best friend who formerly liked you several years ago?
Hmm...If she liked me and I didn't really like her back, then I *probably* (I really don't know for sure) would think it isn't sexual
hmm OK that helps. boys boys boys.. haha
oh, we used to like each other... it was kind of an intense event then. This is actually a really old question!
@Megalizmo21 All depends on who is winning! lol
@AndrewMG haha... well that's when, if a guy if winning, a girl can use some tactics to her advantage 😉
@Megalizmo21 Haha I guess it's best you take those tactics to yourself! lol
hmm what if you're mad at him and you're just trying to take out all of your anger haha. like, you used to like him and then you stopped... but you had to get that one bit of anger out... haha
Well for the thought to cross your mind suggests that it was sexual! Sexual violence!
yeah. idk. hahaha. that's hilarious. I'm even really sure if I know what that was! I think he felt the same way too though? I have no idea what he was thinking! I'm even sure if I knew what I was thinking. I think we were just playing like little kids. I was wayy too scared to hurt him, but he was definitely not gentle with me haha. it was totally on accident though. he apologized and felt bad for weeks when he saw my battlewounds.
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hmm okay. thanks for that! that's cool that your friend did that!
hahaha yeah. Oh well. I didn't notice anything! I don't really remember though
huh. okay, that's good. my best friend and I have quite the history. he liked me, I dumped him. I liked him, he dumped me. oddly enough, we've never kissed, but we have talked about how great it would be. we wrestled several months ago and I came home with a few battle wounds. he felt reallllly bad. I wasn't sure what he was thinking, but he was SO not gentle. I wasn't sure if it was like, a sexual tension thing or just for fun? he said he'd give me a massage to make up for all my bruises.
why were you wrestling all angrily?
haha idk, I think I was frustrated that he always said I could never beat him up ha ha so I wanted to attempt to prove it... but don't worry, as we were wrestling I realized I could never hurt him. I ended up losing so badly! and I had a bruise for WEEKS. I don't know if he was trying to be all angry or not... I think he just treated me like any other guy friend he wrestles with. I have no idea what was going through his mind.
so you're trying to figure out if he likes you or not?
I'm pretty sure he already doesnt. last summer we sort of dated for several weeks and I think he liked me for some of them... and at the end he was like yeah, I just wanted you and I wasn't as attracted to you as I thought etc. and then 6 months later we have this crazy wrestling thing... I don't know if he was being playful or if he actually liked me. his whole spiel about not really ever liking me didn't seem very true... it seemed like he was hiding something, making up an excuse
interesting. and what if he does like you?
I would think it's sad that he keeps putting off dating me... but I kind of get it? idk. he has so much going on in his life and he's hardly dated. he told me I'm more marriage material and not dating material. idk. I think we'd have so much fun together. I don't want to like him because I'm so upset about last summer, but I guess I kind of do... as much as I don't want to
dam, sounds like a forbidden love kind of thing, on an inconvenient love.
haha I'm not sure if I get that... what does that mean?
forbidden would be like its not allowed. and inconvenient would mean its not practical or beneficial for you, him or both.
haha I feel like it might be both! soo... does that mean I should just move on since he's deemed it inconvenient? isn't that a sign he doesn't like me that much? for either of those?
doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you. just that he doesn't see it as a smart thing to do, go out with you I mean.
hmmm... that's dumb! haha. jk, but it's probably a good idea. he's never really dated anyone before. I don't think he wants me to be his first serious girlfriend. do you think he'll ever come around?
hahaha oh.. so maybe I should take that as a probably not...
well if you really like him this much, you should talk to him. he does like you back it seems. so talking to him shouldn't be too awkward haha
haha yeah, well he and I usually talk about everything. idk, it's weird, when I am with him it seems like he likes me... but when I'm away he doesn't really stay in contact or make an effort to talk to me at all. he's like that with the other girls he likes too though. so idk. even if I wanted to date him... it just seems so scary! haha. as much as it's forbidden territory for him, it's also scary for me because it's my best friend. gah, I'm just too indecisive.
the only cure for indecisiveness is spontaneousness. just ask him out out of nowhere. and the reason he doesn't stay in contact much afterward is probably that he doesn't want to try to talk to someone he likes if he's not gonna date them. its a defense mechanism.
wow. that makes a lot of sense haha. aw that's so sad! great. OK, we'll see what happens. that explains why he's been so strange. over the summer, it really seemed like he liked me... and then at the end he said he just "wanted me" all along... which he never seemed like that kind of guy. then over Christmas break he was SO defensive and rude to me. he was the one who hurt me and he was still acting that way? it just seemed weird. idk, maybe he's moved on by now. guess we'll find out.
you will if you talk to him, won't know for sure till you do.
wait, what do I say? hey I like you still?
yup, straight up.
whhaatt. can't there be another way? I guess that can't be that hard. asking is better than being like hey I like you. but what if he doesnt? awkward... what if he says no because he doesn't know what I think?
what if I say, are you sure you don't like me? haha
that's coo too.
even if it was all 10 months ago that things didn't work out, can I ask him what it was about me that he didn't like? I think he said personality/looks.. but that just doesn't make sense to me. he said I'm his best friend AND he wants me... he's just not being logical... so maybe there's something else? can I ask? or is it too late/awkward?
you should ask him about everything. even if its awkward, its for the best, you'll just have to endure it.
reallllyy? what about the statement "some things are better left unsaid?"
i don't personally believe in it. but in the end, its all up to you.
yeah, I guess I don't either, I just sometimes wish I did afterward haha. we'll see though! I'll keep you updated. he isn't home yet and I'm sure this isn't going to be the first conversation we have.
alright, sounds good. I would day good luck but I don't believe in luck, but you know.
haha OK. thank you!
so apparently he's not coming home this summer... :(
sucks, why is that?
not really sure. over Christmas he said something about how it doesn't feel like home anymore. I think he might be avoiding home while he looks for better opportunities elsewhere.
hmm, maybe yeah.
sad day though. maybe I should just send him a message on fb? lol
contact him anyway you want, just talk to him and clear everything up.
alright fb it is if he really isn't coming back
oh haha. yeah no. I would never want to do that! that's so mean!
hey if its by accident it still will have the same effect :p
haha I'll think about it?
hmmm I like that. I guess I just want to know what meaning he was putting into it
hahaha oh. how about, definitely sexual tension, but neither are interested in dating... haha.
so it's a yes then!
haha, do you think he thought that? or do you think he just thought we were playing around? I mean, he's like me, I've dumped him and I've liked him and he's dumped me, but we've never kissed! we're just ridiculous haha.
well it sounds like it wasn't purely an asexual act...don't get me wrong I'm not saying it wasn't an innocent game, but I imagine that there was some feelings behind it/
do you think he was just using me?
noo, probably just a bit of fun...harmless flirting etc.
so that doesn't mean he wants me? or that he likes me?
I don't know...possibly. I can't really say from here!
hahaha well he's said both things to me before, so I don't know which one is more true!
On whether or not the two people like each other?
Well if at least one person perceives it as sexual, really.
haha hm. Well. We used to like each other. Oh well.
Then it could be! But only if sexual attraction is on the table.
I think at that point it was? Like I said, this question is like 4 years old I think! He and I have really toned it down esp since he doesn't live in the same city anymore.
haha ah, gotcha.
And how strong your your lower legs and other sex muscles are for pinning her legs over your shoulders and rocking her world LOL
ohhh wow... haha
Well it definitely was then... I think. He and I both had feelings for each other, but I don't know about now. It's a strange friendship. haha. This question is probably 4 years old! However, the problems with him and I are still somewhat current.
Well, he and I used to like each other. There has always been a lot of sexual tension between us. I don't know if there is anymore? I think this question might be like 4 years old! ha!