Is bad sex enough to end a relationship?

Is bad sex enough to end a relationship?
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  • Good sex must be taught and learned by both parties of the relationship.

    Typically, I lean towards guys to start these conversations because young women's sexuality is often in minor or major ways crippled due to upbringing: the side effects of slut shaming, constant unrealistic beauty standards, a 'shut your legs', and that skirt is too short, mentality.

    These influences don't prepare girls for exploring sexuality: assuming open legs, how should I touch myself? What does feel good? How do I explain that to a partner?

    I think regardless of who takes the first step, the person asking the questions also has to be in the mindset to 'learn something new.' A lot of people go into sex referencing either porn, a previous partner, or both. What someone else likes is NOT 100% what your current partner likes. Not everyone likes 'circles' and doing 'faster or slower' circles isn't really expanding your concept of sex.

    So to your original concept, is bad sex grounds to end something, probably not. If you like someone enough, you'll teach them to be the best partner for you.

    • Very well said 👌

Most Helpful Guys

  • ABSOLUTELY! If you have small tits, extenuate them or other hot parts about you. If he has a little dick, change positions. If you are ugly give good head or fuck face down, ass up. But bad sex isn't acceptable that means that person is lazy or just not into you. With me personally, when I sleep with a girl I aim to please. Watch pleasure cues and communicate during. Don't rush. Even if you have to hurry, don't rush to get it done. If you start together needing a nut, then when done you should both be happy and one (or more) orgasms/ejacs up the shared pleasure board. It's not a contest who can get more than the other lol. If you like him, tell him what's up. Teach him wth you like. He can't just assume. If he nuts too quick, have him either eat first or at least "warm you up" first. Fuckin foreplay? Guys love to see a girl get off. Get a small bullet s vibrating cock ring. Slow his ass down a bit and make him harder. But if its shit sex but you like him then either help him help you. Just get your nut first until he learns how to give it to you. Not too many hopped out of the womb being a sexually amazing other than me and a few others maybe so cut him some slack and remember its not a solo sport. You do have to be fuckin proactive occasionally. If it still sucks question yourself too. What are you NOT doing. Just being horny and willing and maybe even attractive doesn't make you exempt from putting in work lol.
    Good luck. Good fuck

  • Yes, it is very much a great reason to end that shit. Sure there’s nothing wrong with working trying to get it to where both can be please with the level it’s, some people just don’t wanna spend that time, but it is very critical. Bout on the same importance of kids, morals and politics. Your only cheating yourself and the other person by continuing with something displeasing to you. That’s what’s known as fake. The bigger question is how long can you continue with a relationship knowing the physical needs are not going to be enough? Do you fake it acting like you enjoy it for the other parties sake/pity?


    It’s funny because often the woman’s perception on man is, "is that all you want? Is it really that important to you? It’s not for me,” she says…… But then why get all panty bunched if he gets with another woman? You know, I love me some dripping tender filet mignon, so just because I might want a burger sometimes don’t mean I want to switch up my go too. I mean can anyone honestly say you could eat the same meal day after day after day, there only so many ways you can eat the three courses before…. well. Sure you can fingere out the rest…

    • I hear you, I can see why you think that. I agree with the women. Can anyone honestly say they don't need a big pizza and a box of chocolate muffins for lunch?

Most Helpful Girl

  • I mean... in the beginning, sex is usually a bit awkward and not great because you're still learning each other's preferences, turn-ons, turn-offs, etc. I think sex can get better over time, the more comfortable you get with each other.

    But if sex REMAINS bad, that would be tough. Luckily, my boyfriend and I have a great sex life, and I know that's important to both of us and part of how we express our affection for each other.

    I think BAD sex would make people not want to have sex, and I think sexless relationships can definitely cause relationships to end.

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  • It's all about experience. Life is all about improvement and you can improve your sexual performance to make your partner happy and vice versa.

  • Not initially.
    But it's what KIND of bad sex... And, if it never improves and no one wants to address the issue... It sounds hopeless.
    If it's premature ejaculation, that's usually the easiest issue to solve. It's most often a young man's problem. Experience, relaxation...
    Can't get it going. More serious. Physical health? Not actually turned on by you? But likes you as a friendd? That is a sex killer... Can't be solved.
    Not interested. The most serious. This is usually something on the female side of things. There is some kind of mental block about once the ring's on the finger, there's no more sex. They're roped you in, now the hard work is over!
    If someone's got this attitude, again, no solution is forthcoming. Time to exit, stage right.
    Those are ordinary scenarios. and common ones. Some are worth working on, others, there's no work on earth that will help.

  • I don't think so, mostly because bad sex can be fixed in a relationship so long as other things are going at least decently well

  • Teach them.. if they still suck after a month or three of teaching them how to please you, then you have the right to move on. I personally probably wouldn't and i’d prob keep teaching for a year

  • I figured you would have found that out before you entered into a relationship. The problem is, too many people jump into a relationship for sex and then wind up disappointed. Some people just don't have any patience and don't seem to get it that practice makes perfect. If you can't communicate with the other your needs, wants, and techniques then you will be toast in any relationship.

    • Correct👌

    • Maybe I didn't have sex with my partner before entering into a relationship with them, not everybody does it in that order. And we have been together for a long time.. it is not simply due to lack of communication. I have tried.

    • Well if you feel you didn't do anything wrong then perhaps it has nothing to do with you. Men are notorious for not communicating very well, and sometimes they hold back because they don't feel at ease discussing relational things. Sometimes it just turns out you are with the wrong guy. If the other doesn't want to discuss things that need discussing then you will either have to get counseling together, grin and bear it, o call it quits, or at least take a time out with a trial separation.

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  • It often can. Sometimes it can survive tho.

  • I have ended many after too many bad times in the sheets.. especially if he suffers from Little Man Syndrome.. too many do.

  • I want to say no because like all things in life with practice comes excellence.

  • Honestly no. If both parties are willing to communicate and try new things then I think it could lead to better sex and a stronger relationship. Trying toys, new positions, kinks, and possibly bringing others in to your fun can be ways to spice things up. But don't be afraid to experiment and just take your time and have fun with each other.

  • Well there's bad sex. And then they're selfish sex, only thinking about oneself and if that's the case I say yes. At least with bad sex it might be because they don't know what they're doing , so that can be taught but selfish sex is just selfish sex.

  • If it was bad sex there would never be a relationship to begin with.

  • Yup, do not commit to someone who is not sexually compatible with you.

    • Huh 😳

    • @robinB That is toxic, and not a form of self care. God wants us to find a soulmate who is compatible with us in every way.

  • No, sex can always improve.
    Lack of willing to get better at sex? Maybe.

  • Bad sex happens because the guy/girl cares more about themself than you. S/he doesn't care enough to watch for what you like, explore until you're enjoying it, ask for help, or do some research. If s/he doesn't care enough about you during sex... pretty sure that it carries into the rest of the relationship.

    • You're right

  • Great sex ended a relationship once. She told me it was great sex anyway, it just wasn't with me!

  • No but I do think that people should work at it. I think that people who have bad sex and break up, though, are probably breaking up because there are other bad things in the relationship.

    • The thing that seems to break most married couples up is money problems, like from buying a new house. We had a young newly married couple move onto our street. They bough new cars as well as the house and did some remod work on it. But 6 months later they were getting a divorce and selling the house. You have to have your finances in order or it's not going to work out.

    • @JuliaStyles Stress and how people deal with it or not is what causes the most break-ups. Money causes the most stress followed by unfounded jealousy followed by justified jealousy and then there are those men who are abusive and don't belong in a relationship. Lots of reasons but I agree money is one of the biggest stressors. Young couples often dive head first into spendthrift lifestyle without thinking too far ahead then it all snowballs. That happened to my parents and it almost broke them up. Dad had a good job but then it stagnated and inflation went insane and they kept making babies. Not a good combination.

    • What's funny is the illegal immigrants that keep having babies that they can't take care of so they dump them in the US.

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  • Yeaah sure

  • Yes, I even know conservative married couples are unhappy and their bad sex-life contributed to that happiness tremendously.

    • contributed to that unhappiness*

  • On the long run, it can indeed impact a relationship. Or at the very least, lead to cheating.

  • Yes. But the good news is it’s easy to improve. Sexual compatibility is important. If your not sexually compatible you have to always be sexually open.

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